What is marriage ?

Who created the concept of marriage? It is people and not GOD or our Creator , When GOD or the Creator creates Man and Women , there is no marriage concept. Everyone is for themselves and along time, there is some smart people who create the concept of man and wife and family. Why ? I think it basically to create the idea of possession and ownership to avoid social illness and to bring orderliness to the Establishment.  With this concept of ownership, it creates the trouble of GREED  and HONOUR.  Greed and honor for our self. What is ours is ours and the more the merrier. The concept of ownership creates a lot of miseries and discontentment in our life We fight and kill to prevent what we own.

I was talking to my lady staff and she told me that she has two relationship before and the starting was good and latter their true colors appeared.  She has been pursued by Doctors , lawyers and rich man but she just feel that many is not right for her at a first glance.  Their life style or thinking just could not fit into her life. She told me that she believe that there is no such thing as a perfect man and everybody is imperfect but it the imperfectness is not something unacceptable , then marriage is possible.

I asked her why is it that marriage is important to her if she cannot find a perfect person in her life. She told me that it is natural to be married and she is expected to be married before a certain age.  I told her that this is wrong as the concept of marriage is a creation by the Establishment and there is no guideline or norm . I told her that she must married only out of love and not complying with the expectation of others. But, she told me that it si natural to get married and to start a family like billions of other people.  She told me people will not accept her if she gives birth as a single mother.

I told her that my concept of life is like a house, If  we are staying happily in the house than we continued to stay in the house, But, if there si a lot of unhappiness or quarrels in house, then we should change house. Why do we need to stay in that house or the relationship if we are not happy at all. It is normal and logical just to buy our own house or find another house, That is all. The main point is that we must be happy and contented,

After saying this, I found that the mind set is very difficult to change as there are so many examples of happy marriage and this sets an example for the generations to follow. Everyone want to show everyone that a complete family is a happy family. Broken homes is always a taboo or a shame,

This is through the years of education and propaganda which have create this strong mind sets of ownership and what is a happy marriage.  Breaking it is hard to do, But , remember , it is also not wrong to think otherwise,

Namaste