The softness of the heart.

Sometimes we are very kind in our thoughts and actions and this softness of our heart becomes our burden.  Even when we are at the disadvantage, we still do not rock the boat because there could be uncertainties.  We do not know the outcome and maintaining  the existing balance is the best option for the peace of mind. If we don’t think about it, it don’t exist.  But, I think it should be the other way.  If you don’t think about it, it doesn’t mean that it is not there.  If you solve the problem, you could be better and happier.

There is a real example which really exist and it is a waste because it support inefficiency and incompetence. Lets say you have a house for rental and you rent it out to a tenant and that tenant through the years have become your friend. The rent per month for the shop have not increased through a few years of tenancy because your friend’s business is not good.  He is losing money from his poor business and you are getting less rental because it was below the market value. But, he can tolerate the losses because you have been subsiding him.  Do you think it is viable anymore for both parties ?  And for how long ?

Both parties is suffering but you are able to maintain the good relationship but you get lower rental.  If you increase his rent to the market value, he has informed you that he will not be able to continue. Both parties are living in a compromise and both barely survive together while compensating each other.

In conclusion,  it is better for your friend to stop his business and operate in a cheaper premise or closed his business and work for someone while you can get better rental income unless the business can get better in the near future. If the outlook is negative, such inefficiency only caused misery to both parties.

It is a hard decision to make because we have a soft spot but it is not the solution and we are wasting a lot of time and resources. We have to be realistic and do not make unnecessary sacrifices for nothing. It may seems that both parties are helping each other but it is not because it is pure wastage.

Namaste.