So what ?

So what ? Last night I was at Gurney Plaza with my wife and she was shopping for an evening dress. I saw so many young couples as this was a Saturday night and a lot of young people come out courting. Out of these nicely dress couples, I saw a few young ladies with good features but have pimple scars in their face while the young men with them were charming and good looking. I was so proud of these young ladies with courage to walk in the public. I thought they would be embarrass and would hide themselves in private. But, they showed excellent courage and look so confident in the public. There could be others suffering in silence and in private cursing their luck and blaming their bad fortunes. For the timid ones , I would like to shake away the fear and come out to live their life and do their things. So what if other people stare at them or swear at them out of curiosity or jealousy. Break out of your shell and live . Why live to be what others expect you to live. Be your own self. Namaste.

Life is not fair - Jack Ma (extract)

Jack Ma: Life is Never Fair, How Can You Compete? Jack Ma, "How Can Life Be Fair? You are born in the village, Bill Gates' Children are born in the Gates' family. How can you ever compete? But one aspect is fair in Life. The Gates' have 24 hours in a day. YOU have 24 hours in a day as well." - 馬雲：阿里巴巴CEO如何成為一代企業家 How we all spend our 24 hours varies, but what we do with our individual 24 hours will determines the outcome of our tomorrow. We all know someone that is currently living a life that seems far more desirable than our current situation. They often take exotic holidays, frequent branded boutiques, eat at the best places in town and money never seems to be an issue. Don't blame others for being Rich, Don’t be jealous of others being Wealthy. Instead, focus on How can We Constantly improve and change ourselves, enriching ourselves by providing immense value to the society. Every time, we convince ourselves that this will be the time we eat healthier, work out more, and read more books but unfortunately, many of us fail to prepare adequately for these lifestyle changes, and wind up losing momentum in less than a month. Back to envying others. Our attitude determines our behavioural outlook in turns, determines the present state of our life. Let's face everything in Life with a strong positive attitude, and you might just start to find yourself prospering, ready to take your long deserved place in the World. Here's a few steps that I have learnt and applied that changed my life around, I hope it works for you as well. I have simplify it to 4 simple steps so that everyone can do it too. Step 1: Be Uncomfortable. Step out of your Comfort zone. We stretch our own limits and unleash a little of our true potential every time we step out of our comfort zone and do things that we do not feel comfortable doing. How about starting from today, try to meet and know 2 more people every single day? You would have expand your circle of network by 60 people at the end of the month. Step 2: Don't go back into your Comfort Zone. It just warm and fuzzy to get back into bed. But remember, as you snooze in your comfort zone, there are friends, family members and strangers that are breaking their limits and using the same hours that you have, improving themselves, meeting new clients, coming up with new strategies. And when the New Year comes, will you be the one that is excited to meet everyone and share your new found lifestyle or the one that is silently thinking that another year have gone by and life still sucks? Step 3: Be a little more Hardworking, a little more Objective Driven. That is your ONLY responsibility, do a little more than the person sitting next to you, and aim to hit more objectives than what your company sets for you. Your colleagues and peers will start to wonder why they can never seems to catch up to you. Step 4: If you are unhappy with your job, change your job. Stop working there. The more you work, the more you hate it. Isn't it pointless? Look for alternatives, what resonates with your core being? Creating Events? Having a cafe that serves quality health food? Educating? I personally enjoy helping businesses to improve their sales, creating businesses that can improves people's lifestyle. It provides me a great sense of satisfaction when the people around me experience success together. At this very minute, Think what you are going to do differently and Start doing it from today. I will be looking forward to hearing your results after 1 month.

The faces are going ....

The faces are all going .... Today, I went with my daughter M to a furniture shop selling wooden doors and I thought I know the lady in-charge which I have dealt with her 5 years ago. I know her shop was burn down before and it was rebuild again. The clerk in charge told me that she passed away two years ago after I asked for her. She has died of Cancer. I was taken aback and have to recompose myself for awhile. Woh! Another acquaintant have passed on. I think she is about 40 years old . I feel people in the generation above me and some below me have gone on their way and each time I heard about a passing , I became more aware of the nature of life and Buddha's teaching of birth ,old age ,sickness and death. Everybody have to go someday and when there is death, there is life. If we live forever , it will be a torture. So why we have to make a fuzz at imperfections surrounding us. Everything is just an illusion. Namaste.

May's Place - coming soon

May's place My daughter May's cafe is getting in shape and hope to be operational in the month of June 15，As usual projects are always delayed as human beings take their own sweet time to do things，This is the norm especially among Gen Ys。 By this time my daughter have taken one year's leave or from study since quitting her job in August last year from Danna Hotel, langkawi. She has been lazying around and traveling for a fair bit seeing part of the world . Now she is stepping into the Business world and have to face the harshreality in life. Business is never easy and she will need to deal with all the Problems coming her way whether it is big or small, she has to handle all the matters hands on， Well. Some people is meant to do business and some is destined to work for other people，It is mend to be. So let water find its own level naturally. Namaste

The middle finger

Why do we feel that rising the middle finger is offensive and provocating ?  It is a universal sign which means " fuck off " or " up your asses" People expressed their frustration and by showing their middle finger and it is a sign that expressed all our feelings. It is so satisfying that we show our middle finger to rough out someone. Even the ladies do it.

Why not the 1st finger or 2nd finger or other fingers ? It does not expressed the feelings we want to expressed except using the third finger maximized our total feelings of expression. We feel shoik after showing the middle finger.

Why the middle finger ? It is always the longest , standing up in the middle of our hand and it is the most forceful of all the fingers as the thrust will be the strongest.  I think that is the reason .  This is to hurt our enemies or the people we want to hurt the deepest and the hardest.

Well, it is the feeling that matters and how we feel after showing off our middle fingers and we do not matter how it hurts our image as long as we feel good after that. Most of the people would understand the expression but for some naive ones, it maybe confusing to them and that will not hurt them at all.

It is a universal sign and if it is used wrongly, we can be hammered or get blown off from this earth if the other people on the recieving end cannot take this gesture. Normally, it is the male that shows it because it resembles part of their manhood and if female used it, it would considerd inappropriate.
Why? Why women want to volunteer to do this sexy for a male ? Isn't that not logical and silly ?

Namaste.

Crying , why ?

Lately , some of my staff cried in front of me due to the stress in work or in desperations. Why do people cry ?  Is it a weakness ? It seems to be that strong people never cry or some cry in their heart. But , this is not true.  Crying is a way to relieve stress or let go the pain in us.  Cry by all means and do not be shameful about it.

If those people under stress or depression keep their hurt in them, it hardens them and make them very agitated and emotional.  These hurted people can be very defensive and confrontational. The stress in them continued to build up and until a trigger point , it will just bust like a bomb hurting all the people besides them.

To hold back the tears is like a blockage to a dam and the water keeps building up behind the dam and until a point the dam got busted.  The pressure keeps building up and pushing against the dam. But once, there is a hole to relieve the pressure of the water, the pressure behind the dam will subside and the dam will be safe again. Just like the tears in our eyes.

The tears in our eyes not only relieve the pressure or the stress points but it gives an opening to our emotions also.  The non tear factors like the emotional explosion leaving the body and mind clear once the rain or storm  is gone.

Crying is another way to let go.  Let go of the hurts and bad experience.  After the crying , our emotions are more balance and our view are more clear. So let it go , let it flow.  It is just as simple as that and don't mind what other people think about you.  Sometimes, it is the feeling of embarrassment and redicule by others that we hold back the tears and to maintain a strong front.  For whatever reasons , let your feeling goes and let the tear drop fall as when the occasion calls for it.

Namaste.

The present is here, live it.

I saw a very wise word on my FB, it says : "The past is gone, learn from it, the future is uncertain, plan for it and the present is here ,live it".  I was so impressed with these few words as it says a lot of thing. 

Yes, we are always carrying our past with us and this become a burden to us .  The good , the bad and ulgy and all these past experience add on the weight to our journey. Why are we not letting go of it and live freely in the present.  It is all about choice and this choice lies within us.

We also worry about the future and of its uncertainties   Why is there to worry if we cannot control it and so let it be but plan for the raining days and live simply.  Make sure we are able to recover from any uncertainties and live well.

All we have is now and we do not have the future yet, so let us live it to the fullest without reservations. Live as if there is no tomorrow and no yesterday.  Let it go and enjoy every minutes and second that we have because tomorrow is uncertain.  We dance in the rain and we sing under the sun and let our spirits be free with no burdens.

So, lets be clear.  Don't let the past hinder us, don't let the future bother us and we sing and dance in the present and with no regrets.

All these choices is within us and we can decide and if we choose to be miserable ,we deserved it as there is no need to be miserable as you can choose not to.

Namaste.