Shit people, shit life ( for SS)

Yesterday, I lock into my FB and I saw the following message posted by my dear friend, SS " shit people, shit life".  I was very surprise because SS have been a very calm person and she had just given birth to a baby. A new and young mother. I believe this situation could be very stressful for  a young couple.  A new life and a new obligation.

I felt abit desperate and I posted a comment on her FB and told her to relax and don't expect life to plain sailing and there is bound to be strong waves and bad weather. We must be persistent and we will be stronger after coming out of the bad times. And I ended my message by offering my ears to her problem.

I like SS very much because she is hardworking and jovial. She is a qualified accountant and she is smart and well balance. Her bosses appreciated her very much and I as her client always supported her in her audit job.  She always asked for assistance with a smile and is quite talkative when she starts talking. Her boyfriend and her have been dating for many years  and they have a late marriage because of distant love.  Finally, she told me that it cannot be delayed anymore as she is past her 30's.

As I have written before in my article, life living apart and living together is two different things. The true colors will come out and sometimes, the colors don't match and it is something we need to learn to compromise. Initially, the husband will learn to tolerate the wife and soon, they will be conflicts and arguements.  This is very normal in married life. One party will need to be understanding and both parties will need to compromise for a marriage to work.

I read in an article that with these two phrase a lot of marriage will work. Learn how to use " I am sorry " and " I love you". With skillful wisdom, big problems iwll be come small problems and small problems will become no problems. It is easy as that but sometimes, pride stands in our way and prevent us to bow to humuliation,

I hope SS will know that life is not perfect and if we expects perfection then we will be heading towards a lot of trouble. Another thing is that the grass looks greener on the other side. This is just an illusion and if we gets nearer , it may not be so pretty after all.  This is the reality of life.

As a parting advise to SS,  just find somebody to tell your problems . Just say it out and let it go.  It maybe difficult to express your feelings and thoughts in the FB but you can always start a blog like me and express and share you thoughts with people who cares.

I would like to thank all my reader who have been willing to read and listen to my feelings and share my experience. To all of you , a big thank you.

Namaste.