When we are old, we are lonely.

Why has it to be this way? Have we change or we choose to be this way? Are we scare of bothering our children ? Or we pretend that we are happy to be alone or we have a big heart to let our children to earn their living by themselves and not to bother them.  This is plain absurd or silly. Who wants to be lonely if we can have happy people with us.  Who wants to be alone if they are good listeners? Why do we live like hypocrites and not telling our love ones that we need to see them more often ? Is it that there is too much ego that we  do not  need our love ones to be with us? Have we been nasty during our younger days that our love ones hate to be with us or afraid to talk to us.  These are the many reasons which caused old people to be alone.  So, the question, why it has to be this way.

Happiness is all it matters. If we are happy to be alone , then let it be but if it is for some other reasons, we have to dump it to clear our path. It is generally true that old people need people to listen to them and to give them attention.  Any other ways would be strange and unnatural. Old people have many stories to tell and experience to share and they want people to be around them especially good listeners. Old people needs attention and it has been recognised  that they became childish when they age and play pranks to get attention. I think they are trying to be useful and to be recognised.  They have heroic achievements and seek  recognition and acceptance before they passes on.

In front of their love ones, they act strong and have a big heart. They want to paint the picture that they are happy and they can take care of themselves while they suffer in silence. The days of been alone  and  useless is painful and boring. The old people have to brake away from this mind set and not to live in pretence while the young ones do not use this reason to stay away from them.

From my understanding , old people must continue their useful life and be active. We don't need to be old when we are old. Age is just a number. The choice is ours. We can keep our body and mind as young as possible and we are what we think. Old people need not mix only with old people but participate in the activities of the young generations. We do not need to change our routine and diet but rather we monitor our health consistently and carefully.

We do not need  to die  as a weak  and disable person but to remain active until our last day. Our thoughts make our life and our belief makes our day. If we have physical pain, we do not need to have a sick mind.  They are separate matters. Hence, when we are old, we can be young at heart.  The main point is to do whatever that make us happy and feel good.

Namaste.

"When the sun is setting, we start to chase for the daylight. Why don't we live well from the start of the morning light.".