I had dinner with my family and my sister at Mizi bistro again tonight. While driving back home, I was feeling sleepy and yawn a few times. I thought I will fall a sleep soon and upon reaching the house, I took a shower and head straight to bed. I went to the internet and pull out a few old songs and get myself ready for bed. But, it did not happen this way. My eyes were heavy but my heart could not slow down and make my mind became restless. It must be because of the Chinese tea I had in the afternoon while watching TV. Well, what can I say and I wanted to share some experience which I had in New World Park,Penang.
After dinner with my family at Mizi, I walk around the park and I saw a presentation by some youth on the stage. The theme was " Youth in action ". It was perform by a group of youngsters belonging to a particular church. The group of youth was trying very hard to impress on the audience that they are responsible to save the earth for the future generations. One of the actor read out a poem calling the people to give back what we take so that the world remain as it is. The message was to request the people to imagine that there is no more tress and everything is barren on this earth, what shall the future generations do? It will be sufferings and hard life.
The audience was less than 30 people but it did not dampen the spirit of these young actors and actress. All they want to do is to express themselves and tell the world to care for them. It is a pity that this meaningful play has not got the attention of the people. It does not matter that quality of the acting is raw but the message is important. On a saturday night,all the people is busy enjoying themselves or shopping and leaving this group of youngsters crying out loud for attention. Hello Fellas, please lend them your ears and listen to their cry and what they tell you about the future is real. So, sit up and do something
Before my tired eyes closed for the night, all of us should be aware the hole in the ozone layer is getting bigger and bigger and the ice cap in the north pole is melting and th weather is changing rapidly. There are more earthquakes and flooding this year. Please note that the GODS are getting angry and letting the disasters to wake us up. Just be aware and discipline ourself to reverse the damage we have done to the mother earth. The power is in our hands. Yes, this is the message spelled out by the youth. The power of changeo rest in our hands and it is within us. The choice and decision is within us to exercise.
Before it is too late, please give or contribute whatever you can, in a small way or a big way, please do something to save the future for our generations to come.
Namaste.
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Friday, December 9, 2011
Reflections on life
I woke up early this morning and my mind start wondering. I have slept early the night before and the body is responding by waking me up. A lot of thoughts go through my head as I say before each of us can experience about 50,000 times of changing thoughts per day. If you try to switch off your light switch in your house by 50,000 times, your bulb will blow or you will get exhausted. This is for sure but our mind is so flexible that it can accommodate this repeated process. Of course, there are side effects of this repeated process, it used up your energy and add stress to your body system and you become restless. My way to tame the mind is to write about my experience and share with all of you. If you read my article, you are also focusing your mind and reduce the disturbing thoughts coming through your head and you will feel better.
Yesterday, I had a lunch with a friend, SL and after telling me her travelling experience in the winter in China, she told me that she read an article about people study and work hard to earn money and after that, use the money to cure their health. This is a funny side of life. I know SL when she was a young audit staff and she worked so hard and sacrifice her social life and marriage to become a audit director. Audit work is very tedious and long hours and very stressful. It is a matter of creditability and you cannot afford to make any mistakes which could finished off your career.
Our body can only take that amount of stress and if it has exceed its limit, it will sent feelers to alert the body system. Just like when the amount of my sleep have reach its limit, my body will automatically wake up. When people realize and start to question the purpose of life, it signify the body and mind has enough of stress and we will need to let go. Change our habits and living style. We have better to act fast.
I told SL, this is the irony of life. The great Dalai Lama have question this irony of us chasing for money and after that use the money we earned to cure our body from sickness. It would be better to take care of our body and mind before it gets sick from over work or over stress. We lost our focus many times in our life journey. We do not know how to relax and enjoy the precious present moments. Our awareness have became dull from our pursue of material gains. The importance of adding more zeros behind our net worth is so important and even if can became excessive, we still pursue it as a sign of success and security. We believe we cannot fall sick from work and stress and we can live forever. When we have make enough, we will stop and enjoy but there is never enough and we continue to push our body and mind to work for us. So, we get sick.
This evening, I was told by my brother, Weng that he is feeling sick because of his blood sugar is too high. I went into the internet and check out what causes high blood sugar. Too much carbohydrates and lack of exercise. The body mechanism have started to break down as age catches up and his poor diet and lack of exercise. My brother, Weng is the least worried guy about money. He does not earn much and he does not spend much and he always tell us that he has no " battle with life". This is a Chinese figure of speech which means he is at peace and is not fighting for more wealth. He sleeps and a lot and never exercise much and eat too much rice. Yes, life is fair and there is a reason for every thing.
These two person ie SL and Weng is the two end of the extremes. One is working so hard and so stressful and another, so lax and "come what may" atttitude but both is heading for trouble in their health. Life is fair and if you do not take care of your body, you will get sick and don't beg on your luck. There are so many factors to good health and we have to find a balance and manage it well. I believe Buddha's concept of middle path is the right way. Away from both the extremes and find the level of good health. The middle line is different for different people and you will need to find it yourself. There is no one formula that suits all.
So, please start to find your health line within yourself and manage it well. Not too much stress, not too lazy and a good diet.
Namaste.
Yesterday, I had a lunch with a friend, SL and after telling me her travelling experience in the winter in China, she told me that she read an article about people study and work hard to earn money and after that, use the money to cure their health. This is a funny side of life. I know SL when she was a young audit staff and she worked so hard and sacrifice her social life and marriage to become a audit director. Audit work is very tedious and long hours and very stressful. It is a matter of creditability and you cannot afford to make any mistakes which could finished off your career.
Our body can only take that amount of stress and if it has exceed its limit, it will sent feelers to alert the body system. Just like when the amount of my sleep have reach its limit, my body will automatically wake up. When people realize and start to question the purpose of life, it signify the body and mind has enough of stress and we will need to let go. Change our habits and living style. We have better to act fast.
I told SL, this is the irony of life. The great Dalai Lama have question this irony of us chasing for money and after that use the money we earned to cure our body from sickness. It would be better to take care of our body and mind before it gets sick from over work or over stress. We lost our focus many times in our life journey. We do not know how to relax and enjoy the precious present moments. Our awareness have became dull from our pursue of material gains. The importance of adding more zeros behind our net worth is so important and even if can became excessive, we still pursue it as a sign of success and security. We believe we cannot fall sick from work and stress and we can live forever. When we have make enough, we will stop and enjoy but there is never enough and we continue to push our body and mind to work for us. So, we get sick.
This evening, I was told by my brother, Weng that he is feeling sick because of his blood sugar is too high. I went into the internet and check out what causes high blood sugar. Too much carbohydrates and lack of exercise. The body mechanism have started to break down as age catches up and his poor diet and lack of exercise. My brother, Weng is the least worried guy about money. He does not earn much and he does not spend much and he always tell us that he has no " battle with life". This is a Chinese figure of speech which means he is at peace and is not fighting for more wealth. He sleeps and a lot and never exercise much and eat too much rice. Yes, life is fair and there is a reason for every thing.
These two person ie SL and Weng is the two end of the extremes. One is working so hard and so stressful and another, so lax and "come what may" atttitude but both is heading for trouble in their health. Life is fair and if you do not take care of your body, you will get sick and don't beg on your luck. There are so many factors to good health and we have to find a balance and manage it well. I believe Buddha's concept of middle path is the right way. Away from both the extremes and find the level of good health. The middle line is different for different people and you will need to find it yourself. There is no one formula that suits all.
So, please start to find your health line within yourself and manage it well. Not too much stress, not too lazy and a good diet.
Namaste.
Finding someone like you - adele
For most of us, we have a few relationships before we settle down with the better half we are having now. These relationships could be good or bad experieinces and it became a permanent part of us.Some are fond memories and some are nightmares.For those fond memories, we regret that the love did not last but it became hurt instead. Such feelings was aroused by the song sang by Adele. The love did not die and it became regrets and we go all out to replace the love by finding someone like our lost love.
The truth is that if we find the one who resemble our past love, it will always be different. No one can be alike and it will end in disappointment if we try to make our new love behave or do the things like our past love. The search will never be ending if we start to compare two different people who have strong resemblance.
In the song, Adele sang about the memories of her past love and regret it never last and she will continue to search for "someone like you". SHe also begging your past love to remember her and she always remembered what he said " sometimes, love will last but sometimes, it ends in hurt. When we lost something good, we search desperately for it but when we had it in our hands, we take it granted. There will be no more appreciation if we take it for granted that it will happen in the way we want or expect to happen.
We have to let it go and if we continue to hold on to the past, nothing new will come. There will be new happening if we let go and we can start to have a new look at life. New adventure, new life, new expectations and new experience. Happiness is always within us and shifting of our expectation and perception is also with us. We had better to appreciate things more readily instead of taking things for granted. As our relationship matures,we will be focusing on the features we like and if anything goes out of place, we will jump and fuzz about it. For a granted situation, if we do nine things which is routinely perfect and remaining one is out of expectation, our better halves will see only the imperfect routine and will focus and attack it. This is a natural human psychology and nature working of the mind.
If we take a fresh look at things and take time to express our appreciation, your life will much happier and you will enjoy new experience and enconters. Love if last for a long while, it will become care. We should know the changing phases in our life. If you have the wisdom and understanding, you should change your color lens and see it will your naked eyes. Things will be different if we see things in different lights and angles.
Don't hold on things, let it go and new things will happen.
Namaste.
The truth is that if we find the one who resemble our past love, it will always be different. No one can be alike and it will end in disappointment if we try to make our new love behave or do the things like our past love. The search will never be ending if we start to compare two different people who have strong resemblance.
In the song, Adele sang about the memories of her past love and regret it never last and she will continue to search for "someone like you". SHe also begging your past love to remember her and she always remembered what he said " sometimes, love will last but sometimes, it ends in hurt. When we lost something good, we search desperately for it but when we had it in our hands, we take it granted. There will be no more appreciation if we take it for granted that it will happen in the way we want or expect to happen.
We have to let it go and if we continue to hold on to the past, nothing new will come. There will be new happening if we let go and we can start to have a new look at life. New adventure, new life, new expectations and new experience. Happiness is always within us and shifting of our expectation and perception is also with us. We had better to appreciate things more readily instead of taking things for granted. As our relationship matures,we will be focusing on the features we like and if anything goes out of place, we will jump and fuzz about it. For a granted situation, if we do nine things which is routinely perfect and remaining one is out of expectation, our better halves will see only the imperfect routine and will focus and attack it. This is a natural human psychology and nature working of the mind.
If we take a fresh look at things and take time to express our appreciation, your life will much happier and you will enjoy new experience and enconters. Love if last for a long while, it will become care. We should know the changing phases in our life. If you have the wisdom and understanding, you should change your color lens and see it will your naked eyes. Things will be different if we see things in different lights and angles.
Don't hold on things, let it go and new things will happen.
Namaste.
Lunch with SL at Mizi today
I arrived at G-hotel to pick up a friend and she finished her meeting a bit later then the schedule time of 12.30pm. So, I casually walked to Gurney Plaza and got so cash from the ATM in the Mall. After that, I walk back to G hotel to wait for SL. She came out at 1pm and we have to rush to the lunch place which I have suggested to her earlier.
At Mizi Bistro, I ordered Spegatti olio and she order Spegatti seafood. The portion was a bit excessive but I was able to finish my portion while she eat only half. Anyway, the conversation gets on and we talk about the art of negotiation and how we should proceed to get a win-win compromise. We should mitigate the difference and fine a level to agree on. I have been talking to her about her sharp increase in her service fee for last financial year and we still could not find a compromise. Anyway, the matter have to be resolved as it is going on to another financial year already.
We sided tracked by talking about traveling during the winter as I was going to South Korea at the end of December 2011. She have several good tips to advise me and I would like to share with all of you.
1) Bring along a few pairs of long johns as sometimes when the weather gets too cold, one pair is not enough. You will have to wear two pairs and a few layers of winter clothing ;
2) Never wear a tight jean as the long johns will make it tighter and jeans are not thick enough to block the cold ;
3) We need a scarf to cover our neck because the cold air will go down the neck and on to the chest area ;
4) Another sensitive point is the ear. We have to wear ear covers , otherwise, you have a feeling that the ear will fall off ;
5) Don’t wear low socks and shoes will small holes as the cold air will go in and will go up your legs. Low socks will be less protective ;
6) The heat from the body will go up the head and it will make the whole body cold. It is a must to wear a hat or a head cover ;
7) Buy a good jacket as it is important to keep the cold out ;
8) Bring along a sun glass as it is very important to protect our eyes from the light reflection from the snow ;
9) One of the problem is that our baggage will be very heavy because of the heavy clothing that we need.
There many more tips to offer but this is not an exhaustive list.
After the talk, I feel very uncomfortable with the thoughts of having to travel with so heavy stuff. She told me that another discomfort is that we have to take off our jackets when we enter our hotel, put on our jackets when we go out to board our bus, take off our jackets when we board the bus and put on our jackets when we get off our bus. The reason is that the hotels and the buses have heaters. If you are wearing three or four jackets, you have to imagine the need to take off three or four times each time you enter a hotel , buses or malls.
So, wish me a pleasant holidays , folks.
Namaste.
At Mizi Bistro, I ordered Spegatti olio and she order Spegatti seafood. The portion was a bit excessive but I was able to finish my portion while she eat only half. Anyway, the conversation gets on and we talk about the art of negotiation and how we should proceed to get a win-win compromise. We should mitigate the difference and fine a level to agree on. I have been talking to her about her sharp increase in her service fee for last financial year and we still could not find a compromise. Anyway, the matter have to be resolved as it is going on to another financial year already.
We sided tracked by talking about traveling during the winter as I was going to South Korea at the end of December 2011. She have several good tips to advise me and I would like to share with all of you.
1) Bring along a few pairs of long johns as sometimes when the weather gets too cold, one pair is not enough. You will have to wear two pairs and a few layers of winter clothing ;
2) Never wear a tight jean as the long johns will make it tighter and jeans are not thick enough to block the cold ;
3) We need a scarf to cover our neck because the cold air will go down the neck and on to the chest area ;
4) Another sensitive point is the ear. We have to wear ear covers , otherwise, you have a feeling that the ear will fall off ;
5) Don’t wear low socks and shoes will small holes as the cold air will go in and will go up your legs. Low socks will be less protective ;
6) The heat from the body will go up the head and it will make the whole body cold. It is a must to wear a hat or a head cover ;
7) Buy a good jacket as it is important to keep the cold out ;
8) Bring along a sun glass as it is very important to protect our eyes from the light reflection from the snow ;
9) One of the problem is that our baggage will be very heavy because of the heavy clothing that we need.
There many more tips to offer but this is not an exhaustive list.
After the talk, I feel very uncomfortable with the thoughts of having to travel with so heavy stuff. She told me that another discomfort is that we have to take off our jackets when we enter our hotel, put on our jackets when we go out to board our bus, take off our jackets when we board the bus and put on our jackets when we get off our bus. The reason is that the hotels and the buses have heaters. If you are wearing three or four jackets, you have to imagine the need to take off three or four times each time you enter a hotel , buses or malls.
So, wish me a pleasant holidays , folks.
Namaste.
Silence is golden ..at times.
I am sure that the taxi cab driver learnt that it pays to keep your mouth shut in some situations
Lesson:
A woman and her ten-year-old son were riding in a taxi in Montreal.
It was raining and all the prostitutes were standing under the awnings.
"Mom" said the boy "what are all those women doing?"
"They're waiting for their husbands to get off work" she replied.
The taxi driver turns around and says "Geez lady, why don't you
tell him the truth? They're hookers, boy! They have sex with men for money."
The little boy's eyes get wide and he says "Is that true Mom?"
His mother, glaring hard at the driver, answers in the affirmative.
After a few minutes, the kid asks "Mom, what happens to the
babies those women have?"
"Most of them become taxi drivers" she said.
Lesson:
A woman and her ten-year-old son were riding in a taxi in Montreal.
It was raining and all the prostitutes were standing under the awnings.
"Mom" said the boy "what are all those women doing?"
"They're waiting for their husbands to get off work" she replied.
The taxi driver turns around and says "Geez lady, why don't you
tell him the truth? They're hookers, boy! They have sex with men for money."
The little boy's eyes get wide and he says "Is that true Mom?"
His mother, glaring hard at the driver, answers in the affirmative.
After a few minutes, the kid asks "Mom, what happens to the
babies those women have?"
"Most of them become taxi drivers" she said.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Wisdom teasers - fair and square.
One day, my former Japanese boss came back to Penang for a visit. He had retired from our Parent Company and now he wondering around giving lectures or write articles. During our meeting with him in our board room, there were 30 of my colleagues gather around him to hear him talk.
He chose to tell a story and invite us to say out our thoughts.
One day, you visit your friend's house and after drinking and chatting in the living room for a while, you feel like going to the toilet. Your friend's house toilet and bathroom is attached to each other and you push open the door and ysaw a naked women taking her bath. What would you do? It was a tricky question.
He chose four persons to answer this question.
The first person's answer is to say sorry , apologize and shut the door behind us.
The second person was to asked the naked women whether he can join her in her bath.(Dirty old man)
The third person answered that he will stand and stare.(Another dirty old man)
Do you want to know the answer :
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The correct thing to do: Continue to do the things you want to do in the toilet. If you want to pee, you pee and wash your hands and get out as if the naked lady is not there. Whoever she maybe, talk nothing and do not apologize to her as you have seen everything about her and she already saw your most precious private part. It is also embarassing for her to tell.
Namaste.
He chose to tell a story and invite us to say out our thoughts.
One day, you visit your friend's house and after drinking and chatting in the living room for a while, you feel like going to the toilet. Your friend's house toilet and bathroom is attached to each other and you push open the door and ysaw a naked women taking her bath. What would you do? It was a tricky question.
He chose four persons to answer this question.
The first person's answer is to say sorry , apologize and shut the door behind us.
The second person was to asked the naked women whether he can join her in her bath.(Dirty old man)
The third person answered that he will stand and stare.(Another dirty old man)
Do you want to know the answer :
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The correct thing to do: Continue to do the things you want to do in the toilet. If you want to pee, you pee and wash your hands and get out as if the naked lady is not there. Whoever she maybe, talk nothing and do not apologize to her as you have seen everything about her and she already saw your most precious private part. It is also embarassing for her to tell.
Namaste.
Expects nothing in return.
Many people are disappointed because they expects returns in everything they do. If we are wise enough, we must train or teach our self to expects nothing and if something is given in return, treat it as a bonus. Disappointment breeds unhappiness and sufferings. Who is to suffer ? It is you and nobody else.
We have been influence or taught that if we give out something or we do something for people, we should be rewarded with a return whether monetary or otherwise. If I give a day of work, I should be paid a day’s work or if fetch a person home, we expects that person should be grateful and repay our kindness. We equate everything we do to something we can get immediately or in the future. This is logical as it is true that we work a day, we get a day’s wage.
However, our relationship with people is different because there is no contractual obligation for the other person to pay us for something we have done or gave to him or her. If there in no obligations and it is based on a voluntary basis then we should expect nothing. The choice is theirs to decide and we should not be disappointed if they do not want to repay you.
I have seen many good friends feeling disappointed with each other because one party have been giving and giving and expecting the other party to reciprocate but in the end, the other party takes for granted or treat the kind deeds on a voluntary basis without obligations. There are two sides to a coin and the designs on each side is different. So is our expectations.
When such incidents occurs, we start to pass judgments and try to analyses who is right and who is wrong ? Every words we say have different meanings and every sight we see have different focus and weight of each word or sight is different, so how can each expectation be the same? What you expect and what other give in return will not necessary match. So, there is bound to be many arguments and conflict of expectations.
If we are wise enough, we expects nothing and if we expects zero, we will be at the lowest level and how can we be disappointed when nothing comes in return. Zero matches zero. So, if we gets 1 and above, it is more than expectations already and it is an additional reward or bonus. We are taught to look high and if we gets half, it is already good. But, this philosophy can only be applied in different perspective. It is in the reverse and it is a matter of looking at a half filled glass. Is it half filled or half empty? It means very differently to different people. So, we can argue until the cows come home and still we cannot agree with each other.
We can agree to disagree and we can have our own wisdom to comfort us. We can aim high and console our self ir we get half or choose to expects nothing and treat any rewards as a bonus. Both approaches are very difficult to accomplished unless we have enough kind compassion or loving kindness to be humble to expects nothing.
I shall leave the matter for all of you to ponder and come to your own conclusion. There are so many ways to reach happiness and you have to choose your own way because it is your own life.
Namaste.
We have been influence or taught that if we give out something or we do something for people, we should be rewarded with a return whether monetary or otherwise. If I give a day of work, I should be paid a day’s work or if fetch a person home, we expects that person should be grateful and repay our kindness. We equate everything we do to something we can get immediately or in the future. This is logical as it is true that we work a day, we get a day’s wage.
However, our relationship with people is different because there is no contractual obligation for the other person to pay us for something we have done or gave to him or her. If there in no obligations and it is based on a voluntary basis then we should expect nothing. The choice is theirs to decide and we should not be disappointed if they do not want to repay you.
I have seen many good friends feeling disappointed with each other because one party have been giving and giving and expecting the other party to reciprocate but in the end, the other party takes for granted or treat the kind deeds on a voluntary basis without obligations. There are two sides to a coin and the designs on each side is different. So is our expectations.
When such incidents occurs, we start to pass judgments and try to analyses who is right and who is wrong ? Every words we say have different meanings and every sight we see have different focus and weight of each word or sight is different, so how can each expectation be the same? What you expect and what other give in return will not necessary match. So, there is bound to be many arguments and conflict of expectations.
If we are wise enough, we expects nothing and if we expects zero, we will be at the lowest level and how can we be disappointed when nothing comes in return. Zero matches zero. So, if we gets 1 and above, it is more than expectations already and it is an additional reward or bonus. We are taught to look high and if we gets half, it is already good. But, this philosophy can only be applied in different perspective. It is in the reverse and it is a matter of looking at a half filled glass. Is it half filled or half empty? It means very differently to different people. So, we can argue until the cows come home and still we cannot agree with each other.
We can agree to disagree and we can have our own wisdom to comfort us. We can aim high and console our self ir we get half or choose to expects nothing and treat any rewards as a bonus. Both approaches are very difficult to accomplished unless we have enough kind compassion or loving kindness to be humble to expects nothing.
I shall leave the matter for all of you to ponder and come to your own conclusion. There are so many ways to reach happiness and you have to choose your own way because it is your own life.
Namaste.
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