Loneliness, my friend.

In our journey through life, there are many moments that we are alone by ourself . For some people, this becomes a fear and for some, it is a blessing to be alone. Loneliness mean different things to different people. Why do we need to feel loneliness?

Many of us fear to eat alone or travel alone or even sleep alone. It may give the impression that we have friends or no one loves us. To be successful, we should have many good friends and people want to be with us. This is a wrong perception. What is more important is what is our real need. When we are lonely, we have the space to be with ourself and this is the most important companion to us. Not others , making noise, laughing , talking , eating ,etc . Yes, the most important person in our life is ourself.

Loneliness is our friend. Our best friend. It is the moment we are in touch with our own self and we should treasure these precious moments when our friend , loneliness is with us. We can talk to ourself , re-set our priority, do the things we like and enjoy the peace and tranquility without having to take care of other people’s feelings.

If we feel scare if we are alone, it means that we are not confident of facing our ownself. If we love ourself hen we should treasure the private moments. Why don’t we like ourselves ? If we love ourself than other people will love us. Our love for ourself is like magnet which pulls others to love or like us. Why is it not right to love ourselves? It is our basic right to be ourself and love ourself and this is our choice. No other people can decide for us.

During one of my yoga session, my teacher asked all of us to declare our fear and my teacher’s fear is to be lonely and not like by other people. When my wife know this , she quietly to me that it is okay to be lonely and why should be scare of loneliness? Why should we depend on others to make ourself happy? Loneliness is a friend and not a monster or a demon. Yes, I concur with her on this perception. It is okay to be alone and do the things by ourself.

This afternoon, I was having a conversation with my sister , Jo and she told me that she find peacefulness in the quiet of the night. If we treat loneliness as our friend, then we will welcome lonely times. I told Jo that when we are lonely, we could also find peace through meditations. We can have the time to travel inside us and know ourself more . By knowing ourself , we will be able to control our mind and body to fulfill what we set to do and find the purpose in our life to be a better person.

Some people just switch on the songs and music and occupy themselves and draw the attention away from their ownself. This is the wrong thing to do, if we have the chance we shall face ourself and make friend with ourself and explore our own potential after knowing more about ourself.

It is your own journey and we have to find ourself in time of loneliness . Lonliness is our friend.