Ask and you will know

A lot of people do not like to ask questions especially those questions which make them look stupid. But , I want to re-iterate here , there is no such thing as a stupid question.  Every one deserve the right to ask question which affects them in their life and their work.

There are many people especially the Asian people who are very reserve and private.  They want to maintain their image or avoid to be embarrass and suffered quietly in silence.  I have attended seminars and talks and each time when there is question and answer session, there will be completely silence.  Either the audience knows all or don't know at all.  Most probably , it is the latter version.

In my younger days, I am also very shy and nervous and I could not even sit and make a good report and to stand infront of an audience to say something would be a disaster.  Now, at my senior years,  I could asked question infront of hundreds and could stand , think and talk. However, there are still occasions, when I have still butterflies in my stomach. Where has the stage fright gone ?

It is still there but I don't care anymore.  If you have make the decision that it does not matter what other people look at you, then you lost the fear. If we fear of embarrassment , then it is the fear that defeat us . What is there to be shy of  if we think that it is our right  or desire to learn things that we don't know.

In the Asian culture, the education system and the teaching of " always to be humble" have make us to be what we are today.  If we are force to stand up on a stage every time to say something or to sing, it will become very normal to us. But, if we are allow not to be take the stand, then, we will never make it to the stage. Our reserve nature and upbring, is putting us into a self trap. 

We  should push for change.  We should encourage people to speak up and gain their rightful place.  Once, when we were in China, the tour leader told us that Malaysian Chinese are very humble and quiet.  Accordingly to him, China have changed and if we are still so humble and quiet, there is no place for us in China especially in the restuarants or eating outlets.  We will also be abused and punished in silence. Why are we having to be 2nd or 3rd class person and let us climb all over us and suffer in silence. 

I appeal to my reader . Do be scare of your fear to be embarrass. Stand out and be countered.

Namaste.