Hurting the people we love most

It is ironical why we talk politely and keep a smile when we talk to strangers but to our immediately family members , we often show our true colors  and talk straight to them.  This is the wrong mindset as we take for granted that the people who love us or we love will tolerate our displeasure  and outburst.

In this society, we are expected to put forward our best front and look and talk pleasantly Otherwise, we will be deemed as mad or crazy people. Of course, if we smile or greet our adversaries is also deemed to be out of this world.

Have you ever asked why?  Is this our upbringing  or this is a normal way of thinking or behaviour in our society?  We should be doing the reverse, that is to appreciate the people who love us or we love and give them the best treatment  and appreciation.  We must be mad or rrazy if we hurt them. It would be like biting the hand that feeds you or care for you.

When our boss scold us or talk rudely to us , we keep our cool  and become apologetic  and still have to keep a pleasant face infront of them. But, if our wife or husband or mother or father said  or do something out of line or we don't like we jump at them and sometimes , releasing all the frustration and pent up emotions all at one leash at them.  We take for granted that it will all end well after this idoitic act  But, please remember, the hurts remains  and they suffer in silence. So, when we are young, we do it to your parents or your elders but when you get old, the young ones will do the same to you.  What goes around, comes around.   This is a stupid mindset which we need to unlearn,

When a young couple is couting, they will put forward their best and try to attract their partners and let them believe that you are the best for them but after you are married, most often, you will keep your cosmetics and best dress for occasions with outsiders and wear the worst clothing in the house. You will be consider mad , if you wear the best clothes with best cosmetic look with only your husband or your parents. But , isn't this the way.  We should be at our best with the ones we love. Why are we caring so much for the strangers.  This is madness , A wrong upbringing and a bad example of society. When we are sick or down who will care for us , outsiders ?

Folks, we have to think and live of the box , the life is the box is wrong.  Wake up and make the change.

Namaste.