Friday, August 1, 2014

Birds of the same feather flock together ....

I remembered reading a book about how an environment or culture can influence the thinking of a person. If we are born in a slum and grow up in a slum , we will have a slum metality. If we are born and bred in an upper class area, we will bave the same personality and culture of an upper class. The environment change change a person.

Lets say we take a person out from the slum and put them in a upper class environment, they will not be confortable in the beginning but if it is long enough, it will change the person's mentality.  In simple words, if we drop a black spot in a  can of white paint, the black spot will be change into white and vice versa.

If we look around , we will see that the black crows will flock together and eat at the dustbins or rubbish area. If you chase them, they will disperse but than will regroup after a while. All the birds and animals have the same way and so is human beings.

The culture in an organization is very important to the upbringing of a person who starts to work. If they start at a small organization, they will learn the culture of the a small organization including the behavior of the staff and peers.  After a while, they think that their culture is the best and will retain all their exposures in that environment and if he moved to a big organization , he will apply all that he learn in the big organization.  Many a times, it result in a misfit and the person will feel left out and becomes very uncomfortable and will force to leave organization.

It is very vital for us to give the proper guidance and support for that person to have a chance to change his or her " small company" attitude and provide all the training and exposure for them to see the how a big organization works and why they need to change to fit it and move on to have a bigger exposure.

In most cases, a person in the big organization will not be able to change a small company while a small company person will be unable to live in a big organization.  It is a fact and a reality.  It takes a lot to change and survive in different cultures and environment.  But , it is not impossible if there is huge efforts and investment to guide them to move in the different path. 


Now is Friday again

After 5 days of resting as the Country celebrates Hari Raya and after working 2 days, it is again another weekend.  Too much resting and it makes my body weak.  I felt it when I attended my yoga class on Wednesday.

My wife was unable to do certain yoga pose as her arms was hurting and after examining by my Yoga teacher, she told her that it is due to a lay off from yoga for 6 days and this is the reason. Why our body is so fragile ? Must we always condition our body to the fittest point and not having any long or extended rest.  I felt the same as my wife and it is always a sluggish start after a restful rest .

We have to be moderate in order to avoid hurting ourself  and it is so difficult to balance our fitness. Too much exercise is counter positive for our health and we will be constantly in pain from our joints or muscles and too light exercise, will make us lethagic and sluggish . So a little bit of pain or hunger is better to keep our body in the optimum level.

It is very difficult to balance our body as our optimum fitness level is not the same from day to day.  Our mood , our resting and our life style constantly move our body's optimum level and it maybe okay one day but it is not for another day.  We have to live by the day and watch our body and mind reaction to each type of exercise. Sometimes, the weather also played a significant part in our fitness.

That is why I believe in Buddha's basic cycle of life ie birth, aged, sick and die.  Despite all our hard work and pain to maintain our fitness, it is only to delay aging and death. Finally, eveything will disintegrate and our fitness will be gone as we aged and finally, it will be over. Nevertheless, I believe it is better to live a healthy life with all the hard work and pain than rather live and die like a couch potato , resting and sleeping the time away.

This is a choice and it does not mean that we live lonver if we exercise regularly and it maybe the other way of resting and sleeping will make us live longer. Nobody knows.


Sunday, July 27, 2014

Holidaying in Lagoon Resort, Langkawi

Holidaying  in lagoon resort , Lang

After a hectic first day of traveling to Langkawi and a fine dining at Danna , I have a good rest last nght. Now I am awake and resting by the window looking at the sky and the breaking of the dawn. It has been a long time I have not got this opportunity.

For this trip, I have expected nothing . I wanna laze around and let time flies. Like the Chinese saying " no worries and no actions" just going nothing. Buddha"s saying " doing nothing is doing something. Don"t rush anything , when the time is ripe, it will happen".

These reflections and taking short and good breaks is good for everyone. Looking at the breaking of the dawn is also a good awareness. This is the beginning of a new day and all of us have a new start in life. What happen yesterday and the days before is gone and it is history now. We have a new chance to start afresh.. With this realization, we will remain positive and optimistic.

Suddenly, I remember the song by Cat Steven " morning have broken". The coming of the light is so beautiful and tranquil and birds are flying here and there to celebrate the breaking of the day.

The lyrics of the song:

orning has broken, like the first morning
Blackbird has spoken, like the first bird
Praise for the singing, praise for the morning
Praise for them springing fresh from the World

Sweet the rain's new fall, sunlit from heaven
Like the first dewfall, on the first grass
Praise for the sweetness of the wet garden
Sprung in completeness where His feet pass

Mine is the sunlight, mine is the morning
Born of the one light, Eden saw play
Praise with elation, praise every morning
God's recreation of the new day

Morning has broken like the first morning
Blackbird has spoken like the first bird
Praise for the singing, praise for the morning
Praise for them springing fresh from the Word

Every day is the first day ,a new beginning. Lets celebrate.


Sitting in Danna

Sitting in Danna

Just finished a dinner with my wife in the western restaurant in Danna Hotel and now sitting at bar listen g to the musc. There was a two member band playing oldies . Their first song was " Daniel" sang by Elton John.

This song brought back many memories during my young days. The song was one of my favorite songs and it was very popular during that era.

Siting here listening to the yesterday songs really bring back in time. It is a kind of strange feeling  that I have list so much of my time. It is hard to account for the time which have passed as I struggle to  lock In with reality and the present. Going back 30 years and at the same time to be in the present times. Strange feelings.

I remembered reading a statement from PAS spiritual Advisor that he is focusing in enjoying the Ramadan spirit amidst the trouble in Pakatan rakyat  and he saiid that he don't know whether there is another Ramadan for him as he is already in his eighties. I think he is very wise as nobody is certain about living  except death is more certain.

I really admire his wisdom and political maturity. He remained a simple man when he was the MB of Kelantan.
Yes, life is so unpredictable and we only have the present.
Sitting here and enjoy the music and songs , bring this point clearly to me.

Enjoy the moments .


11 habits of Happy people - an extract

11 Habits of Happy People

1. Unconditional love
The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved, but rather by the one choosing to love. – Stephen Kendrick, The Love Dare
Loving and loving unconditionally have a few fundamental differences.  You can choose love, but to choose unconditional love means that you see past the imperfections.  You release judgment and accept others as they are and choosing to act in a loving manner always.  Choosing to love unconditionally means that you’re choosing to love in a BIG way.  Bigger than the social and emotional restrictions that hold our love in bondage.
Your unconditional love doesn’t have to be outwardly in all situations either; unconditional love can also be inward. Accepting yourself fully as you are and showing yourself this same unconditional love can provide protection, healing, and the confidence you need to take your next step toward victory.

2. Gratitude
“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” – Epictetus
We cannot express the importance of gratitude as a habit of happy people.  When you make a habit to think of, and express, everything you’re grateful for, you’ll see that these joyous experiences continue to expand in your life.  Just like the law of gravity, the law of attraction will expand what you focus on – and if you’re focusing on what you’re thankful for, you can certainly expect to be more thankful in the future.

3. Service to others
Doing nothing for others is the undoing of one’s self.  We must be purposely kind and generous, or we miss the best part of existence. The heart that goes out of itself, gets large and full of joy. This is the great secret of the inner life. We do ourselves the most good doing something for others. – Horace Mann
Taking time to be of service shows a great deal of character, especially when you aim to serve without expectation of return.  Giving your time without the need for gain returns something much greater – it gives you the satisfaction of adding value to the world.  Working to help improve a physical, mental, environmental, or spiritual state will not only help improve the world, but will also help build positive karma in your life.

4. Self Care
You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.  You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. ~Buddha

If your own needs aren’t taken care of, how can you take care of the needs of others?  There’s nothing selfish about setting aside a certain time for yourself each day or week to make sure that your own mind, body, and soul are well and rested.  Here are just a few things we do ourselves to meet our self care needs.  Try a few and/or add your own self care habits in the comments below:
15 minute morning meditation- This is very grounding.  Try it each morning before you get out of bed, or each night before sleep.
Affirmations – Affirmations are key in our lives.  Select affirmations that resonate with you and repeat them in the mirror DAILY.
Reading a chapter of a book – Just 6 minutes of reading can reduce stress by 68%.
A warm soak in the tub – Try adding 2 cups of iodized sea salt with 2 cups of pure baking soda to a hot tub of water – you’ll LOVE it!
Exercise – Staying active not only helps you look and feel better, it also clears your mind of negative, doubting thoughts.
Eat raw, organic fruits and vegetables (you can put them in juices or smoothies, or eat them right out of the garden!)
Buy a new outfit – Hey, there’s nothing wrong with a little retail therapy every now and then!  Treat yourself, you deserve it!

5. Forgiveness
Forgiveness can bring you a renewed peaceful spirit. You’ll find yourself feeling more positive overall and less stressed. You may even experience health benefits like lower blood pressure.  When someone hurts or offends you, negative feelings of bitterness or revenge are created. Don’t let yourself pay the price over and over. Oftentimes the focus on the past and the hurt will keep you from enjoying the wonders of today and the potential of tomorrow.
Good news, although you cannot control their actions or their decisions, you CAN control yours.
6. Compassion
Compassion is a foundation for sharing our aliveness and building a more humane world. — Martin Lowenthal, Opening the Heart of Compassion
Having compassion brings out an important human element.  Showing recognition and respect for all situations can not only solve many of the world’s problems, but can also bring people comfort, knowing that they are cared for, loved, and recognized as equal.  Show compassion for others and where they are in life.
Although their situation may not be desirable to you, it’s where they are – and if they’re going to get closer to where they want to be, they need caring support from people just like you.

7. Humor
As the old adage states, “Laughter is the best medicine.” It’s true and happy people know it. They laugh often and even at themselves sometimes. Laughter can create a lightness out of a heavy or negative situation. One good belly laugh is all it takes too; humor is contagious. One funny, happy person in a group can create a roomful of happy people.
Humor doesn’t just make you happy, but healthy too. Studies show humor and laughter strengthen your immune system, boosts your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress.
“Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you can have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.” – Paul E. McGhee, Ph.D
8. Responsibility
Taking responsibility for your thoughts, words, actions, and reactions can ultimately bring you more happiness in life. If your intention is to create a more positive world for yourself and those around you, it’s up to you to have the thoughts, moods, and actions that will create that positive world.
If however, you analyze your current situation and see a negative consequence being created as a result of your moods/actions/reactions, taking responsibility for that will make you adjust your sails to strive toward a better outcome.  Release the fear of judgment and create responsibly, the Divine never loses count of your true intention.

9. Persistence
If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Focus on what you want and build yourself to be that person through positive affirmations, intention, and action.  When we pursue something of great value with an undying spirit, the Divine knows this and will deliver.  It may not come all at once, or through the avenue you expect, but persistence will grant the achievements that create happiness.
10. Focus on the Solution
Happy people focus on solutions.  Unhappy people focus on problems. – Chris Butler
Releasing focus on problems is relieving yourself of the negative focus. Great problem solvers, and many millionaires exist because they don’t see a need to focus on the problem as much as the solution for it.  Life is full of possibilities and solutions when you believe and focus on them.  Life is also full of problems when you focus on them.  Where will you put your focus?

11. Honesty
You may get away with dishonesty at times, but as mentioned earlier, the Divine ALWAYS keeps count. For every thought, word, or action you express, an equal energy will be returned to you.  If honesty is what you portray, you will gain respect, trust, and honesty in return.  With dishonesty, a barren and lonely environment that is devoid of happiness is sure to ensue in time.  You may not see the effect of dishonesty right away, but it will erode you from within.  The option to repair however, is always available. You can begin practicing honesty RIGHT NOW to build a better, happier tomorrow.

(BONUS) 12. Optimism, of course!
Positive thinking is key to happiness. Happy people have practiced turning negative thoughts or experiences into positive ones. Seeing the glass half full, living a life full of positive habits, and learning to turn on your own “happy switch” consistently will turn your life around in ways you’ve never imagined.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Overnight flight

The over night flight from  Dhaka to Singapore was a mess yesterday.  I had a dinner with my colleagues last night in Dhaka before departing on a night flight from Singapore. It was  simple buffet and the last time , I slept very well on the plan. But, this time was like hell.

I could not sleep at all on a 4 hours flight on SQ.  A lot of the passengers could catch one or two hours of sleep but my eyes was wide open.  I was not tired nor sleepy at hall..  I tried to watch a movie. When I enjoyed the movie and after that my eyes was still wide open.

I tried to meditate but the seat was so narrow and I have squzze myself into the economy seats and also hoping for a good night sleeep.  It failed miserably as I was still awake throughout the journey.

I was fearful because  it could affect my working mood the next day.  I could have taken a leave but I choose to come back to office to finish my work and also to attend my boss's lecture.

FEAR is something uncontrollable and it is a personal choice.  I have to take the choice at such unfair time and condition. It was a serious feeling which could upset up me the whole day and finally, calming myself down after worked.

The feeling of a daze feeling and tiredness slowly cripped in and it blurs the thoughts and the vision and disturbs our mental judgements.  The feeling will go away slowly and I will have to manage the feeling gradually fading away.


I am choking - from what ?

I just came back from Chittagong , Bangladesh and the city was choked with traffic and people on the roads.  A city of 10 million people and many economic zones.  During the working hours, there were a few thousand cars , vans and buses on the  main road.  It is a massive jam and we have to travel bumper against bumper. What a horrible life ?

The roads are full of pot holes from the raining season  and the car, we travelled in rocked like a boat in the rapids.  It swing hard from right to left and left to right.  It was so exhausting and choking.  Some many people on the road walking in all directions and the traffic lights are for show only.  It has no purposes.  The feeling I got from these places is so choking and suffocating.

So, I am back in Penang and I felt the same choking and suffocating feeling but it is not from the overflow of traffic and people but from the haze.  A beautiful clean sky but choked with haze. The morning sun is a hot red ball.  So much fury and anger.  At some places in Malaysia, the API or the air index have fell to a dangerous point. Where is the haze coming from ? 

It is a sin where people have to live and breath under such conditions.  The source of the haze is from Indonesia . From its burning forrest. Why not Malaysia blame Indonesia but the real source is from Malaysian company cutting and burning forrest in Indonesia and running a commercial business selling teak woods.

Is there a conspiracy why Malaysia have not bring this matter to the International court but let her people suffering from breathing the dirts and haze ? Something must wrong somewhere and if we can have a joint resolution from the Parliament wanting justice for MH17 then why not a joint resolution on the haze from Malaysia. This is call selective prosecution which Malaysia is famous for .

It is a problem dealing with the Politicians and they have their own hidden interest . The 1% that rules the world.  There is a law of Karma and what we sow we reaped. What goes around comes around.