Torn between two loves

Yes. It is like a song title : torn between two lovers feeling like a fool....yes, this is the situation faced by my buddy, Jimmy. Torn between a love for the father and his wife. It is no easy feat. Who is closer? The father who had take care of him for more than 30 years or a wife of 10 years who have bore him a child. He has responsibilty to both sides and it is delicate.

Some people see it very clear on the surface and will jump to the conclusion that his allegiance is to the father. Another point would be that where would be if not for your father. Wife is like our clothings which can be changed anytime. But, come to think about it deeply, the formula is more complicated. There is a strong bond and feeling between a husband and wife in addition to responsibility. The equation is more complex because a child is born.

When you have to choose between two loves amd is very difficult to be understood by an outsider looking in. There are many things which have happen and so much happiness and hurt have flow under the bridge which those involved can feel and understand. The character of the people involved also play a big part in the choice of selecting which love. There is a saying when you are not in it, you don't see it.

The only way my buddy can do is to balance the delicate situation. Again, it is no easy task. Lots of hard work and leg work and emotions will swing the feelings and there will be incidents of heart break and sadness.There is no perfect solutions in this case but a good balancing act.

For those people on the outsde looking in, don't pass judgement too fast. It is easy say than done. Let my buddy do his job. Outsiderzs mustaintain a neutral stand and stick to the compasssion wisdom that if we cannot help, don't hurt him and keep our gap shut.When the wind Come, it come for a reason.

Namaste.