Thursday, August 4, 2011

Final day calling - a final goodbye

The final day have come. A day which ends all suffering. My FIL passed away last night. Away from the suffering invoke by the big "C".  The past weeks have been torturing with the sight of him getting weaker and weaker. His breathing getting heavier and heavier.  Finally, he could not eat anymore and then , the time come when he cannot drink anymore. His face was so peaceful and serene as if in a deep sleep.  Yes, I could not agree more, it is the best way to end it all.

Life is very fragile as life come and go. He was full of life six months ago before CNY and now, he is lifeless. Is there a purpose in life ? What is the meaning of it all? We studied so hard to get our degrees and we work for hard for our wealth  and finally, we use a large portion of our wealth to maintain our health and leave the balance of our wealth to our next of kin.  So, why is the hassle ? These questions is constantly in our mind and it keeps testing our resolution and undermining our purpose in life. What I have to say is finally it is worth it. The process and the experience of moving through life , with its suffering and tribulations. We cry when we fail and we laugh when we succeed. The joy and fun of it all. Falling and getting up, abuse and be abused and learning to dance in the rain or live in adversity.

Having said that, we should not be one sided. Taking our failures too harshly and blaming our self for all the failures and sink into depressions. No, take things easy. Come what may.  Take each punch with a smile. Take success like a passing perfume and each its fragrance while it last.  It is all about balance. How we balance our life, so that when we reach the end of our journey, we have the last laugh. We should laugh without constraint and smile in silence.

To my FIL, he fought a tough fight and he failed with pride. So, the message is to live and  really live and enjoy the time on this earth. Lets shout it out " Come what may, we will live it my way ".

Namaste.

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