Monday, May 30, 2016

What happen, need to happen ?

I was told by some wise men that everything happen for  a reason. Things won't just happen. Is it that everything is pre-destined to happen and we cannot change it ? I really don/t know.

One day, my daughter came back after seeing a fortune teller and she told me that the fortune teller told her about her future and she feel sad about it.  I told her that nobody can see in the future and it is really up to nature and herself  There are combination of factors but some time, it is not within our control.

My staff told me that her husband have gone into a meditation technique that will lit up the power of fire within himself and during this meditation, he dream that my staff killed him in his previous life and now , she has to pay for it in this life. He was a monk in his previous life and I asked my staff why did she killed a monk who should be living out of this world.  Yes, maybe that is a motive and just to make my staff owed him for the rest of his life and become a slave to her needs, For a rational person, I could be sceptical about it.

Can we really see what is the future and what is the past? is it true that the law of karma last a few or more lifetime and each person have to repay their debts or sins by doing all the merits to be even ? I believed there should not be such connections on a one to one basis. I believe the law of karma but it should be in a general form instead of a one to one basis. In this life, I could be a Chinese and in the next life , I would not know what I will become . Perhaps an Indian or a Russian or a Tibetan . I could not tell and how on earth when I am Tibetan  , I have to repay my debts to a Malaysian in Malaysia or somewhere else, By destiny , could I be linked to the person in my previous life ?

Nevertheless, sometimes thing happened to us and we keep asking why me ? How am I be chosen for this task in life ? It is all so confusing and silly.  Everyone should have their own life and we should break away from the fixed mind set of who owes who in the past and future life. It cannot be like this web of deceits trying to tie each other down and make us pay by this strange concept.

Life is mysterious and let it run mysteriously in many uncertain ways and this is the thrill of not knowing what happen next. This is the wonder.

Namaste

Sunday, May 29, 2016

Feeling bad

I loved my second sister very much but I just cannot tolerate her philosophy of " lets live" peacefully.  I always told her that if we tolerate evil, then evil will grow stronger and in the end the good people will suffer, Yes, I know that Buddha teach us to have a compassionate heart, living kindness and well being to our fellow beings. Dalai lama also taught us that if we can help others, we should not harm them. Yes, yes, yes,   I know all of these teachings but I don't want to tolerate " evilness" which affects my brother and sisters.

I have seen how my sister in law changed after the death of my eldest brother.  She quarrel with my sister everyday and caused her so much misery. At times , she needs to hide in my house to avoid the confrontational tactics of my sister in law. Everything was settled after she got a her wish to sell the share of the house to the remaining members of my family.  The ordeal was upsetting and horrifying . It really showed that how fate a person's character can be if their rights or well being if perceived to be not right according to their expectation. It is fearful and torturing. This is what I want to avoid among the remaining members ie my brother and sisters.

It is very funny that In every household there is always a "evil". It is in the form of a selfish person or an abusive or selfish person or a stupid idiot or a nincompoop who thinks that the wold owes them everything and it is their right to hurt or get unlimited protection from everyone or someone. This is person can look as been the evil among the good folks.

This is exactly the person which I have been talking to my sister who is constantly hurt by this evil person existing in the house and yet, she keeps protecting  her. Yeah, she is angry but it is out of compassion heart that she wants us to let it be. But, it is good compassion to accept a person and I fully agreed with it but not when their actions or their negative vibes keep affecting us and by not speaking up, the evil gets stronger. My philosophy is also to practice compassion but if it becomes and problem and becomes a torn in our life , keeping hurting us with their words or actions, we have to pull out the torn for the well being of all.  Why do we live with a torn in our life which keeps making us uneasy and uncomfortable. If there is a wound , we cure it . It is a nail in under our foot , we pluck it out.

So, this afternoon, I told my sister to rent a place for us and not to keep us in her house. But, she was very upset with me for suggesting this point,  I know there maybe many consequences but it is the better solution of all. Yeah, her daughter and son is very good to my sister but why she needs to tolerate the evilness of  this uninvited guest which have stay in the house for years and getting more and more evil in her doings.

I know this subject is taboo to my sister but I can see her suffer due to this matter.  She blames that we outcast her from the family but it is actually she that creates this repulsion by her nasty words and action,  I pray hard to find a solution to this matter fast and not to hurt my sister any longer.

Namaste.

Escalation

I dun know how I should feel after hitting 100,000 hits on my blog.  It is really a milestone ad I don't how it will grow in the future,. I have not create any sensational news which triggered a tsunami like Alvin and Vivian's blog but I just write whatever comes into my head . It is just like a dairy which expressed all my thoughts and feelings. I must admit that all you readers of my blog have contributed greatly to this milestone.

On going to the next phase , I would be more daring in my exploit in the area spiritual enlightenment and sharing of my feelings with the events evolving round us. I could also attached some interesting articles to share the thoughts with my readers. Syabas to all of you , supporters.

My weekend experience is actually with my Dentist who have taken o the responsibility to save my tooth. I spend one and half hour in this morning to be educated by her on dental health. She told me that our body have immunity to protect our teeth but it has been stretch thin by the abuse of our body. If we drink, smoke and do things harmful to our body, our immune system will help to contain the damages. So, to enforce our immunity system we have stop all these abuses and let it repair and rebuild our body including our gum which our teeth grows on.  This is the first step to dental health.

We also told me the way to clean our teeth and prevent bacteria to build in between our teeth.  There are special tooth brush and tooth paste to clean in the morning and in the night including tiny brushes to clean the space between our teeth.  Dental floss is one way but not the best way to clean the space in between our tooth. There are also special tongue cleaners which is soft to the tongue and yet have a cleaning effectiveness especially the bacteria locking on to the pores of the tongue.

My Dentist also told me to deep root cleaning once a while to wipe away the bacteria living deep root into our gum and affect the health of the gum. if we wipe off the bacteria , the body immune system will repair and rebuild our gum affected by bacteria and our teeth could be saved.

It is not ethical for me to explain further on the treatment as it will be unprofessional and unfair to my dentist. Whatever, she do is her proprietary method and it may not be agreeable by other dentist. I will stop at this point and I want to share this experience with you that it is possible to save your teeth instead of waiting for it to be extracted and pay lots of money for in-plant or doing bridges to fill our mouth.  Slow down and take steps to arrange your life and spending 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes at night to give a proper treatment to your teeth could make your life worth living by eating well and living well.

Namaste.

Friday, May 27, 2016

Wow, touched 100,000 hits

Congratulations and jubilations ,,, I want the whole world to know happy I can be,,, these are the lyrics of a song sang by Cliff Richard in the 70;s and I think it is also appropriate to express my happiness and erection.

This achievement was  achieved over a three years period and the untiring effort to keep writing the articles to feed the blog. Although , it is not a million which was so easily achieved by some blogs as  result of some scandals or some leaked news, my blog is an achievement over small and simple articles close to my heart.

I would like to thank all my readers and supporters and I vowed to carry on writing articles which is close to all our hearts and sometimes , a bit inspirational.

Thank you.

Namaste.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Feeling dejected ...

In my early days, going for dinner is an enjoyment but at this current age, I valued my personal time more , just doing the things I want to do like resting, yoga and watch TV. Dinner is no more fun for me and I started to eat less. I just notice that.


Now , dinner with bankers seems to be a heavy burden on me despite my wish for my subordinates to takeover the role and become more pro-active.  I hope they can do without me and let me wonder into the night doing my things.


At this age, I could feel my eyes gets very sleepy after 9 or 9.30pm.  My eyes grew dim and my speech gets blur as my whole body wants to shut down. It has been going on for the past three years as I dropped out from circulations. Maybe, this is natural.


When my father in law was alive and retired , he slept in the day and wonder off to sleep after dinner and it was like a routine as he grow into old age. My mother in law was staying up late and watch TV and world cup football.  It turns out that my mother in law died earlier than my father in law despite he was much older than my mother in law.  She died from Cancer.


My father in law would sleep after lunch and slept at 8pm and wake up in the early morning at 2 or 3 pm to watch TV and go for very early morning breakfast at 6am.  He died at 86 from Cancer despite been very healthy into the 80's.


That is life and how long we live we cannot control it but how well we live it , it is up to us. It is not a matter of how long but it should be how well we live.


Nevertheless, time waits for no-one and if it is a time to pass on , we have to but in the meantime, we do whatever we can to keep healthy and lives on.


Namaste.

Sunday, May 22, 2016

Lost love

Through my life, I have a lot of lost loves and the memories of them really warms my heart and make me feel lost at times. I wondered where are they now ? I really don't know.

I love my father in my early forties , I love my mother about 10 years later after my father's passing and I lost my eldest brother a few years after my mother's passing. I really missed all of them and I wondered where they are now ? I guessed I will never know as there has not been any form of possible communications with them. This is the painful part as I am absolute clueless.

During my childhood's days , I have a few childhood friend.  The boy next door who became a tailor following his father's business, the boy at the house of the 72 tenants where I learn to play my guitar, the boy who showed his stamp collections which I took a few stamps from his album without him knowing , the uncle who operates the Kedai Runchi or sundry shop when I bought all my sweets, the mamak at the Indian sundry shop when I bought all my sundries and all my neighbourhood friends and the little girls  that I have adored and admire. All of them gone from the neighbourhood and became untraceable.

And for all the girls , I have loved before  and many of them already married  and have their own family and we have ceased to be friends. It is strange , we have been so close and once, they get married , we can no more be friends. as it has become a possession of others already. Strange and this is the human feelings which is so unpredictable.

To all these wonderful  fellas and friends which have become part of my life , I salute all of you who have play a big role or a small part in my life journey. Thank you to all of you.

Namaste.

Finally, it is all about love

As age catches up, I realized that end of the day, it is all about love. Everything will past and will be gone but the feeling of love will remained within our close ones when we are gone. The memory of love will stay with one or two generations and it will be also gone when the generations goes one.

Why are we struggling so much and need to spread our love to our children, friends and peers. If not to the world. As a passer-by , we are in transit and what we were left behind is our materialistic belongs and love. We are hard on our self and others , to ensure that we can live a better twilight life and at the twilight period , we will need much more care and love. Why don't we give our over love when we are able and capable and hope for the love to be return in a form of other people's love for us.

We always have a mindset , that love will buy our love., Yes, money is important but it is not everything, What we can get from money is fake love or time of other people who cares for you. But it is not a genuine love from others.  Maybe , you can buy through love but it is not certain and you will not be able to know.

Love is universal apart from love for yourself and for others. We have been living in a box, thinking that our investment in our children will in return getting through love from them. Yes, it is proven through the generations, the likelihood of our children returning our love is more certain. But , it is because you have shown your love to them. If you have be hush to them, there will not be an love from them. It is because you love them unconditionally and they return this love to you. Remember, you have to give your love to them first before they can learn to love you back. It is not because you are their parent that they return the love to you.  This is not natural or a requirement from your children. You have to love them before they love you. Just like other people , you have to show your love and care to them before they can reciprocate. Sometimes, they show their love to you first but many people failed to see it and become suspicious. If it is true love, you could feel it if you open your heart to them. Just open your heart , accept it and you will feel it.

So, just note that the rule is that you have to open your heart and give out love and keep it open to receive the true love in return.

Namaste.

Friday, May 20, 2016

What is 520 ?

I was traveling with my staff , a Gen Y operative and asked me why I bought cakes today.  I told her that I wan to bring the cake home for my family and I offered her a piece and she told rejected my offer because it is 520 ?


What is wrong with May 20th ? It is just another ordinary day, I was stretching my head  and asked what is 520 if it is a special day.  She told me , it means " I love you" on the facebook and if you write in Chinese.  Strange , how can someone think about such idea and bow I know why he has rejected my cake.  Youngsters give cakes to their beloved one today and it expressed the feeling of " I Love you".  Again, what is wrong to " I love you" to someone I like.  Love can be a universal love.


I felt so shameful and I asked her the meaning of  " 724" . She  did not heard of such numbers and she was stretching her head.  I told this is the philosophy of 711 , the convenient store.  The store did not sleep and works 7 days a week and 24 hours in a day.  It means it doing business very day for 24 hours.


There maybe many hidden codes or abbreviations which means different things and it is noted that the young people have many creative ideas and I encourage them to go on.


If nothing have been done in a certain way , it does not mean that it cannot be done.  This is the meaning of thinking out of the box.


Namaste.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

out of nature

The  day my assistant told me that her husband is practicing a Chinese Buddhist meditation technique that could delay aging , empowered the person practicing it as it will open up all our chakra and received the universal power from above. However, this fire if once started cannot be stopped and it has to be practice daily to keep the fire from burning.

I managed to persuade her to stop the practice as she was attracted to the Guru's wisdom and Buddhist knowledge. She told me it is a scam and yet she wants to know more. I told her usually a guru will be sweet talking and very knowledgeable and that is how they can attract their followers. I fear that one day she could surrender everything owned by her to this guru.

I told her that the practice is growing against nature and its objective of self promotion or self fulfilment is not a correct concept,  In meditation, we should not hope for something to happen or you can gain something from the practice. We should be kind to our self and we should expect nothing and let things to happen by itself. We should only practice the pose  and the forms will come by itself. If we spend too much time to force our self into the form, it will only hurt our self . The form should come by naturally.

She suspected the  guru is a trying to set up  money making machine by expanding its followers and charge a fee. She told me that possibly that she learn the practice without following the teaching but I told her that it is impossible . how cab we drink beef source but consider not eating the beef?
Once we find that the soup is good, we will go for the beef ? The greed is always demon in us.

The only way is to avoid it and stay away from it and observe the changes in the people who took up this practice. Often we could see that they are moving to their dark side and eventually hurt themselves.  I told her to live simple, eat simple and have a simple mind and follow the Buddhist's natural way to birth, age, sickness and finally die . To alter our fate or path in life through unnatural means will bring us more suffering.

Namaste.

Sunday, May 15, 2016

Seeing beyond self

It is a very difficult subject . What does it mean by seeing beyond self ? We are always looking at okurself , protecting our self , improve our self and it is just nonsense to see beyond our self . How can we look beyond our self . If we look into the mirror, we see our self and everything is about our self and it is taught by everyone around me or by the education we received . It is about improving and enhancing our image.

If we pause a while, in Buddhism, it taught us the concept of impermanence. We are in a temporary phase and is in transit from one realm to another . What we have in this life cannot be brought forward to another life. All materialistic possession have to stay behind after we have completed this journey  in this world.

If we are wise enough, we will realised that our path is not about us but all those associated with us like our family, friends, peers  and those who come into our path. We should make living for these people a happy one. This should be one of the fundamental objective of our life  We should teach them guide them and assist them through their path as well. Of course, if we cannot help them than we should not harm them to the least.

We have to constantly remind our self that we come into the world naked and we will leave this world naked. If we realized this point, we will be able to break away from self and look beyond self. all the riches, the frame  and materialistic possession will be gone. We come with nothing , we go with nothing. Of course, some people will say that at least, we have it in our life once. But this having in life is meaningless, it is just a self fulfilment and a good feeling that you have a better life than others. Your measure of satisfaction or fulfilment.  A meaningless feeling which has no existent after we are gone.

So, our pair of eyes is look forward and our neck cannot turn 180 degree to look backwards and the meaning is that it is for use to look beyond our self instead of look at our self all the time. If it is mend to be this way, then our eyes should be allowed to look at our self by having a flexible projected eye to look at our self all the time. Watch and observe the purpose of the eye.

Namaste.

Restfulness- a dead man's pose

It is a very commonly used word to advise all of us to rest. The end result is restfulness. Like stillness , it is a stage of our body. I felt it when I do the " dead man pose" in yoga practice.  The result is a sinking feeling of our body resting on the floor and a total relaxation and our mind goes deep into a resting stage. No feeling, no movement , no thoughts and a complete merging of the body into the earth and melt into one.

It is never easy to do that but sometimes It just happen that you achieve the completeness of the rest and you totally entered into a non-existent stage. You are no more existing as you have merged into the environment or into nature. You have just disappeared and you have no knowledge. A total pitch black and you are gone.

Some people will just say that it is just like a deep sleep as body and mind just switch off. But, in the total stage of complete restfulness, it is a bit more than a deep sleep. A total relaxation and after the sleep, you could feel rejuvenated or totally refreshed as if you are reborn. A feeling of a complete new self.

In Yoga, a dead man pose, is to call on your body and all the muscles including our breath to relax and you get the feeling that you bones touches the floor and even feeling that your whole body is sinking into the ground as your physical self merged with nature and become one.  Eventually, you doze off but when you are awake, you could feel that you are reborn and just break away from nature. It is an amazing feeling of a bird just hatched from the egg and start to fly .  A new life, a new direction and a new day . Finally, a new beginning .

The process of merging with nature helps the body and the mind to repair itself and re-charged our depleted energy to come as a conditioned body and mind.  If we can do it often, it is not only anti-aging but a new force to controlled our re-action to life's problems and in charge of our emotions and thinking.

Have a good and nice journey into total rest.

Namaste.

Thursday, May 12, 2016

What is life ?

Have we wonder why our physical body is so perfect ? Is it a deem perfection? why are we born with such perfections. It is a mystery and is there a powerful creator which have started the human race with such perfections?

We have a pair of eyes with a balanced vision , we have a pair of ears to hear from both sides, we have a nose with two nostrils ie one in and one out  or both and both out and we have a mouth with both lips , a tongue that lick and control our food , both hands so that we can carry things , both legs so that we can balance our walking , two nipples to balance our look , one penis to urinate or to ejaculate or one vugina to receive the sperm and one mouth to eat and talk  These are external organs and just imagine the wonderful internal system which circulates the blood, drain the waste and the feeling of touch, taste and feelings. It is a perfect human system for a living for an average of a hundred years. strange ? Who can create this perfect system. It must be GOD or a creator or are we a robot which is created by another world? It is unimaginable.

It is also a life journey which we have to face birth, age, sickness and death as human beings are replaced in a certain period of time. This is the case of evolutions.

But, the current trend now is to interfere into this natural evolution.  We research for longevity , we go for perfect cure for all the serious diseases, we build robots in our own image, we create cells to replace our damage organs or parts , we discovered supplements to have a perfect health and yet many more things that we do to defy the natural evolution process. The human race is changing . Changing for the better or worst, we do not know.  We are our own creator in the future and it is very scary..

One day , the world will explore and there is no calamity to rebalance the world . Food become lesser, land become less , water become condemned with toxics, our air polluted  and more and more gargets will be improve or developed and protect our human race. More and more people will remained on this earth until  a severe imbalance with happen.

The human race is going for self destructions where the creator will start all together to get more famous or benefits for ourself.

Namaste.

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Strange people

There was a report of three armed men with ski mask who have gone in a house in KL to rob and rape a 26 years old girl.  Why do they target the house and not any other house ? There is no smoke without fire , right ?  Yes, I always believe there is a story behind any incidents.


In this world, there are a lot of strange men and there are also a lot of strange things but the chances of such violent incident should have some reasons.  Why the girl is targeted ?  Is she too beautiful or she has angered some revengeful man or the women behind him to extent that she was targeted for the rob and the rape.


We cannot under estimated the re-action of a wounded male or rather female as jealousy can turn into madness in order to get even when emotions are involved.  Human beings are unpredictable.


There are serial rapist but such modus operandi is not the style of a rapist but this is a revengeful act and out of jealousy and this is most probably the case. The madness of a jealous women.


Of course , I am not a psychologist but I would like test my  instinct whether my understanding of the case is correct or not.  A woman robbed and rape in her own house in the middle of a city by three man who drove up  to this particular house and rape this woman out of the blue. Strange right ?


Lets the story unfold later and we will be able to check the sanity of the people in this country.


Namaste.



Monday, May 9, 2016

The law of Karma

Yesterday, my daughter May was very upset at my sister in law's behavior as she is crude and rude to honor everyone around to get what she need.  By so doing, her actions and words were not so unacceptable.  By the way, she is a Christian.


My daughter wants to confront her and tell her off but I told her that we should not try to do GOD's work as she has accepted Jesus as her father and the father will take care of her and will teach her in a mysterious way.  GOD is always fair and of course, HE will know what is appropriate for HIS followers. Yes, I believe that GOD is always fair and that is how he became GOD. How can we have an unfair GOD. For those poor people , they have happiness and for those rich people, they have the money. Is that fair ?


However, in Buddhism, there is a concept that is call the law of Karma. We sow what we reaped and we are responsible for our own actions or our sins. We did bad  and the bad will catch up with us. This is also logical although the sins can be paid in this life time or the next.  Or the sins, we did in the past catches up with us in this life time. So, we are taught to be careful of actions. The right actions will bring the right result sooner or later.


With those two concepts in place, those people who did silly things or the wrong thing or action will be guided by GOD or taken care by the law of Karma. The dragnet is wide enough to cater for those people who did wrong.


It is a waste of time to try to teach these people to behave properly and in their eyes they have did no wrong and why should they listen to a young chiku talking about what is right or wrong. Since, they adopted the Father , then we should have no doubts that GOD will do HIS job by giving guidance and wisdom to HIS followers. Furthermore, how are we to teach those " Ms know all " about how to behave. Let the law of karma give them the right punishment.  We better to focus on our life and not to change the life of others especially those sinful ones.  It is our choice.


To be positive , we have to live among the positives and there was a study that why poor people remained poor , it is because they live and behave like the poor. Their contentment is low and they do not have big aspirations to become rich. However, there are exceptions for those born to be different and they are destined to be rich.. There are such examples.


SO let it be and only change for our own self and live well on our own.


Namaste.




Saturday, May 7, 2016

Down memory lane

These few weekends, I have been visiting places of my past or my childhoods. I have been visiting the cafés or coffee shops nearby and I wonder around the lanes and the path which is there. Most of the buildings are still there and most of it have been repainted, renovated or restructured but the familiar faces are all gone. People in my past youthful days.

It is strange how the feeling and the images past through my mind and I started to talk about the past with my sister of what my mother have done and how we have been living for more than 20 years in that place until we move out.

Some building which have been the house of 72 tenants have been renovated , restructured to be a hotel and we saw some tourist coming out of the place. It is a total transformation of the neighbourhood. I could see some friends in my minds image still doing the things in the house of the 72 tenants. It is really a mix of now and the past. Many houses along the lance have been refurbished and sold to foreigners to be change into  a new commercial area. My past is slowly been erased and change into something which is beyond my imagination of the past.

I do not why I have chose to visit my past at this moment of time but I just want to follow my heart and to go back into my youth as I start to get old. Maybe , I am trying to chase back my youth which I have missed so much. I do not know but it bring back the satisfaction and at end of the day, what we have is only memories.

My naughty days of playing badminton before my exam days, the day I learned to play guitar and imitate the Beatles , the day , I play in the rain water behind my house, the day, I am under a coconut tree and hide myself under the coconut trees. Memories just roll back like a movie and I am watching it again and again for so many times and at the end of it , I feel satisfied.

I still remember the faces of my friends and I wonder where they are and how have them been. My childhood friends of strumming the guitars, my friends who practice the lion dance with me and passing through the roads to get ang pau , my friends who challenge me to fight or pee for the furthest . Our favourite past time was kite fighting, playing the marbles , catching spiders, climbing up the tress , going down the drain to catch fishes and throwing balls at each other.

Like I say, the movie of my life keeps repeating in my mind and it is the  happy things that have happen in  my childhood days and there are secrets which I have keep from my past which is also haunting me. So lets live on and live our path the best as we can.

Namaste.

Happy mothers' day 2016

Another Mothers' Day , I wish all the mamas best of all everything and all your love and care. Yes, the mamas have sacrifice for all their children in this world and bring them to what they are or what they are not. It is really something , whether good or bad

Love is unconditional and universal but most mamas only care for their kids and it is natural. It is the concept of ownership. You give birth them and you own them and you have to be responsible for them. They are another part of your property or ownership and you want them to listen to you and you do not tolerate any kind of rebellions.

Yeah, this is a materialistic world and the children owed them and should be grateful for the support , education and dedication to them. Some mamas treat their children as investments especially in the Asian concept. But, in countries like USA and Japan, Once , they grown up , they have to move out and live on their own. The parent ceased to be responsible for them. This difference in concept have its pros and cons. Nevertheless, no each way is totally right but I rather support the USA and Japan concept , as same as the wild, once, the animals are grown up , they have to wonder out and to have their own life .

Coming to the Gen Y or Z generation , the concept of ownership is breaking down as these generations have their independent mind and their own path. They rebel against the old concept of what is best for them instead of hearing the old music of what they have to be and where they have to stay. The world is flat to them and there is no borders around them, There have their own version of what they want to be or their own interpretation of happiness. It is no more within the control of the mamas and the papas. Is become a doctor , lawyer or engineer  a happy life or a good life journey? It totally changing now .

It is amazing how the culture or the mind set have changed. The materialistic world is still there but the ownership concept is breaking down and evolving everyday . Maybe , this is the right path and the right thinking of living happily which is defined in the old way is breaking down and change for the better.

Yes, why should we live within the confinement of what is defined as happy by people of the past. The right thinking is the feeling of happy by each individual and the degree of contentment by each person. As long as you have happy , please go for it and you need not make other people happy to be happy.  This type of thinking is bullshit and you are wasting your life. No one can judge you and there is no right or wrong way as long you live within the law and do not harm others.

For this thinking, I have to apologize to the mother of the past. We have to change our mind set and let your children live the best way for them. Do not forced them to become " the thing" that they don/t want to be  If we study engineering , then we must be an engineer or if we study law, we should be a lawyer. Let them decide for themselves and do the thing they life and we should support them with our unconditioned love. We do not own them, we are only to support them in their decision and they have to be on their own eventually.

Sorry, Mothers..... Papa can be wrong but it is not up to us to say.

Namaste.

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

"Fucking words"

I have written about the use of this four letter word in an earlier article somewhere in my blog.  It means nothing .. It is just an expression and have no physical harm or contact.  Some people like to use " Fuck you " , it does not mean to have intercourse with you but an expression of anger. Somehow, it carries the satisfaction with it.  Instead of using " idiot"  or "fools", the four letter word have the oomph with it.  It is just what we want to say to someone we are angry or dislike.


Today, I have lunch with a banker and I know him for almost 20 years. The moment I saw him, he started to scold his employer. The fucking bank , the fucking boss, the fucking system , the fucking culture. Every sentence he carries with the word "fuck".


His employer have terminate his boss and he has to report to KL and his secretary was also terminated and he as a VP have to sent his own mail or collect his own mail  while his bosses delay the approval of all his credit application for his clients which in return, caused him to be scolded badly.  The morale was " fucking" low.


I was talking to him about business but he is not keen and his employer have rejected his VSS application and he has to do all the tedious job. He just want to be terminated and get his benefits but hi employer think otherwise.  He was so upset and he not interested to do business with me. I was wondering why he has to suffer like this and carrying all his anger with him. He needs the money as all his family members is in the states.


I began to think of several of my friends who invested their money in some ventures to earn extra money but instead lost all their savings as they get more and more deep into their investments. They could not stop as they put in more good money after bad money. The more they try to save their investments , the more involved they are in the ventures until they are deep to their nose. This is what happen and they go around looking for jobs at the age of 60 plus and start to borrow money from friends . Some of them are senior bankers and qualified accountants and they really look pitiful.


Like is like that we give trust too much and be greedy or fearful of our loses.  It is not easy to be a businessman . It looks easy but actually it is very tough and complicated . Once they are trapped , they could not get out in time. There is one motto :" Trust no one except oneself "


Namaste.