Monday, April 21, 2014

A complicated feeling....

People's relationships are so fragile. Hurt by words , action and suspicions. Sometimes, the thought disturb us and make us have suspicious mind and thoughts.  It is never easy to let go.

I have mentioned that if we keep holding the stick in our hand, the stick will get heavier and heavier and it will hurt in the long run.  If you carry more than one stick, it will break your hand one day. The hatred, hurts and anger will eat you up and make you more miserable.

In  my career, I have seen many people fighting literally until they cannot see face to face with each other until their dying days.  Is this the way it should be ?  I don't think so . All we have to learn is to let go. Each time, we encounter a problem or a relationship issue, we get upset and then we let go instead of harping on it and make our life miserable.

I am not worry about the offending party but rather the offended party.  I could sense the hatred and anger from the words of the offended party and could see how miserable they become. Yes, the words or actions to be hurtful but as long as we address the wrongful act, we should let go and lets live. Everybody deserve many chances as there could be just misunderstanding or miscommunication or innocent acts that could result in an offensive act or uttering of an offensive word.

I believe everything lies within us to forgive and forget and to move on. We have to know that we are the master of our own actions and not a slave of our mind.  If we are firm in this understanding , nothing can deter us from exercise the appropriate action.

During our journey through life , we can absolve many hurtful actions and words, we should let these offensive incidents stop for a while in our mind but let it go on its way forever.  If we make all these incidences stored in our mind or thoughts,  it will gather more and more disturbing thoughts and eventually, it will become too plentiful and heavy on us and will hurt us in the longer term. If we let it go through us faster, it will better as keeping the minimum hurtful thoughts in us will make our mind cleaner and have more space for positive thoughts.

Just imagine, if we let the rubbish clogged our drain, the rubbish will pile up and the dirty water will accumulate and make the surrounding smelly and dirty.  Remove the rubbish and the  dirty water will flow and the smell will be less and the water will be cleaner.  If we are aware of this logic, we will happier and brighter.


Saturday, April 19, 2014

Bon Ton heritage villas ,langkawi

Bon Ton Heritage villas, Langkawi

The villas is about 60 to 100 years old and was formerly a Malay village but taken over by some westerners to convert into a heritage resort for boarding and food.

The attap houses were old outside but was renovated internally but maintaining the mystic and charm of a Malay home. There were a number of villas and each have a different name and interior. Each interior have all the luxuries of a modern home ie Aircon, fridge, TV, wifi, etc

The toiletries is of good qualities and the bath room is under the open sky with wooden fences surrounding it. It is like living in the wild surrounded by open fields and ponds. During raining season , the villas will be like rising above the water.  If you like nature and absolute quietness, you will love this place. It is like back to nature.

The rental is about 200 US$ per nite on Saturday and Sunday and on public holidays but there are off season discounts which will be given on inquiry.

Despite the pricey rental, it is a good experience for everyone who likes nature and special experiences.
My family told me it is abit pricey but I told them the experience will be very valuable.


Flying off to Langkawi 。 

Flying to Lang...

Now sitting at the airport waiting for my flight to Langkawi to see my daughter. She has gone there to work for a week now and I don't know what have become of her. Fatter, darker or slimmer. Not sure , I hope it is always better. The flight is only takes 35 minutes.

The airport is quite empty . Well , maybe it is on a rest day. I read a report that MAS suffers 30% eduction in bookings after the MH370 especially from China. This is a natural re-action because after a month now and there is no news on MH370. There is no closure the families of the passenger and crew.  All the wrong running around and incompetencies.

I reached Langkawi at 3.05pm and my daughter pick me up at almost instantly. The weather was hot and the crowd was reasonably large.

My wife and I visited my daughter's living quarter in a condo and we proceed to visit Danna Hotel. This 5 star hotel looks like E&O in Penang . Spartan look, white colonial background . I was told that it has the largest swimming pool on the island and it is only 4 years old. The setting was very good and it is located next to a marina. Very well set up and it should be one of the most beautiful hotel on the island. Their room rate is minimum 500 US$ per nite.

I would want to stay in this hotel one day when there is a off peak discount.

After that we proceed back to Bon Ton chalet and will wait for dinner.


Thursday, April 17, 2014

The death of the Jelutong Tiger - Karpal Singh

I was dumbfounded this morning when I heard the news that Karpal Singh was killed in an accident. I stumble for the news and I read it with a very sad heart.  He is the MP for my area and I have been his supporter for the past few elections. Why ? Is this a political ploy or an accident ? There have been many such accidental deaths including the MH370 and the ferry incident in Korea where hundreds were killed. Tears started to swell in my eyes as I read the re-actions in the news.

I supported him because he is fearless and most outspoken on many issues and he fights for justice including the dirty plot to smear DS Anwar through the use of sodomy.  I have great respect for this man and I think is a man of great principles.  What happen to the country and the political landscape now without him?  There are many others who speak very openly but he is the most daring of them all.

He has spoken against unfair elections, the abuse of power, the suspicious prison deaths, he has defended many prisoner facing death sentence, the ROS,  the interpretation of racial rights in the constitution and most of all the several sodomy case against DS Anwar.  He died with a sedition case over his head and was find RM4,000 and is expected to be boot out of the Parliament.

He has been jailed  as a poltiical prisoner together with LKS , LGE and Mat Sabu and has very strong bond with each other. 

I must say that he is a great man who have walk through this earth during my time and it is very fortunate to grace his greatness.  I believe everything is fated and it is so unfortunate that his time have come. He is only 75 years old and could have many good years ahead to defend the rights of the Rakyat.

Everyone have a purpose in life and I think he has his higher purpose to change the life of many people and also the fate of the Country.  I think he has server his purpose well. So, RIP .. Karpal..


Tuesday, April 15, 2014

There is something we should not be doing

1. You spend too much time doing things you shouldn’t be doing.

Video games. Reality TV. Surfing the ‘net. Stuffing your face with too much food. Drinking too much. And the list goes on. Take a serious look at your life. Where are you spending the majority of your time? And does it serve you well? Is it leading to a better life? Is it laying the foundation for a bright future? If not, then you need to reevaluate your routine activities and make changes.

2. You find yourself complaining a lot.

I know people who are constantly overwhelmed with life, and they never cease to tell me. Are you one of those people? Do you complain about your job, your boss, your salary, your neighbors or your spouse? If you do, then you are doing nothing but exuding negative energy. Negativity doesn’t change things. It keeps you stuck. So change your thoughts and talk about what you appreciate about your life, not what you don’t like.

3. You don’t feed your mind.

If you’re not continually growing and learning as a person, then you are stagnant – just like a still pond that doesn’t move and grows green gunk on it. That’s what your mind does if you don’t keep it active and learn new things. Positive challenges in your life will expand your mind, not send it backwards.

4. You have a lot of negative self-talk.

Self-talk can make or break your life. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t… either way, you’re right.” If you tell yourself that you’re not smart enough to get that promotion or start a business, then you’re right. If you tell yourself you’re too exhausted to put effort into changing your life, then you’re right. Whatever you tell yourself becomes your reality. So closely monitor what you say to yourself, because you will find that your life matches your thoughts.

5. You feel uninspired.

Do you have a passion for anything? I know a lot of people who think they don’t have a passion. But that’s never the case. There has to be something that you enjoy doing. So you need to rediscover what excites you, and then do more of it.

6. You don’t plan for your future.

While it’s always great to live in the “now” and “be in the moment,” sometimes you need to look ahead to see where you want to go. If you don’t have a goal or a plan, then you are like a boat that is wandering aimlessly in the ocean hoping to end up somewhere good. But you can’t do that. You have to make a step-by-step guide to get where you want to go. Just like a GPS gets you to a destination, you need your own inner GPS to guide you.

7. You spend too much time with people who don’t contribute to your growth.

It’s easy to get stuck hanging out with people who are not making you feel like a better person. But if you keep doing that, then you will stay stagnant or get pulled down with them. I like to call them “Energy Vampires.” They suck the life out of you and give you nothing positive in return. Instead, go find growth-oriented people to be around.

8. You’re addicted to your phone.

Sure, cell phones are super cool gadgets that can leave us entranced when we use them. While that’s fun, think about all the time you are wasting with your phone. Even worse, think about all the relationships that might be affected. Maybe you’re texting or searching the internet while you’re having dinner with your spouse or kids. If you are, you’re missing out on meaningful time you can spend with your loved ones – or time you could devote to making a plan for your future.

9. You spend money on things that don’t matter.

There is a difference between a “need” and a “want.” I’m sure we all learned that in kindergarten. However, in today’s society, we have blurred the lines quite a bit (see #8… the cell phone). In fact, I know people who can’t pay their mortgage, but still have the fanciest gadgets on the planet. If you stop to think about it, there is very little that we actually need. Food, water, shelter and love are some of those things. All the rest are just bonuses. So look at what you’re spending your money on and see if you can make adjustments. Maybe you can use the money you save to invest in your future.

10. You don’t get enough sleep.

I’m not a medical doctor, but I have read enough books to know how vitally important sleep is. I could write 20 pages on it. But I obviously don’t have enough room in this short article. Sleep is crucial for good health. If you’re too busy to get enough sleep or if you simply have a bad habit of staying up until the wee hours of the morning, you should re-evaluate your habits.

11. You’re not taking care of your body.

Not only is sleep essential to your health, so is food and exercise. I know I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But eating a balanced, healthy diet and moving your body around truly does have more positive effects other than weight loss. It affects your mental attitude and overall well-being. So take a look at your diet and level of activity. You might find that making a few small changes will greatly improve your life.

12. You don’t leave your comfort zone.

I know how easy it is to live in a comfort zone. In fact, when I go to a familiar restaurant, I always order the same thing. Not because I’m afraid to try something new, but because I like the food I normally order. But that’s not the kind of comfort zone I’m talking about. I’m talking about taking a risk that will improve your life. And keep in mind, there is a difference between a “risk” and a “calculated risk.” Any risk has the possibility to be deadly, but a calculated risk is one in which you’ve weighed all options and thus come up with a good, sensible plan of action.

13. You’re living a life you don’t like.

The way I measure success is by someone’s level of happiness. Are you happy? If not, then you should change something! Even a feeling of contentment or satisfaction doesn’t tell you that you’re living life to the fullest. Life should be exciting! So if you’re not enjoying life, take a look at some of the changes you can make to get you to a better place.

If any of these 13 points sounded like you, don’t despair. You can make changes. But the first change you need to make is getting rid of the idea that you can’t do it. Many times, your biggest obstacle is your own thought process. So start there. Change your thinking – then change your life!

Hip Opener - I say

Yesterday, my yoga teacher asked us what do we prefer to do at the yoga session.  I suggested hip opener.  She laughed and rejected it laughing .  She thinks that I am joking with her but I was serious.  After listening carefully to what I say, she calm down and say okay.

A hip opener is a routine exercise focusing on the hip and to widen it so that the hip and  our back side can sit squarely and firmerly on the ground. I was a hard exercise and we have only did it once.  She did not believe that I want such difficult stretching exericse as I often asked for an easier routine.

This illustrate how people can preconsive our intentions.  People try to read our mind and form an opinon that either I am joking or pulling their legs. However, the routine did not turn out well as it was a painful exercise and she forgot to teach us the breathing exercise to go along with it. I did not manage to get the experience I had felt before during the routine exercise.

It is a kind of funny why people form an opinion on others ? But , I believe that human beings are unpredictable and any human experience cannot be pre-define or the end result is not controllable.

What  I am trying to say is that the options are so vast and trying to read a person's decision is very difficult. But , I am not saying that it is impossible. When we put a rat in a maze and each time, we ring a bell, the rate will run through the maze in the same pattern to the food.  This is called mental control by creating a pattern.  However, we maybe able to hypnotize  a person or a rat but at certain point, the result could be different. For rats , it is a 100% but for human beings , the thinking and emotions could result in a different result.

If we invite a girl for a dinner for 10 times, it maybe a "no" for 10 times or a "yes" for 10 times and it also can be any number between "0" and "10".  The number of factors is very variable and unpredictable.

So, never think that , it can be never, never and never for ever.


Lunch with Sun Tze Khoe

I had an unexpected lunch  with Sun Tze Master Khoe Keng Hor.  It was really a surprise when my boss called me to join the lunch.  He told me that we will be meeting God for lunch and I know what he mean.  Mr Khoe always wear  white and God always appear in white.. But, this time he appear in white short pants with his naked sexy legs. What happen to him ??

I asked him why he is in shorts and he told me that he is having  a back massage after lunch.  A massage after lunch ? Ow , fantastic arrangements ?  A full stomach for the massage. Unbelievable.

Nevertheless, one of the topic is MH310.   He is the opinion that this is a US CIA operation for something valuable to USA and the plane was left to crash after getting the items.  He said that the Malaysian Government should engage 007 James bond in the first place and the case will be resolved very soon. There was a film called " live another day" where the rocket was intercepted and James bond managed to solve the case. Why spend so much time in the South China Sea and the Indian Ocean... Just sent for " Your Mejesty Service 007".

Another interesting case was his recent experience.  One day, he visited a coffee shop for lunch and the shop was very hot and he suggested to the owner to break down the wall to let teh air circulate and dig two holes to plan two green plants there but the owner rejected him. So, he shut up and went home.

After a month or so, he went back to the shop and he was very happy that the owner followed his advise. So, he called the owner and boast about his advise but the owner told him that he did follow his advise but instead engage a fung shui master to check his shop and teh fung shui master told him that his shop have very bad chi because his wall was resting on a dragon  and the dragon is unable to move freely. So after he break down the wall, the dragon was released and the chi become better. As for the two holes in front of the shop, the spots  is actually the eyes of the dragon and the trees are its eye brows.  After digging the two holes, the dragon now can see and the shop becomes more positive and attracts more customs.  He told me that to sell an idea, it is better to sell it with fantacies rather than honesty... we had a good laugh.

Another subject was on sex.  He said that he is not interested in sex but rather he enjoyed  the thrill to attract the oppersite sex and the fore play.  After ejeculation, he feel hopeless and tired. So , he prefer to keep the strength.  He told me that he will call me to do the final part in the future if I want to.  Haiyoo.... how can he do that ???? changing partners at the final spot.  So, I must be watching and waiting to do that ... what a waste.

We parted with a heavy stomach and a good time.  I really missed this guy.  Good talking skill and dramatic as well.  What a wonderful fella.