In a traffic jam

In a trafic jam

What do you do when you are caught in jam and no way to move or escape ? Relax lah. Don't focus on the jam and do whatever you want to take care of yourself.

When you are alone , you are actually with yourself and the person with you is the most important person in your life. 

When you are moving around and with other people , the person you is keeping quiet and is very supportive of you. When you slow or caught in a jam, you should spend quality with him.

Care for him and talk to him and be a good listener to him.

A lot of people is disturbed by the jam and busy scolding the outside people and stressed out themselves with anger and bitterness. Why are you stressing yourself when you have lost the control ? Silly ideas. It is only hurting your own self.

Calm your mind and be aware of the situation you are in and learn to understand that there is nothing you can do but just to wait. Often it is the thought which makes us confused and angry either is with ourself or outsiders.  Angry against ourself for coming into a jam or at others for making the jam. The thought itself makes us frustrated and upset. Yet we cannot do anything about the jam. But we can do something for ourself. We can take care of our body and mind. We are having quality time with ourself and we can travel onwards to know ourself better and be a better friend with our inner self. Learn how to dance in the rain.

Just remember be alone is never a lone as we are with ourself which is the most important person around.

Namaste.

Gua Sa ( Ext )

Last sunday, after a 5 hours traveling from KL to Penang , I had a Gua Sa treatment and it was so refreshing , light and enjoyable. It is highly recommendable after a tiring day or when you are suffering from a flu or heat stroke.  Enjoy it, fellas.

Scraping Therapy

A revolutionary healing art that really works for you! Scaring Therapy, known as Gua Sha in China for over a thousand year, is a healing art based on Traditional Chinese Medicine and used throughout Asia. How does Scraping Therapy work? The Scraping Therapy is used to release the body of blood stagnation. Blood stagnation is considered to be the cause of many diseases in TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine). To visualize this, you may want to compare the water from a running stream versus the water in a still stagnant pond. The stagnant pond will be full of gunk, green moss and other growths while the running stream will have clear water. Our entire blood circulation is very similar to this. When the blood is not flowing properly, it starts to become stagnant and creates an environment more suitable for disease. This is why Scraping is such a useful technique. It can quickly release blockages in your body caused by stagnant blood. This is because it mimics sweating and promotes body fluid circulation which helps to normalize cellular metabolic processes and release toxic waste from your deep cellular tissues. It also increases blood and qi circulation to help oxidize your cells as well as nourish them. The Benefits Scraping has two main functions where it both nourishes and detoxifies: 1st, the stroke action used to release petechiae to the surface of the skin, forces more blood and oxygen to the area treated which helps to nourish those cells. 2nd, the red spots on the skin become a byproduct that signals the body to do a sweep up of the area so that it eliminates both the dead blood cells as well as other toxins that surfaced towards the skin during the Scraping process. After a treatment, the patient often has immediate relief from pain, headaches, fever, chills, cough, chest pains, nausea, stiffness, etc. After a series of treatments Scraping is able to release enough toxins to allow the body to find inner balance. Besides curing diseases, scrape therapy may build one's body, prevent diseases and help lose weight. Under the stimulation of scrape therapy, more blood serum will be produced to improve the body's immunity. Process Before the process, daub the skin with oil. Then scrape the skin with a scraper (special scraping equipments). Always scrape the skin in the same direction and continue until the skin is red and purple marks appear( indicating the locations of sick muscles ). The intensity, the speed, duration, depth of the action, and the location of scrape, all have direct impact over the curative effects. No damaged for the skin and the tissues with the scraper. You will only feel a very little bit pain of blockage tissues while scraping ---- no pain among the healthy tissues. Although there are some red spots on the skin after the treatment, As a matter of fact, the red spots mean some toxins or wastes coming out from the sick tissues. it’s quit different from the bruise or hemorrhage and the red spots will fully disappear within 3 to 7 days due to the promoted metabolism. What does the color of the Red Spot(sha) indicate? Very Light Colored Sha -------- Blood Deficiency Fresh Red Sha ---------------------- Recent Penetration Purple or Black Sha------------ Long Term Blood Stasis Brown Sha --------------------------- Blood may be dry Dark Red Sha ----------------May indicate heat in blood After Scraping Therapy, you should keep warm (avoiding wind,or sudden change in temperature, cold shower as well as cold drink ) to ensure your body’s boosted metabolism and self-healing process working well. Stretching is recommended but not a heavy workout on the day of treatment. In some cases, some people may have the go-better reactions ( like feeling sore, tired or even sick ) for a few days. Then afterwards, as the red spots fading, you can feel the improvement throughout body, especially the problems treated. How long does it take the petechiae to fade? The Red (sha) usually fades within 3 to 10 days. If it takes longer to fade, this often indicates poor blood circulation and the practitioner should provide you with further advice on how to improve your overall circulation. With continuous Scraping therapy, the red spot will start to fade faster which will be a good sign since it’s an indication of better blood circulation. Who needs the Scraping Treatment People who has pain, aches, tenderness, or tension in the muscles. scraping therapy can prevent the common cold, flu, bronchitis, asthma, as well as any other chronic disorders that involve the congestion of blood and qi. In the area of pain-relief, scraping therapy is unequalled. Hence, we offer this treatment to all those who suffer pain from each parts of the body (head, neck, shoulders, back, legs, and joints ), and RSI (Repetitive Stress Injury) , sciatica and other nerve pain, migraine, rheumatism and many other disorders or dysfunctions. How often should Scraping Therapy be performed? Be performed once or twice a week, continue 3- 4 weeks for a treatment that will have better results. For health care be recommended once a month. Note: Make sure after a treatment you allow your body to rest in order to get the full detox benefits. This means no drugs, alcohol, sex, fasting, binging, hard labor, strenuous exercises, etc. for the rest of the day. Also, make sure you drink lots of warm water after the treatment as well as the next couple of days to keep your body well hydrated so that it can properly eliminate toxins released during the treatment. Scraping Therapy can assist with the following: Cough and Dyspnea: Bronchitis, Asthma, Emphysema Digestive Disorders Food Poisoning Fevers Fatigue caused by heat-stroke Gynecological Disorders Headaches Muscle and Tendon Injuries Sluggish Blood Circulation Stiffness, Pain, Immobility Sun-strokes Urinary Problems Excessive sweating Excess Flem Jaundice Chest Pains However, you should be ready for the pain from the treatment because it will get down to the right points ----- the roots or triggers of the targeting problems. As we all know, “ Pain is the warnings about the problems “. To overcome the obstacles of a cure, you have to learn to work with it. No Pain No Gain ? ----- yes, NO PAIN NO GAIN !

Messy blue monday

After a whole day and night's raining in Penang, the day opens up with a messy and deeper blue monday.  One staff applied for leave while another time off and my wife was having flu and fever.  There was  a bit of rain in the morning and it turns into a bright day, when I touched the mid span of the Penang bridge.

The traveling to Kl on the weekend ot see my sister in law was a tiring journey and after seeing her, I was depressed even more. Her conditions have deteriorated and her case is getting worse.

On the evening, I had a dinner with a US relative. She was recently divorced and after that she went on a diet and shake off 23 pounds and she was addicted to marathon and she looks happy and fit.  What a contrast between these two relatives. One dying and another enjoying a second spring in life.

Nevertheless, it was raining heavily last night and was like pouring and makes my trip to May's cafe and back very messy and tiring.

The thought of my dying sister in law have been on my mind and I have to calm my mind and not to be caught in this depressing time. It was amazing that I could drive 5 hours on saturday and drove back to Penang for another 5 hours on Sunday.  It was not so taxing as before when I could be totally drain off my energy and could be sleeping like a log.  I could regain my energy after two hours rest during my body massage on Sunday. It was amazing and maybe it could be the nuskin supplements that I have been taking these few months.

Well, I have to settle down fast in my job and bring back my normal working life to live on.  The show must go on.

Namaste.

The irony of life

The irony of life

When I read Steve Jobs last words about having wealth but stricken with cancer and yet money cannot get a solution for him to replace his sufferings and pain, I have actually seen a lot of such irony happening to people close to me.

Yes, my sister in law is in the same situation as what is happening to Steve. Her husband spend a lot of money to try to cure her but her conditions deteriorated by the day.  The Cancer have been eating away her health and she gets thinner everyday.

Her recent operation to remove the cancerous growth failed and I think she has withdrawn into a denial mode. She seems to be upset with all thing happening to her and refuse to speak or response. Yes, I think it is time for her family members to tell her to let go and must not give her too much hope.

Letting go is very difficult as the attachment of the family have been too long and the family bond is still strong. The happening is too sudden and my sister in law is too young to die. But. It has to be done . She has to pass on peacefully and closed all the chapters with the family and friends. Let her soul rest in peace. Everyone have to come to terms with life.

I have advise my niece to read up the book called " Chasing daylight ". It is about a top executive in a big 4 accounting firm coming in term with cancer at an early stage and prepare himself to face death and passes on. It was done in a very logical and professional way.

We hope the best for my sister in law but she needs to know the reality of life . Someone have to do the job and it is better to be fast.

Namaste.

Greed, the reason for restlessness

Is my mind contented with what I have ? Contentment bring happiness and a calm mind. Can we fulfill all our cravings so that we can be contented ? No, our cravings are always revolving and disturbin gour mind.

When we have a little, we want more and after getting a sligthly more, we want more and finally , we want it all. This is the human character. How do we contain our unfulfilled cravings or greed ? When we have a land, we want to build a house, when we have a house, we want a bungalow and when we have a bungalow , we want a palace. Bigger and bigger.  High and the highest,  wide and the widest and more until all. Yes, look at ourselve in the mirror and we can see our cravings if you notice or focus. 

When we get old, we touch up with powers , comestics and whatever we can find to make us younger and more attractive.  This is also part of cravings. So, greek is not about money or quantity only but there are many aspects of greed and some are more stutle.

How do we contained our cravings ? Yes, we control the mind and the heart. Sometimes , we blame our for the greed and we use the phase " greek of the heart ". But the heart is not a thinking and and there is no activities except to move the heart or pump the heart. Often we make our heart to feel and if we have more, we feel good. The stirring force is the mind.  The thinking machine which influenced the deal and teh attachment.

So if we want to make ourself contented, we work on our mind and calm it down or cut it down in zize. The smaller the image, the weaker the greed or discontentment. Cut down the wild thoughts going through our head and make it smaller so that more can be accept.

The mind linked to the heart and the body. Control the mind and you will control the body and heart. You cannot control the heart and body for the mind. It is only one way.from the mind down.

Namaste.

Wild imaginations

Wild imaginations 

Our imaginations depends on our mind whether it is tame or running wild or whether it is in an active or passive stage. Out mind keep evolving and thoughts will go through our heads in seconds. 

Some studies showed that there is about 50,000 thoughts going through our mind. In and out . Just imagine you switch on and off on your electric switch , it will blow your switch or the light bulbs linking to the switch. For your mind , it will get tired and it also drain the energy from the body. You will look tired , exhausted and drained . What kind of life ? Boring, passive and destructive.

So, we know our problem and we have to fix it . It is a simple solution, just reduce the number of thoughts going through our mind . By so doing , we will regain the freshness and our energy and our life.  It is as simple as that .

We have to train our mind every available moments and focus on the present and take away the thoughts in our mind. How to focus on the moment . Tell your mind the past is gone and the future is yet to come and what we have is the present moment.

If we focus, our thoughts will be less and less. It is not easy but teach our mind to also focus on our breath if we have nothing to focus on. This will train our mind to be obedient .

It is nothing difficult and we have to pace ourself at the beginning and it will get better and better.

If you are in a place at home or at work , find a quiet corner to do the exercise . Once a while , do it in an open field and we can enjoy the good chi or energy from nature.

Go and try it. 

Namaste.

Face of death

Face of death

I have seen the face of death a few times before. The pain , the frailness and the hope all mixed in the face. It is an image of confusion. It really awakes my awareness of death.

We cannot avoid death. The rich, the famous and the powerful have gone in the same way without exceptions. Nobody can buy time . Not the saintly, the evil and the commoner. Each one have to go at a specific time. A designated departure.

I was looking at my dying SIL with cancer. The look has deteriorated so much after a few weeks as the Cancer eat away the health of the body. Two weeks ago she could open her eyes and talk but yesterday , she could not open her eyes and talking took so much effort from her. She is a total wreck and is only the skin covering the bones on certain part of the bodies. The disease have been aggressive . So many  similar memories surged across my mind . It strikes the core of fear in me as the patient struggle to herself alive.

Tomorrow, she is going for an operation to remove part of the Cancer cell which could give her some hope to fight back despite all the risk . It is a bold step and instead of hoping , it is better to take a chance. Sometimes, ago I told the story of two mouse. Each one of them ran into a hole chased by a cat. One waited and took the chance to run out and survive as the cat dozed off while another mouse stayed behind and die of hunger. So, doing the same thing and expecting a different result is madness  as I said before in my previous article.

We will be praying for her and whatever result, it is destiny.

Namaste