Is it true that love last forever? What is love? Just a passing feeling or now and forever commitment? Many people are committed for life and some still love to the end. Committment or love? These are two separate matters. Being committed is a feeling of responsibility and care while love is a true passionate feeling. The joy of been together and with no feeling of responsibility. A complete truthful attachment for both parties and a joyful one.
Can love last for a life time? Twenty or thirty years or maybe 50 years? I think there is such perfect love but the percentage is very small. Most people are still committed to each other out of their own selfish need of maintaining a family or pursuing their responsibility. The fear of breaking up or losing someone or being alone can be scary matter. It is our own selfish needs of wanting love instead of a geniune care for our better half.
There is a theory of a 7 years' itch. Most newly married couples will get bored with each other after 7 years as their true colors had by now been revealed to their partners and incompatibility roar its ugly head or the excitement of love could have dried up. The lost of interest in each other is gradual and there is = often a need for a child to keep the marriage together. Keeping the family together is more like a responsibility. This concept is more true to Asians but to the westerners, the bond is more loose and the need to feel good for one's ownself over rides the principles of responsibility. In another word, each person is very independent and self centered. The younger generations in Asia is moving towards the trend of the west.
If love is lost, the want of freedowm prevails. Trying to be together may not be the best option as if love is lost. The meed to be together could be more stressful and bad for each other.Especially for contrasting characters ie restful and restless people. Why are we scare of being alone and suffer in silence? The line between love and care is very grey and unclear. The relucntance to hurt your partners, may be one of the reason people still keep their marriage together.
Can love come back in a second wind? Yes, there is a possibility of couples recovering their love for each other. The chances is very rare. Grumbling is music to the ears when there is magic of love is in the air can become a pain in the ass if case of love lost.
The tradition and the expectation of the establishment makes separation or divorce a taboo or prohibits such actions. This concept have been around for many years when people starts to have a sense of owing each other and the importance of marriage to have a family.Howeve, everything is man make and we are living in the confinement of other people's ideas and establishment. But, who are they to tell us how to live and behave? By their own morales, they believe they rule the world and keep peace in the society. The sense of ownership is a selfish ego and this concept have good and bad points. It is up to each individual.
Love can be emotional and if it is not controlled properly, it could run out of control and caused irreparable harm as well. This is also one of the factor that binds two people together for life. The scary feeling of hurting each other. A self sacrificing step to tolerate the incorrigible behaviour of another. It can be also right or it can be wrong and depends on the choice of the people involved.
Finally, it is our choice to break the mental block or our mindset and truly live a happy life. The concept of marriage is like a contract and an agreement with two people who agreed to possess each other and they shall live by the norm of the society even there is no more love. Nevertheless, it is a choice for us and it is entirely up to us to honor the pledge.
Namaste & loving kindness.
( For those who read the article before this version, I need to express my apology because I fell asleep half way and it could have been published unintentionally).
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