Every person have a tolerance limit - reality bites.

 In reality, every person have their tolerance limit and nobody  is the same.  It is just like taste, smell and sight, each person have their own judgment and assessment.  Some people can have very close likes and dislikes or even words spoken carry different weights for different people.  Every human being is an animal of his own.

Today , I have an experience which drive home this point to me. A jovial person also have its soft points.  Our outward expression and impression is different from our inner feelings. Very one of us try to be strong on the otherwise  even internally , we are hurt , just to prevent the relationship with others.  Sometimes, we call these restrains  to being understanding and polite  towards others. But, I think it is totally wrong. If we don’t like something, we should tell the other person that we are offended instead of been abused but in a tactful way.

Of course, we do not want to over re-act and caused embarrassment to all but we still need to protect ourselves and reconcile our other expression and our inner feelings. This is to ensure that we are one and not being a hypocrite. There is nothing wrong to be yourself.  If you are hurt, we tell others that we are hurt by their words or action or gesture. If we are true to our self and stand up for our self , then we will be happier instead of hiding in  a corner to cry alone.

Everyone have two face, the outer face and the inner feeling. In some circumstances, we sacrifice our inner feelings for our outer face because to be in consensus with our peers , friends or loved ones.  This sacrifice can make us sad and make us “ cry from our inside”. But , in certain cases which is personal and does not involved with consensus and do not hurt others, we should let our inner feelings come up front and be strong.  

To be strong, we can tell others to “shut up”, “ say sorry” or we have very right to scold them back. We should portray a different image but like I say  earlier, we can tell those abusers off tactfully.

I appeal to all my readers not to “ cry from the inside”  and hole up yourself and cry but to let your true feeling reveal itself  and to fair to yourself.  If you want to cry , cry from the outside and show to these people that you are hurt. This is your true self.

Namaste.