Wednesday, December 17, 2014

A difficult life

A difficult life

How life can mould you into what you are? Our early educations, our parents love and care, the relationship between brother and sisters and the daily interactions between the people around us are layers and layers of events that mould us what we are today.

If we are surrounded by love and a good life understanding we can be a loving and caring person.
If our family is surrounded with argument and conflicts , we will be harden and become aggressive and defensive.

When we mixed with others , we can be trusting and have good relationship with others. On the other hand we can be defensive and not trusting others.

Each profile has a place in an organization. Those in the first category  have good  team work in operations and management while the second category is in specialist jobs where they can be aggressive and stubborn in their persuance of excellence.

Everyone have a specific task and if this is arranged well , we can have a great team.

Namastean

Monday, December 15, 2014

Emotions - my internal enemy

Emotions - our internal demon.

Emotions are internal feelings and most of the time, they control how we feel and re-act to a decision , comments and action. In simple words, we are the slave to our emotions.

If we are weak, sick or troubled by daily chorus and problems, our emotions gets strong because we lost the control over our emotions. We tend to make a problem bigger, a stronger re-action to a negative comments and  In a confrontational move. We will often do not listen and we tend to fight back.

However, when we calm down we realized that what happen or said is not our doing. If only we sober down ,then what we say or do could be different. It will be a better ending as what we want.

Being aware if this existence , it will make us more controllable and more composure.  The real control point of our emotions is our mind. A monkey mind make us behave like monkeys. If we are able to train and take our mind , we would be more of our real self. We can trained our mind through more knowledge of ourself and the working of our mind.


Namaste.

Aji- noren, Penang

AJi-noren, a Japanese restaurant   Penang

I have been traveling lately and  I got a break yesterday . I took my family for a Japanese dinner at Aji-noren.in Tanjung Tokong.

The restaurant have been there for 17 years already and I have not heard about it. It is a small place and it operate like any home cooked Japanese place. The setting is in an old traditional style with a mix of traditional and table sitting arrangement.  It is place you can go and eat a simple food and get out after that.

The authentic Japanese food Ike sushi, maki and some traditional Japanese dishes. The taste is good and the price is reasonable.

I think it is one of the affordable place for Japanese food at an average of RM50 per head includng two Sapporo beer. Without the beer , it will be RM40.

If you are staying in Penang or pass-by , pls try and enjoy it. If you have a question of wanting to know where I am? I am on my way to Bangladesh again.

Namaste.

Monday, December 8, 2014

Why are we so personal ?

Can we love all human beings with a compassionate heart ? Do we need to compete with each other or judge each other and behave like we are right all the time ? Can we sit back and analyse ourself and tell ourself that we are wrong.   It has always been that " WE CAN DO NO WRONG"  and sorry is the hardest word.

What is wrong with us ? think hard . It is our ego who has taken over us. We cannot be criticize , we cannot be scolded, we cannot be shame by others,  Yes, like I say earlier, WE CAN DO NO WRONG.

With this egoistic mentality , we will hit the brick wall many times until we wake up and tell that ourself that we are not perfect. If we realized that we are not perfect , then we can accept the imperfection in others.  I have said before that in a Chinese wisdom " one type of rice can feed a hundred or more type of human beings".  This is a wisdom which comes down through thousands of years in China. Yet, we cannot understand it thoroughly.

It is often very difficult to tell a person that she or he is wrong . They cannot listen or understand and accept it. The first thing is that we will response with the question " why are we wrong?".  We have the instinct to protect ourself at the first instance. In our mind, attack is the best way of defence. When there is an action , there is a spontaneous reaction. We hit back before thinking deeply ?  We attack as a way of defence. This is a very normal human reaction.

If we slow down and listen and then reflect on the situation, we could be wrong . We should have the courage to admit that we are wrong adn apologize. But, sorry is the hardest word and most of the time, we soften our stand and walk away if we found out that we are wrong. This is to save our embarrassment.

We become cowards when we find out that we are wrong . This is a form of self protection but the correct way is to stand up and say that we are wrong and we apologize. This is the courage to admit that we are not perfect. What is wrong of being not perfect ? Shame ? scolding ? self defence.

All these re-actions cannot open you to a better person.  We should break our ego and shame ourself. We should correct our weakness if we do wrong. Nothing to be ashame and don't just offer exercise our counter arguements. We look stupid and dumb. Face up and stand up to see it through and understand that it is our mind which need to be trained and explore.

Corret your mind and everything will be alright.

Namaste.

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Coffee Addict Cafe, Bishop Street, Penang.

coffee Addict cafe ,bishop street ,Penang

I took my sister and daughter to Coffee Addict this evening for our tea break before dinner . I was a nicely done cafe and it offers a wide range of coffee and breads and cakes , etc.

I heard from my friend that the coffee was good and I have been wanting to go there many times. Finally , I tried and the flat white was good . My daughter order a coffee smoothie and my sister an ice lemon tea. She also ordered a Tiramitsu . The cake also tasted good.

It is recommendable for readers who like a good cup of coffee to try it out. However, one man"a meat is another man"a poison. But, I am quite sure it is a good coffee joint.

Namaste.

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Mum, I dedicate this song to you

You raise me up - Josh Groban

When I am down and, oh, my soul, so weary;
When troubles come and my heart burdened be;
Then I am still and wait here in the silence,
Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

There is no life - no life without its hunger;
Each restless heart beats so imperfectly;
But when you come and I am filled with wonder,
Sometimes, I think I glimpse eternity.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

You raise me up to more than I can be.


When I am down and, oh, my soul, so weary;
When troubles come and my heart burdened be;
Then I am still and wait here in the silence,
Until you come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

There is no life - no life without its hunger;
Each restless heart beats so imperfectly;
But when you come and I am filled with wonder,
Sometimes, I think I glimpse eternity.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains;
You raise me up to walk on stormy seas;
I am strong when I am on your shoulders;
You raise me up to more than I can be.

You raise me up to more than I can be.

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Change - the cry

After the meeting today, one of my staff told me to change.  Change what ? I query her and she told me that change is always for the better. Everything we see not right , we should change.

It is easy to cry change but we should also be part of the change if we evocate change. If keep crying change and remained in our old form, we will be killed by the change or we will be changed by the changes evolving around us.

To simplify a change. lets take our life style for example. we are supposedly need to discipline our diet and keep ourself happy but we continue to eat the food which is bad for us. We should change and refrained from the bad food. Yet, we tell ourself that we will change from tomorrow and it never happen.  Why are we so weak to change ourselves.

We waiver in our effort and we promised changes. It is so ironical. If you analyse further , you could see that we need a lot of effort and discipline to change. We always fall back to our routine which is our comfort zone. To break out from this comfort zone, it is difficult but we should try.

If we come out of our comfort zone, we feel irritate and uncomfortable and we have to bear the unpleasantness to move forward. If we go back to our comfort zone, we will never come out again.
The determination to change or to break away from the routine must be very strong and firm. Otherwise, we will become the NATO President , No action , Talk Only.

Aviod thinking too long and flip flop, sometimes is that we do it spontaneously , Just do it.


Namaste.