There are religious sayings that if we look at women with sex in mind , we are already committed an adultery. Why ? we have not done any harm to anybody ? It is only our dirty mind only.
In Buddhism, thinking is the first step and to be follow by action. So, in precaution, we stop the thinking ahead of the actions. But , this need not be the case as some of us only thinking about it and will forget it after our self gratification. This is only a moment of craving or desire which rise within our brain. We can just let it go and no harm is done. Why is it a sin ?
There are so many thoughts going through our mind and there will be a lot of sins if we consider thinking about it is a sin. Buddha's eight fold path is it forbidding this thoughtful sins ? Right action, Right thoughts , Right words , etc. Do we allow our mind to wonder and swing under the precept of Right thoughts ? I think it is only deterrent effect on this guiding precepts. When we don't want temptation, we must get away from the temptation. Just like we don't want to think dirty , we stop looking at girls or man which could trigger a dirty thought.
But, why do we look at pretty girls or handsome man and then stirred up our urge ? It is an instinct and a natural re-action from our inner self. Man are born with a hot - blooded desire. Otherwise, how do our population continued to grow. Who cares what we think ? It is all in our mind and nobody can see. We only feed guilty our self if we have dirty thoughts. All self contained .
I believe we see and think without action is still okay but without starting a desire to hurt or kill another person or act to hurt their integrity or human rights. In other words, we can do whatever we can in our mind to gratify our self if our mind is not properly trained or discipline. It is all our actions, our sin and our karma. Nevertheless, we can train our mind in a proper manner , then we should do it and kill all this thoughts at its bud.
We are what we are and think and act within.
Namaste.
Monday, November 28, 2016
Sunday, November 27, 2016
Blame
Last weekend, I listen to a youtube talk by Ajahn Brahm who talks about the subject of blame. The blame game is in all our everyday's life and we cannot stop people from blaming us.
He said that people will blame us for everything that does not happen nicely to them. Once, he was asked to give a chant at a patient's deathbed and the patient recovers subsequently but the family members scolded him as they have already prepared the funeral for their terminated ill relative. All the relatives have came from overseas and must come again if the patient really die. Ajahn said that he should ask the patient's family members what kind of chanting they want. Should he chant to sent the patient to die or to live. Yes, this is a blame game.
Another incident is a donkey who fell in a dry well. The farmers have been very angry with the donkey for damaging their crops and started to push the sand into the well to bury the donkey. Initially, the donkey gets edgy but after a while, the donkey stamp on the sand and gets higher and higher and finally, jump out from the well. Ajahn said that it is up to us to take the blame but each incident , we will go wiser and taller. We may not notice in the growth in us but we gets better and wiser . Human being is a strong creature and we can control our re-actions and can make wise decisions.
A blame can be positive or negative and it is all entire up to us. We can change the hurt and the pain into a positive strength . Let it be and do not look revenge but to live on well with not regrets.
Namaste.
He said that people will blame us for everything that does not happen nicely to them. Once, he was asked to give a chant at a patient's deathbed and the patient recovers subsequently but the family members scolded him as they have already prepared the funeral for their terminated ill relative. All the relatives have came from overseas and must come again if the patient really die. Ajahn said that he should ask the patient's family members what kind of chanting they want. Should he chant to sent the patient to die or to live. Yes, this is a blame game.
Another incident is a donkey who fell in a dry well. The farmers have been very angry with the donkey for damaging their crops and started to push the sand into the well to bury the donkey. Initially, the donkey gets edgy but after a while, the donkey stamp on the sand and gets higher and higher and finally, jump out from the well. Ajahn said that it is up to us to take the blame but each incident , we will go wiser and taller. We may not notice in the growth in us but we gets better and wiser . Human being is a strong creature and we can control our re-actions and can make wise decisions.
A blame can be positive or negative and it is all entire up to us. We can change the hurt and the pain into a positive strength . Let it be and do not look revenge but to live on well with not regrets.
Namaste.
Trust and doubts
In a Chinese saying " If you doubt a person , don't use him and if you decide to use the person, we have to give him complete trust ". It has been my policy and many a times, it was disappointing . It comes from both ways from the top or from the bottom.
From the top, if we are using our subordinates to do a job and give him a complete trust and in the end, we are either played out or they failed us. Greed and integrity are the main issues. After awhile, the subordinates go out of line and make decisions which do involved you and make a wrong decision as he or she fells that they are ready or become more knowledgeable.
From the bottom, the boss who used to trust us thinks that we are getting too big and over ride them. If it is true, the boss have all the rights to be angry but if it is misguided thinking or a fraction of his imagination , then it is very unfair to the subordinate who have been rooting all the time for the boss. This misguided action or response could be very hurting and can damaged the rapport between the boss and the subordinate. Either the boss is getting too big and gets suspicion or there is a gap already existing between the boss and subordinate. They have broken the link of communication and have eroded the trust between them. If this gap remains unhealed , it will get bigger and bigger and it could end in the relationship.
A trust takes years to grow and it can be broken in one day.
Namaste.
From the top, if we are using our subordinates to do a job and give him a complete trust and in the end, we are either played out or they failed us. Greed and integrity are the main issues. After awhile, the subordinates go out of line and make decisions which do involved you and make a wrong decision as he or she fells that they are ready or become more knowledgeable.
From the bottom, the boss who used to trust us thinks that we are getting too big and over ride them. If it is true, the boss have all the rights to be angry but if it is misguided thinking or a fraction of his imagination , then it is very unfair to the subordinate who have been rooting all the time for the boss. This misguided action or response could be very hurting and can damaged the rapport between the boss and the subordinate. Either the boss is getting too big and gets suspicion or there is a gap already existing between the boss and subordinate. They have broken the link of communication and have eroded the trust between them. If this gap remains unhealed , it will get bigger and bigger and it could end in the relationship.
A trust takes years to grow and it can be broken in one day.
Namaste.
Sunday, November 20, 2016
Sunday's today
Sunday's today
It was raining heavily last night and there was thunders and lightning as if the Gods were angry . The clashes of the thunder and lightning caused explosions as the Gods unleashed their power at each other causing the havoc and noise . I was awaken and could not sleep. Why the Gods are arguing and fight it out ??? Strange .
I have wake up at 8am and fetch my sisters to visit some properties and we had a cuppa while on the way. After visiting the properties , we had tim sum for breakfast . Again, we were on our way to see more properties . My sister is thinking of buying a property for her daughters .
After buying lunch for my wife , I took a power nap and I spend the whole afternoon lazying around in my living room. It is the same every Sunday , I would just sleep in front of the TV and changing for the right channel. It is a boring stuff but it is a necessity for me.
In the night ,it was birthday dinner celebration for my 2nd sister . All my family members gathered for a dinner and drinks. We had a good time and it was the end for another day.
Time have flew and we start another week tomorrow .
Namaste .
Famous Jakarta traffic jam
The famous Jakarta traffic jam
Sitting in the car and queuing in the famous jam in Jakarta is really no fun and joke . The traffic jam can last one to two hours during the morning and evening time as people rush to and from work. It is really dragging our feet In the jam moving inch by inch .
I was told one of the reason is that the traffic volume is too much and the Jakarta Government have implemented a system that allows odd and even number plate cars to enter the city on an alternate . You must remember which day to us which car . Hence , one person will have two cars to ensure that he is allow to travel by car each day. There are intermediate jams along the highways as the cars float the highway during morning rush and evening home coming trips .
It needs a lot patience on the road and it sometimes burn into our cores as boring sets in . One thing for sure , we must use the toilets ahead of each trips on the highways as the jams are unpredictable and sudden. We will be in a mess if we are caught in a jam and having to use the toilets . It will definitely a painful experience .
It is a plan to avoid trouble and not plan for failures .
Namaste
Friday, November 11, 2016
The moment
The moment
Another Saturday and after my morning yoga session , I am resting before lunch at May's Siting and waiting for my wife .
I am aware of the day's movement and feeling a bit restless and uneasy . I cannot focus on the TV and my mind is everywhere switching from thoughts to thoughts . My emotions shifting from a resting pace to an agitating mood. I have been training my mind at my own pace yet I cannot control the changing pace.
I am aware that time is moving fast and now is noon and in a while is evening and then night .
What is my purpose today ? Just resting , no urgent matters .
It will be a slow pace against a fast passing time .
Now is November , last month was October and next month is December . Then it will be 2017.
Wow.. Time really flies . Yeah , the thought is how many 10 years to we have . Live in a routine or a circle is really living ? No worries , eat , sleep and work is these all that matters .
Only have to aware billy not doing anything about it is living .
No. Awareness is not enough but to live and do something or anything which makes a difference matters . Help a person , teach a person or break a routine and to find freshness in our living is important .
Buddha says : learn to wait . Everything has its own time .
We cannot wait . We have to reach out .
Namaste
Tuesday, November 8, 2016
Nothing to do
In life, there are many arm chair critics and smart alex . There is nothing to do but want to create something to do. Just open their gap and shoot blanks and create a confusion and make them look important. These people do not have political backbones. Just shooting blanks and make noise.
On the other side, the soft ear fellows . There will listen to everything that barks and will doubts in their mind. There will create a lot of imaginations and want everything to be check . Even those clearly and logical things also they want to clarify.
IF we pull these two group of people together, the whole world will be topsy turvy and make the whole whole confused. These two group of people will talk and continue to talk which one side creates a situation and they points out many problems. Like the song which goes like this " someone want ot abuse and someone want to be abused" . Just it rattles on and on and on in no endings.
There is a saying " one type of rice , feed 100 types of people ". So it is an ever ending song.
So much noise, so much rattling and so much people without back bones and they need each other to lean on before they can stand.
Funny world.
Namaste.
On the other side, the soft ear fellows . There will listen to everything that barks and will doubts in their mind. There will create a lot of imaginations and want everything to be check . Even those clearly and logical things also they want to clarify.
IF we pull these two group of people together, the whole world will be topsy turvy and make the whole whole confused. These two group of people will talk and continue to talk which one side creates a situation and they points out many problems. Like the song which goes like this " someone want ot abuse and someone want to be abused" . Just it rattles on and on and on in no endings.
There is a saying " one type of rice , feed 100 types of people ". So it is an ever ending song.
So much noise, so much rattling and so much people without back bones and they need each other to lean on before they can stand.
Funny world.
Namaste.
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