Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Too many cooks spoilted the soup

This is an English phrase that means if there are too many people deciding how the soup is to be cooked, the soup will end up as too salty, too sweet, too bitter or too smelly making the soup uneditable.  A nice soup will become poison and will eventually kill everyone or create a big mess.

If there are too many captains on a ship, the ship will be changing directions at every moment and will eventually sink , carrying everyone down with it.

I have seen many instances that there are people who do not care about their position and want to be a decision maker even though , he or she knows nothing about the pending problem.  Just a word or just a small action could change the result of a process. A little bit of salt or sugar by each other or some one, could make the soup too salty or too sweet.

This is the behaviour of some human beings who just want to contribute for the simple purpose of wanting to make some decision. Some people are just restless and just want to show that they want to do something or have their own opinion of things.

In anything we do or cook, people would have different taste and liking.  We cannot satisfy all the needs and requirements of all the people in our life.  There are many decisions in life which require our own decision and if we keep asking  for opinions, we will become confused and go mad.

Life is like that  " one man's meat is another man's poison" . there can never be one soluton for all problems like the roads leading to a destination. There are many options. Some is longer and some is shorter , some is bumpy and some is smooth. But once , we make the decision, we will need to bear the consequences. A decision comes with responsibility.

Namaste.

Monday, September 22, 2014

Feeling upset - apple polishing

This is one of my down time today having to wake up at 5 am to sent my daughter M to airport for her trip to Taiwan. It is actually nothing tired about it but it could be the interruption in my sleep that makes me a bit " blur" today. 

In my work , I have seen a lot of people gaining recognition by " apple polishing " but I do not like the sight of it.  People tell me that I am also doing some " apple polishing" sometimes.  Yes, I agree but I don't do it all the time. If such activity is overdone or too much , it makes me feel sick. 

Sometimes, I am guilty of not taking actions to ratify the situation but just by remaining silent over the matter.  My conscious heart feel a bit of ugliness and bare feeling. I cannot be rude to tell the person off and I know it is very sensitive matter  and it could hurt everyone in the process. If there is a crack on the mirror , it will never be the same again. Furthermore, who is me to judge them or tell them off.

I have to change to accept this kind of acting even though, the "apple polishing " is hurting someone.  I know it is wrong and I have experience it before. To be frank, it is really a sensitive matter and it should be handled with extreme care.

There is a saying " problems relating to the passion of the heart " is the most difficult thing  to handle in the world or in our life.  The outcome is not predictable and it could turn and hurt us instead.

This is one of the reason that I am down as the pretentious acting have gone beyond the line and it becomes disgusting when it occurs infront of so many people.

May GOD give them a solution and bring them back to the right path  or is this the right or wrong path which  needs no solution ?  There is no such thing as right or wrong in this world  as it depends on our wisdom and preception of things that have happened.

Namaste.

Saturday, September 20, 2014

That's what friends are for...

That 'a what friends are for....

I heard this song a few times for the past few days and it has climb to top 10 of American top 40 hits. It was a favorite song many years ago, a duet from Diana Warwick and friends. It was a catchy tune and with very good lyrics.

It brings back memories as I enjoyed the son afresh. The lyrics tells us to keep shining , keep smiling and that is what friends are for. Knowing that we can count on each other in happy days or sad days. In sunshine or in raining days. Yes. If we have strong foundation in our friendship.  That is what happens.

However, for.a lot of friendship , there is always a need to bind them together. It can be greed, money , sex ,etc. there is a mutual need of using each other for a better life and benefits. . It it is a win win situation, the relationship will last longer. But if it benefits only one at the expense of another, then the relationship will collapse.

There is a  very rare case of a pure relationship. A total sacrifice or a expect nothing relationship. A friendship that can last a life time. Even Romeo and Juliet come together in a relationship out of love. In this case , it is possession of each other. There is a need for love.

I would like to advise that if we cannot help a person or persons , please don't hurt them. This wise saying from the holy Dalai Lama is very true. So, don't be.a great pretender.

  Lyrics of the song:

And I never thought I'd feel this way
And as far as I'm concerned
I'm glad I got the chance to say
That I do believe, I love you

And if I should ever go away
Well, then close your eyes and try
To feel the way we do today
And then if you can remember

Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for

Well, you came in loving me
And now there's so much more I see
And so by the way
I thank you

Oh and then for the times when we're apart
Well, then close your eyes and know
The words are coming from my heart
And then if you can remember

Keep smiling and keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
In good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for

Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for

Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
'Cause I tell you, that's what friends are for
Whoa, good times and the bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for

Namaste.

Friday, September 19, 2014

Christmas future ?.

I was told by my colleague that the funeral of my ex- colleague was only attended by 3 to 4 people and it was a lonely , lonely procession.  At this time, it will show whether  the deceased is well like or not during his life time.  I was told that some of the colleague don't even want to see his face for the last time. I wounder why ? But, to the deceased does it matter ? It is a very private matter.

I saw the flim about Christmas spirit which showed the christmas  past , Christmas present and Christmas future. It was about a miser , a thrifty and stingy man who ill treated a lot of people during his life time and on christmas day , he dream about his christmas past , present and future.  When he woke up, he became a changed man and tried to repair his image by trying to be good to the people around him so that he can change his christmas future.

I seen a lot of people who try to do charity after their retirement to improve their karma and they believe that it will eliminate their sins.  I think they are not wrong , it will definitely improve their future but whether it can eradicate their sins of the past, it needs to be seen.

It is very strange that we believe we can be nasty in our early or prime years and we can repent during our twilight years.  I believe , this oncept is writen in the bible and many other holy books that if we accept GOD or a certain Saint , then all your sins will be forgiven. If we murder people and accepting GOD and repent , does it remove the bad karma ? Sure , it is a bit disturbing with this philosophy.

I believe everybody is born good and during the journey through life, we are lost and become nasty to people.  Well, I think we have to pay for the sins or the bad karma in its own way but not by accepting certain thing, our sins or bad karma is gone. Anyway, it sounds too easy.

Lets be good from Day 1 until the end of our life. But , this imperfection is not easy to attain and we can only minimize such demerits.

Namaste.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

The good, bad and the ugly.

The living

Everything have an end and some shorter and some longer. However   bright and clever or However rich, he will need to pass on.

Life is a joke and we struggle so hard for an easier life and yet, we cannot have it with us forever. Be it frame, money, belongings , family or love. When we die, we have to let go of everything. Yes, we come with nothing and we go with nothing. Life is a foolish game.

Even though , we know life is a foolish game but we want to play it and winning  the game even for a brief period of time. The ego is too big and the greed is too strong. Even if it is for a brief moment. This is creditably stupid.

No matter how much we have , we only own it for a  brief moment and we still convince ourself that it is still  worth it.. It is as if that once we are in the game , we are in auto pilot mode and we lose ourself in the game. It becomes a survival game and we have play it with our eyes open. We are aware if iur actions and our behavior. We are conscious yet we become illogical and disregard our awareness. The point is to enhance ourself in wealth , power and frame. All these are fleeting things.

Sometimes, our senses return to us and for a moment we are aware. But these glimpse of enlightenment is brief and the power of the game is very strong and we are back in the game in no time.

To break away from the main stream is very difficult and going back to the basics in life is boring. Even grand masters also die like many others before us. Everybody have the same end , so what is the difference?

The good, bad and  the ugly , all die the same way.

Namaste.

The Peak

The Peak

I am now at the Peak Apartment . This block of apartments have been advertised by Ivory for a long time. It is located at the hill next to the " White cloud cementery" near Mount Eskime.

The place is now well developed and before it was a waste land. The Peak have been completed recently and now , the ivory group is promoting the lattitude apartments on the same hill next to the Peak.

Before the Peak, the place was dark and scary and the place is jam pack during the Chinese "all souls day".

Now it is okay and it looks clean and airy as people starts to move in. But only a few shops are open for business. It will take some time for the place to be warm and friendly for business. Frankly speaking , only the locals are aware of this place.

Well, if you want to consider for investment , anything on the island will be expensive in the near future.

Namaste.

It never mend to be.

It never mend to be.

This morning I was supposed to attend the funeral of my former colleague. He was one of the top executive during his hay days in my company. He retired at 65 about 15 years ago and continued to stay in Penang despite his family is living in Singapore.

I had a reunion dinner with him and some former old boys from our company last year and at that time he was weak but he could talk quite loudly. His kidney have failed him at that time and was on treatment.

I gave my self one hour to reach his house to attend his funeral. As I reach there I could see the road names , counting from road one onwards. As I drove on , I could see road 11 , 12 and suddenly jump to 15 and 16. The road I   searching for was road 13. I kept looking and driving round the area and I found road 13 but it was only a short road and there was no house 19 and end at 11A. I stopped and asked two workers working in the area and they just point towards the road 15. I drove around and it was like.a maze and finally I stopped to phone some colleagues. Two did not answer my phone and two of them don't know the direction. I continued to search and in my heart . I continued to tell my deceased colleague that I have tried my best and if it is destined that I could not attend his funeral , don't blame me because I have tired my best.

Finally, one of my colleague who had not answered my phone call him back and by that time, the funeral procession have started . I have to give up and I gave a silent prayer for my ex-colleague to rest in peace.

It has mend to be this way.

Namaste.