Good day to all of you. I have to quote a brief paragraph from the book , The Secret to enlighten all of you the power of positive thinking. It is as simple as if you think good about yourself , you feel good. As I have said before, you are what you think and similarly, there is a favorite saying , you are what you eat. Our body and mind response to our thinking. If you think you are beautiful , why not ? Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
In the book, The Secret, there was this example of a lady who woke up everyday and before she do anything. She thank the creator for giving her an extra day. She was also thankful for being able to walk and able to brush her teeth and look at her self in the mirror. By this way, she psyche herself up for the day. There is nothing wrong by being thankful. She is counting her blessings and if she have a problem, there are more blessings than the problem. If we can think, walk, eat , smell ,see and excrete properly, we should be thankful and not taking these things for granted. Yes, these are basic things but every important things in life. There are many people without these perfections.
When we age, all these bodily functions would deteriorate and that is where we wake up and value them. It maybe too late then, so you have to thankful if you still have all these basic functions supporting your life. If there are regrets, we cannot turn back the time clock and live again.
Most of the time, we take things for granted. Yeah, tomorrow will be another day or I am going on a holiday in a few week's time. Don't be so certain and count your blessings by the day. Some of my readers might say, Hey, why are you so gray ? I have been talking about positive thinking in my earlier paragraphs and now, I am feeling scare. No, my message is that we would trigger our mind every second to remind us of our existence and not to based on HOPE so much. If you are thinking of having or doing things in the future, why not? But , keep the sense of the present. Bite your lips or pinch your self so that you don't lost your self in the dreams and hope, so that you can enjoy the blessings you have now. The past is gone, the future is yet to come but now is the present.
Yes, this is early morning but I treasure the moments of writing or been able to write and express my thoughts and I am thankful that all of you is reading my blog. So, a good morning to all of you and have a nice and good. day. Start counting your blessings and live well.
Namaste.
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Bless you all
I am tired after visiting my FIL, Johnny in the hospital today. He was admitted to check whether he is strong enough for an operation to remove his cancerous colon. Yes, I was told colon cancer is the slowest form of the disease because the colon is the longest organ in our body. He was in high spirit despite his weak outlook. I believe he will be able to pull through and survive a few good years.
While I was coming out of the hospital, I could see a lot of patients waiting at the lobby but mostly old folks. Yeah, age and disease comes together. When we are old, our resistance level will weaken and there is where all the sickness will come. Take an analogy of a car. When a car is old, the parts will give way and we have to get new parts to replace all worn out parts. This is the process of rejuvenation until the rust will eat into the engine block and make it irreparable. That will be the end of the car.
Among my SIL, they have discuss what is the best way to treat Johnny. The doctors recommended chemo but due to his advance age, another doctor recommended herbal treatment. While there is a split in their decisions , Johnny have preferred herbal treatments. Whatever, the choice is best left to Johnny because he knows his body well and this is his life. Who are we to decide for him if he is still alert enough to make the decision himself ? It is very difficult to say who is right and who is wrong but we must respect his decision because he going to bare all the consequences of his decision. I have always maintain that whoever make the decision, he or she must bear the responsibility. There is no such thing as " decision without responsibility ". That would be cheap talking.
I remembered the book " chasing daylight " and I have written an article in late last year when I started this block. This is about people who has terminal disease chasing for the extra time to live out their dreams or to make closures. Making closures are very important because this is to clear all the misunderstanding, hatred, or any unfulfilled wishes, vows and dreams. This process will make us at peace with ourselves and our family members, friends and foes so that we can RIP or rest in peace. This process will put a smile on our face when we passed on.
It is a funny observation. When we have the time, we are busy for something else but our personal affairs. When are short of time, we start to chase for the extra moments to arrange our personal affairs. This is the irony of life. I kept telling my wife that it is very important to spend time with Johnny when he is alive and it makes no sense to visit his grave frequently when he is no longer around. Such actions will only make us feel better. There is no sense in this action.
Yes. While we still have time, we have to be fair to ourselves and give priority to our personal affairs and spend time with our family members and close friends. We should start the process of reconciliation and closure as tomorrow is never guaranteed if we want the smile on our face. Start now and bless you.
Namaste.
While I was coming out of the hospital, I could see a lot of patients waiting at the lobby but mostly old folks. Yeah, age and disease comes together. When we are old, our resistance level will weaken and there is where all the sickness will come. Take an analogy of a car. When a car is old, the parts will give way and we have to get new parts to replace all worn out parts. This is the process of rejuvenation until the rust will eat into the engine block and make it irreparable. That will be the end of the car.
Among my SIL, they have discuss what is the best way to treat Johnny. The doctors recommended chemo but due to his advance age, another doctor recommended herbal treatment. While there is a split in their decisions , Johnny have preferred herbal treatments. Whatever, the choice is best left to Johnny because he knows his body well and this is his life. Who are we to decide for him if he is still alert enough to make the decision himself ? It is very difficult to say who is right and who is wrong but we must respect his decision because he going to bare all the consequences of his decision. I have always maintain that whoever make the decision, he or she must bear the responsibility. There is no such thing as " decision without responsibility ". That would be cheap talking.
I remembered the book " chasing daylight " and I have written an article in late last year when I started this block. This is about people who has terminal disease chasing for the extra time to live out their dreams or to make closures. Making closures are very important because this is to clear all the misunderstanding, hatred, or any unfulfilled wishes, vows and dreams. This process will make us at peace with ourselves and our family members, friends and foes so that we can RIP or rest in peace. This process will put a smile on our face when we passed on.
It is a funny observation. When we have the time, we are busy for something else but our personal affairs. When are short of time, we start to chase for the extra moments to arrange our personal affairs. This is the irony of life. I kept telling my wife that it is very important to spend time with Johnny when he is alive and it makes no sense to visit his grave frequently when he is no longer around. Such actions will only make us feel better. There is no sense in this action.
Yes. While we still have time, we have to be fair to ourselves and give priority to our personal affairs and spend time with our family members and close friends. We should start the process of reconciliation and closure as tomorrow is never guaranteed if we want the smile on our face. Start now and bless you.
Namaste.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Love is blue, love is blind
This is a fatherly advise to all youngsters who believe they are in love. Love is blue, love is blind. Why is love so blue ? Yes, it is like singing the blues. There is alot of heartaches when you are in love. So, the color of blue is the color of sadness. Have you heard how a blue singer sings, it is full of soul. It touches on your nerves and emotions. Soul voice is full of emotions. You cannot control your emotions when you fall in love. Your vision is blur and you lost your directions.
So, in the end, love is blind. What you can see is just an image of the person that you think you love. You love to be wanted , you feel important and you feel touched. You can only see the goodness and you are bias in what you see. You only see the good side of the thing but his or her negative character can be excused. You only see what you want to see and all other points are not important. You have fallen into a trap. An emotional trap which wired you up and not letting you go or get your senses back.
Those people in the love net cannot think properly and believe that they know what is good for them. They don't listen to their friends or family member. Their friends are the ones who is looking from outside in and knows the situation clearer.
There are many cases of choosing the wrong partners and it often end in sad endings if you are emotional in your choice. If you want to enter into a relationship, you have to go in with your eyes open wide. You have to maintain your objectivity and keep your senses. You must keep an open mind and accept what you see is wrong as wrong. Sweet words can only last you a few seconds but hurts can last a life time. When you make a choice , you must accept the responsibility and bear the consequences. Stop blaming fate and escape the responsibility which arise from your choice.
Don't fall in love to get emotional support. It is not a game or a challenge. When you are down and out , don't look for love because that is your weakest moment and you will fell for the sweet words. If you are smart , you observe closely for hypocrisy and false pretence. Don't tolerate the abuse and restriction on you and mistaken it as love. The flaw in a person's character can be seen with an open eye.
Keep your senses and give yourself space and time to think and observe. Don't excessively engage yourself and fill yourself with "magic" like Alice in wonderland. Come out of the dream or your relationship and give yourself sufficient breaks to think and judge. Mix around and compare with other choices. Breath in fresh air and instead of moving in the same circles without giving yourself a choice. Take a step back and you will see more clearly.
In the end. Listen , listen to your friends besides you .Listen to the people who have fallen in love before. Open your eyes and look at the choices you can have. Breath away and give yourself ample space to breath in fresh air and take a good look at the relationship. Mix around and enjoy life as there are many more beautiful things to come. No hurry. Why tie down yourself to one tree when there is many better trees around. Why rush into a relationship, when there is so much things to enjoy.
I can only pray for all of you. It is you who make the choice and be responsible for it. Don't blame it on fate but your own blindness and your deafness to other people's advise. So, listen and open your eyes to choose the right path to a good life.
Namaste.
So, in the end, love is blind. What you can see is just an image of the person that you think you love. You love to be wanted , you feel important and you feel touched. You can only see the goodness and you are bias in what you see. You only see the good side of the thing but his or her negative character can be excused. You only see what you want to see and all other points are not important. You have fallen into a trap. An emotional trap which wired you up and not letting you go or get your senses back.
Those people in the love net cannot think properly and believe that they know what is good for them. They don't listen to their friends or family member. Their friends are the ones who is looking from outside in and knows the situation clearer.
There are many cases of choosing the wrong partners and it often end in sad endings if you are emotional in your choice. If you want to enter into a relationship, you have to go in with your eyes open wide. You have to maintain your objectivity and keep your senses. You must keep an open mind and accept what you see is wrong as wrong. Sweet words can only last you a few seconds but hurts can last a life time. When you make a choice , you must accept the responsibility and bear the consequences. Stop blaming fate and escape the responsibility which arise from your choice.
Don't fall in love to get emotional support. It is not a game or a challenge. When you are down and out , don't look for love because that is your weakest moment and you will fell for the sweet words. If you are smart , you observe closely for hypocrisy and false pretence. Don't tolerate the abuse and restriction on you and mistaken it as love. The flaw in a person's character can be seen with an open eye.
Keep your senses and give yourself space and time to think and observe. Don't excessively engage yourself and fill yourself with "magic" like Alice in wonderland. Come out of the dream or your relationship and give yourself sufficient breaks to think and judge. Mix around and compare with other choices. Breath in fresh air and instead of moving in the same circles without giving yourself a choice. Take a step back and you will see more clearly.
In the end. Listen , listen to your friends besides you .Listen to the people who have fallen in love before. Open your eyes and look at the choices you can have. Breath away and give yourself ample space to breath in fresh air and take a good look at the relationship. Mix around and enjoy life as there are many more beautiful things to come. No hurry. Why tie down yourself to one tree when there is many better trees around. Why rush into a relationship, when there is so much things to enjoy.
I can only pray for all of you. It is you who make the choice and be responsible for it. Don't blame it on fate but your own blindness and your deafness to other people's advise. So, listen and open your eyes to choose the right path to a good life.
Namaste.
55 years ago. Ow! Time flies....
When I was small, I was told by my mother that I cannot point my finger at the moon, otherwise, one of the ears will be gone. On moon cake festival day, we will look towards the moon where the fairy will meet his lover on the moon. The lover will walk from the rainbow to the moon and they will united for just that nite. The legend was kind of sweet but the moon cakes were sweeter. Lanterns in the different shapes and some is like the moon shape with the image of the fairy dancing in the lanterns. It was fun. But, as we grew up and when Apollo landed on the moon, the myth disappear from that moment. Back to a white sheet of paper, However, the song has die but the music carrys on. There are still people who pray to the moon fairy for blessing. It is all in our mind and make belief.
This morning, I meet a former neighbour and I was told that his son is now 21 years old and studying in Japan. Again, it was like yesterday as my memory bring back to the time of his son running in his garden shouting and making an awful lot of noise. Ow ! 21 years already. Ow! Apollo landed on the moon 50 years ago. A quantum leap. In no time, our time is up like so many people before us.
By the way, we are mortals. So, live like one and behave like one. The earlier we see it and realize it , the more contented we will become. There is a mandarin song which carry this message : " Our life is like a dream" . Yes, it \is as short as a dream. Each day is like minutes and each month is like an hour and when we wake up and if we wake up, everything is a dream.
Namaste.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Be fair to yourself
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| Who is the tallest of it all ? You, me or someone else. |
Don't be scare of failures. Pick up the pieces and re-construct the pieces and carry on from there. When you fall down, pick yourself up. It is never a shame to admit your mistakes or failures. Failure is the mother of success. If you don't understand, ask questions and it is a sin not to ask questions or admit that you don't know. Don't let your ego control you. Kill the ego and be humble. Ask and you will learn.
You should learn to forget and forgive. Through this wisdom, it will make you strong and firm. Make a strong foundation for yourself , then your strength resting on the foundation will be strong. There is a saying " if the top structure is weak, the foundation will be crooked". Be a strong leader and be righteous. Only then, you will be a good leader.
Have good relationship with others. Then, you will get the support and assistance. One person cannot do all the task. The more supporters you have , the lighter is the job and the easier to complete the task. Spend time with people, walk around and talk to people. You will not know who will help you in the end. Sometimes, your close friend is your enemy but a stranger will save you. Be prepared for all eventualities.
Never be angry. When you are angry, do not do anything or say anything. Just keep quiet and the anger will pass. Anger is hurting oneself over other people's imperfection. Anger is like a fire, it burns everything down. If you can manage anger, you will be top of all men. You will also be convincing and gain the support of peers, colleagues and friends.
Never accept rewards which is belong to others. Acknowledge the contribution and merit of others and share the reward and honor with them. Don't take the ideas of other people, let them build on it and you give the assistance if possible. If you cannot help, don't hurt others. Just keep a distance to see it grow. If you are honorable, step in to give good advise.
In the end, you can never win it all. Have a balance life. Work hard and play hard. Spread good karma and gain good merits. What you give, the rewards will come back to you in many folds.
Spread good wisdom and practice them. Lead the way to guide the fated ones to the righteous path. You may not be God but a good messenger. Showing and leading the way and give reminders when it is needed.
Finally, be fair to yourself. Acknowledge the good you have done, take merits for the good work done, accept the honor of your achievements and manage a balance and fruitful life. When you make money, you should enjoy and when you have excess, you have to learn to give. For giving is happiness.
Namaste.
Live like you never live before - you only live once
Age is just a number (LOL) - laugh out loud !!!
Age is just a number.
Nothing stops you from being young.
Nobody stops you from dancing.
Nobody bothers what you wear.
It is only your imagination and prohibition.
You are what you are and you are what you think you are.
Love yourself more and be fair to your needs and desires.
You do not need to change for others.
Don't make others change for you.
Live happily and all is within you and the choice is yours.
Learn to dance in the rain.
Nobody stops you from dancing.
Nobody bothers what you wear.
It is only your imagination and prohibition.
You are what you are and you are what you think you are.
Love yourself more and be fair to your needs and desires.
You do not need to change for others.
Don't make others change for you.
Live happily and all is within you and the choice is yours.
Learn to dance in the rain.
Namaste
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Can we afford to retire ?
Before we can retire . we have to be absolute sure that we can live a comfortable life. Inflation and the cost of living is rapidly eating into our savings and the value of money is depreciating. Another factor is that our medical health expenses will rise sharply if in the event of our poor health.
For the working class, many countries have increased their retirement age. Recently, Malaysia have increase retirement age to 60 but other countries like USA, France, China , Japan and Hong Kong ,etc have increase it to 65 or more. The various countries have acknowledged that they will not been able to support an increasing aging population especially in providing medical benefits.
In Malaysia, it is tougher for the future generation to save enough for their retirement benefits when their pay scale is not increasing fast enough. While Malaysian Companies have to compete internationally, the salary and wages have to remain low unless the companies have to go for high end products and shift their reliance on labor intensive and low tech products for survival. If the base do not change, the salary level remained the same while inflation and cost of living continue to creep upwards.
For those people who have been working for a long period of time, we can notice that there are not much changes to the salary level. A graduate earn RM1.500 per month 20 years ago and now a graduate earn RM2,300 per month on their first day at work. Based on an average annual inflation of 3% and compound the impact , it would easily be more than a 100% cost up in our cost of living. How could they manage if their earnings falls behind their cost of living? Their earnings will buy less things or their purchasing power have fallen.
Apart from the cost of living factor, the property prices have been spiralling to absurd level with the price increasing 10 to 20 % per year. A terrace house especially Penang cost more than RM1 million while Condo of 2000 square feet cost more than RM500,000 in an average location and more than RM700.000 in a high end area and their monthly maintenance is about RM500 per month. For the low cost flats and apartments, it is not within the entitlement of the middle class workers or salary man. Furthermore, the price of property is also fast catching up in the main land.
This is a pressing problem faced by the new and old generations of the working class . For the old people, they have to work longer years to make their ends meet while the younger generation,who are still young and mobile, they will migrate or look for work in fast developing neighbouring countries and to earn US$ and remit back to save for their retirement or they have the option to select the countries of their choice to live.
Looking at the scenario, things are not moving as fast as it should be and this brain drain or mobility of the young and able workforce will shift in the name of survival. This is inevitable as the choice is limited for the working class.
We should be behave like an ostrich and pull our head in the sand while the changes in the working environment or the condition of living is changing rapidly. This is finding trouble for ourselves. For the young, they have to think hard and face the problem while the old have to keep themselves healthy and prepare for long working years.
The world is changing and be part of the change.
Namaste.
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| Chasing the daylight in the twilight years . |
For the working class, many countries have increased their retirement age. Recently, Malaysia have increase retirement age to 60 but other countries like USA, France, China , Japan and Hong Kong ,etc have increase it to 65 or more. The various countries have acknowledged that they will not been able to support an increasing aging population especially in providing medical benefits.
In Malaysia, it is tougher for the future generation to save enough for their retirement benefits when their pay scale is not increasing fast enough. While Malaysian Companies have to compete internationally, the salary and wages have to remain low unless the companies have to go for high end products and shift their reliance on labor intensive and low tech products for survival. If the base do not change, the salary level remained the same while inflation and cost of living continue to creep upwards.
For those people who have been working for a long period of time, we can notice that there are not much changes to the salary level. A graduate earn RM1.500 per month 20 years ago and now a graduate earn RM2,300 per month on their first day at work. Based on an average annual inflation of 3% and compound the impact , it would easily be more than a 100% cost up in our cost of living. How could they manage if their earnings falls behind their cost of living? Their earnings will buy less things or their purchasing power have fallen.
Apart from the cost of living factor, the property prices have been spiralling to absurd level with the price increasing 10 to 20 % per year. A terrace house especially Penang cost more than RM1 million while Condo of 2000 square feet cost more than RM500,000 in an average location and more than RM700.000 in a high end area and their monthly maintenance is about RM500 per month. For the low cost flats and apartments, it is not within the entitlement of the middle class workers or salary man. Furthermore, the price of property is also fast catching up in the main land.
This is a pressing problem faced by the new and old generations of the working class . For the old people, they have to work longer years to make their ends meet while the younger generation,who are still young and mobile, they will migrate or look for work in fast developing neighbouring countries and to earn US$ and remit back to save for their retirement or they have the option to select the countries of their choice to live.
Looking at the scenario, things are not moving as fast as it should be and this brain drain or mobility of the young and able workforce will shift in the name of survival. This is inevitable as the choice is limited for the working class.
We should be behave like an ostrich and pull our head in the sand while the changes in the working environment or the condition of living is changing rapidly. This is finding trouble for ourselves. For the young, they have to think hard and face the problem while the old have to keep themselves healthy and prepare for long working years.
The world is changing and be part of the change.
Namaste.
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