Direct confrontation or suppression - which is better?

Today is not the day for kind compassion while I stood up for justice. Being righteous and outspoken can be cruel and crude as people used to say " the truth is always ugly". Why should truth be ugly? Why can't it be true and beautiful? I think it is partly depending on the way we deliver the truth and also the timing of the delivery. But, most of all, the party receiving the message must have an open heart and accepting the truth. With all these conditions, then the truth could be beautiful after all.

When I say the person receiving the truth must be receptive and open, it also depends a lot on the person's ego. Letting off their ego and accept they have been wrong is difficult and will caused a loss of face and self humilating. Humility is a very difficult thing to do and it needs a lot of wisdom and effort to go down on one's kness to peg for forgiveness. So, in Christianity, the Pope have to go down on their knees to kiss the ground or the followers have to kiss the feet of the Pope.

Sometimes, we are undecided which of the two options is better? Can the uneasy calm stay forever ? I believe that a direct confrontation will clear the air and will be less damaging than suppressed feelings. The choice of suppression have a long tern damaging effect of harm and hurt if the confronation erupts in the future. But again, the faced off by the relevant parties can be hurting and ugly as well and it could have a irreversible damage on the relationship. To keep peace, the choice of suppressed feelings until there is a trigger for the explosion is another available option and it could be harmful as well depending on the feeling and understanding of the parties concern. We cannot managed the outcome of human inter-action as human nature is basically very unpredictable.

As I mentioned before, anger is like picking up a burning charcoal and throw at your enemy. It will first burn your own hand before you hurt the others. In the end, everybody is hurt and that is the reason why people choose to the suppression of their feeling to preserve the peace. But, we have to find ways to release the pressure from the suppression and nullify the impact. Otherwise, it would be like a boiling pot and we have to take off the cover to release the pressure which otherwise, it will blow off the cover.

Namaste.