It was supposed to be a simple lunch among three three colleagues. A phone call came and the mood totally change. If I had hold back my question , the lunch could have been a breeze. But , I choose to throw the question to my colleagues and the whole world gets dark. It had to happen , otherwise, I would have chosen a different path. The storm blown directly at my face and I choose to calmly absorbs it. People say that the true fact is ugly and the same was anger. Anger builds on anger and it just went out of control. The words spoken is meaningless and it is just yelling and justifications. People have to justify that they are angry so they don't look stupid. The person who have lost control will shift the focus to you and make you the bad guy. This is a natural protection.
But , looking further into the of anger. It can be more to it. I notice that a person's tolerance level varies according to a lot of factors. The person's body conditions and emotions, a bad impression , a rumour , a deep rooted gossip , the condition of the mind at a particular time. If a simple question can draw out a full blown anger, the source of anger should be a serious problem hiding in the mind waiting to ignite.
In this case, it was a feeling of been cheated. I am also very angry if I have been cheated on a business or private deal. It is very hurtful when we trust a person and in the end, he cheats us. But, there is two sides to a coin. The person doing business has all the right to quote his price and if it is too high, you have all the rights to reject it and it should not stain a relationship. Why is the feeling of been taking advantage of spoilt a relationship. I have talk about it in my earlier article. If there is no foundation for a friendship and it is based on getting something from each other, such relationship would not last. A real Friends goes to thick and thin and there is a lot of trust, space and understanding. If a friendship can be blown to pieces within seconds, this is not friendship.
The basis of friendship is not how many years or how much sacrifice you put into the relationship. It must have a strong foundation of mutual trust and respect. Nothing should be expected out of a friendship and if it is based on expectation from each other, it would not last. If I do something for my friend and I hope he will do something for us then it is doing business not friendship. What I want to say is that during the lunch , a fifteen years of friendship is torn up and wasted. What a pity and it looks so unreal and so much of hypocrisy. It ends well if we are useful to each other but if you take excessive advantage of a situation, then you are not more useful and will be discarded.
Such kind of examples are well known among Emperors of China where loyal generals are sent to battle to be killed or executed because the general becomes more popular or become a threat to the Emperor. This is a dog eat dog world . The small fish eat the smaller fish and the bigger fish eat the small fish and the biggest fish eat the bigger fish . Finally, the shit of the biggest fish is eaten by the smallest fish. The world goes round and round and new relationship is created and old ones fade away.
Remember relationship is as thin as a piece of paper or is only a skin deep. Don't expect too much from it as it can just change over night. In many occasions, it is only a fate to meet and go on our own way.
Namaste
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