The external triggers

I wrote some thing about tipping point when our emotional outburst is pushed towards the fine line and suddenly, boom! the shits hit the fan and out pouring of resentment starts. It is like a runaway train and you have to put your brakes before it gets too late. The person taking the blows also gets heated up and he or she is also pushed to the wall and waiting for the moment to hit back. Such face off is not good while we cannot control our emotions.  It is not us and we realize it but the criticism or scolding just get out of control. This is really weird.

I realized that our frustration controls our logic and emotions. Probably, the person have done something which have hit our nerves previously before the faithful encounter and such image is store in our mind and sitting in the quiet corner of our mind and wait in deep silence. The anger starts to intensify after that particular person said something wrong and these wrong words draws the experience from deep in our mind and let it explore in the heat of the moment. The force coming from this resentment increased in strength in multi-folds and hammer us into leashing out our anger at our opponent.

At this moment, we failed to see the person and we actually see nobody and will not be able to recognized her but it just like leashing out the Wing-Chun punches in rapid speed and continuous repeated actions. Yes, we have lost control but after we gain focus and know that we have exceed the limits , we try to pull back and save the situation.  The damage is done and we have to find a way to balance back the negativity we have generate so much heat. The other person have hit so many times and it depends on her to struggle with his or her self. If he or she is wise,  he or she will realize that it is only a moment of madness and insanity and everything said is nonsense and immature. Everything will be back to normal when the focus is adjusted to back to reality.

The temporary loss of self and dignity or the moment of madness due to the pent up feelings is something , we need to realize to manage. We should counter the thoughts and out burst and make sure that we  remained in control and kept our sanity. The lapse moments is actually very damaging to us and the people around us. Those words which we should not use at all is sometimes uttered at the particular moment and the hurt could be irreparable and damage a relationship permanently.

We have to find a way to erase the images of anger or displeasure in our mind by awareness  and maintaining our consciousness of self and the external triggers or  image which could gain the control of us. We should think positively or wisely and identify images and defused at the particular moment. Once, it is stored in the brain, it will hide in the corners and sit there waiting.  We should not let them stay in our mind , otherwise we forget their exit and once, it is stirred up, it will gain control of us.

Act immediately to defuse the anger and erase the negative images and you will have a more rational judgment in the things we do.

Namaste.