Why are we so angry ?

Folks. Why are we so short temper or easily gets hurt by another person's word or action.  I have read this phrase over and over again and yet at times,  I can scrumble to anger.  My friend, Lindy always tell me that I have read widely on self management books but I am still unable to practice the wisdom profess in these books.  Yes, I agree with her statement but to be able to have self control and not to re-act to external triggers needs a deep understanding our self  and the discipline of our mind.  But, I wanna tell her that I am working on it althought the progress is slow.

There is a good advise which I came across and I wish to share it with all of you :" To be angry is to hurt yourself over other people's imperfections".  Sometimes, these people want to irritate you and yet you fall for them and get irritate as expected.  The more angry you are, the happier will be that person as he or she have attained her objectives.  Frankly, why do we need to re-act to these external triggers when we can control our response from within.  The choice is ours.  To be angry or not. We don't have to dance to another person's music if we don't like it.  However, it is very easy to say then done.  We have to discipline our mind and let things go by while watching  instead of responding to it.

Ajahn Brahm in one of dharma session explain how to handle anger. It is like putting your fingers on the candle light fire, you get burn. If we get hurt and burn, then why do we do it . Why do we need to be angry ? In the law of karma, if a person do something bad to another person, they are only accumulating bad karma and one day, these bad karma will punish these bastards anyway. Yes, this is the correct response to such person. Get them out of your mind and move on with your life.

If certain events or actions is not within our control then leave it alone. There is no need to find fix for it. Learn how to accept imperfections and live peacefully within it. Sometimes, our re-action arises from our ego and we have to learn how handle our ego and let it go.
If you get hurt, then make it the shortest hurt you ever experience. Don't let it linger in your mind as the longer, it stays in your mind, the longer will be the hurting feeling inside you. If you understand this point, you have to exercise that choice to get the trigger out of your mind as soon as possible.  After that, you will feel relax and relieved.  Train your mind to expunnge the niggering thoughts  but don't force your mind.  Relax , let the events roll and not re-acting to it.

One pychologist said that how we re-act to a certain trigger depends on the vocabulary in our brain. If we know more good and positive words then negative words, it is more likely that we will response positively. In the book " the secret" , if we mix with happy people , we will be happy but if we live among miserable people, we will miserable.  This is very natural as we are influenced  by our surroundings, our  peers and our family members. To learn more about the mind, you have to know, mix , explore and learn from people of similar interest. By so doing, your wisdom and thoughts will deepen faster and you will achieve your realization sooner.

Wishing you a pleasant journey into your mind and understand where the anger is coming from and exterminate the source.

Namaste.