The first love is always the sweetest.

I have a friend who have a loving relationship for 12 years since her lower six in a school in Penang.  A school sweet heart and they pursue their degree in different country . One in Australia and one in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. They broke up because she cannot get along with her potential mother in law. We were on the way to my house in Air Itam and she broke the news that her former ex-boy friend stays near to my house. There was a crack in her voice and sadness in her eyes. I asked her if going near her-ex house is okay with her and she told me that he might have migrated. Our conversation ended as that .  She is now married and she has two child now and she told me that she is older than her husband for 4 years.  She said that she wasted a lot of time on her-ex and it has been painful.

I want to share this experience with those who have gone through this path in the same or more or less the same way and help them to release that hidden feeling if it has been haunting you at regular intervals when you  feel the bitter taste in your tongue whenever the memory pricks you and shakes up old feelings. Learn to let it go . Don't fight it , just watch it and let it go.

There is a saying " we should not hope for eternal but only the experience of once  having it ".  What is over is over but fond memories will keep us thrilled and inspired as we re-live it in our memory. Think of the good things that happen and count the blessing that the good things have happen to you.  But , it is over and it is no point crying over spilled milk but enjoy the taste of milk in our mouth.

There is always a internal demon who speed up our heart beats and make us upset when we think of the waste chances and opportunity.  So much time wasted which otherwise could be some thing better.  It is always correct from the hindsight. You have have a worse relationship  or a more painful experience.  You are what you are today is because of your experience.  You know how to handle your present relationship much better now.  You are now able to close one eye or both eyes on your current husband's indulgence or mistakes. You are more  forgiving and tolerance in your present relationship.  You have gain a valuable insight into yourself , knowing your weakness and how to manage them for a good relationship.  There is always something good that come out of a bad relationship.

I do not know whether your current relationship will hold in the future but for the present moment, enjoy and strengthen it for you and your family.  Nothing is forever as feelings will mature and mellow. Everything will evolve and during the evolution, we are alert and aware and watch it with intensify as it changes. There is a saying " mixing together is fine but staying together is a totally different ball game.". Like I have said earlier, there is something good coming out of a bad relationship  and that is , you are a  better person with a good experience.

So much for now. While you are at it , enjoy it and learn to dance in the rain.

Namaste/