Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder

This phrase " beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" was written by Shakespeare, the famous author of many good classical English novels and literature. Anybody who read  English literature should know who Shakespeare is, otherwise , he will look very foolish.

What is the meaning of this phrase ? It simply means that the perception of beauty is different for different people. There is a similar Chinese saying " Each type of flower attracts different admirers. For example, some people like rose ,some like sunflower , some like cactus and many more.

In our current generation and in certain countries, slim girls  are deemed to be beautiful but in other countries and cultures, plum girls are considered to be more beautiful. So, one man's food is another man's poison under different cultures ,religion or race. There is no  such thing as absolute beauty in every body's eyes.

Our perception of beauty have been influenced by our education, our family electronic medias , magazines and most of all , through advertisement.  If you look at advertisements in the newspaper or magazine and on TV, the producers used slim shape models to advertise their products. Hence, the Establishment happens to define what is beauty in our mind and our expectation.Like in mantra chanting, a constant repetition of a certain image depicting what is beauty will form our understanding  and vision in our mind.

In our daily example, we frequently see odd couples whereby the lady is slim and beautiful while the man is the opposite ,which we deeded as  fat and ugly but they are a loving couple.  There could be some special relations in the relationship but sometimes, what we see as ugly is beautiful  to the opposite sex.  Just like the classic  film " Beauty and the Beast ".  Their loving attraction is strong and firm while their relationship is full of love and care.

The phrase talk about what the eye can see but it is more than just the sight. In love, the recipe is more complex as it involves also the inner beauty instead of just the external appearance. The inner beauty comprises of knowledge, speak, wisdom , gracefulness and many other aspects. It has been said that the external beauty fade with time but the inner beauty is like wine, the older the better. It fragrance of beauty is expressed in a Chinese song, " fragrance come in the night". 

Apart from both the external and inner ingredients, the chemistry of two person is very important.  This is a harmonizing effect like the magic of North and South pole. Opposite poles attracts and sometimes, it is very difficult for outsiders to know the chemistry. It just happen as if it is pre-destined in heaven.  Love is like fools rushes in when angels fear to threat. It is sometime senseless and uncontrollable.  It could be the sweetness and magic of the chemistry. Some ladies would look for a person who resemble their father or teacher or their idols and so on and so forth. It is a strange game but if it makes you happy,  pursue and enjoy it. Taste the sweetness when it last and hopefully, it can last forever.

In my view, there is no absolute beauty or a perfect beauty. It never exist and will never  exist as the expectation of each person  is so variable . Folks, there is always a partner out there waiting for you. Just move in and reach out and touch a hand. If you don't try, you will never know.

Love to all.

Namaste.