In transition -sandwich between time.

Today is Saturday and will be followed by Sunday. We are sandwich between this week and next week, between May and July or smack in between the month of June. Does the time measure or marking mean anything?  To us, existing now, it is only a measure of our time on earth but in the longer term, the day or the month have no meaning in itself. It is just time per se. Infinity.

Having said that the measurement of time is meaningless, yet we are floating in a river of time , suspended and in illusion.  Hence, we have to manage the period of time that belong to us while we are in transit. Every time, when we slow down and think,  this same thought come to our mind. Hey, we are in transition, what shall we do?  Traditionally, we have been brought up by our parents, who have fulfilled their duty to raise us , provide us a good education and build our character to face the hard knocks of today/s living. Yeah, we have to fulfill the tradition and provide for our families today and for their future, right?

This question have been bothering me for quite awhile. Do we live for ourself to day or for our family. Last week, my youngest sister came back to Penang for a short holiday and we managed to meet up for an afternoon together drinking green tea latte with soya milk at Straits Quay and she told me that she is very worried for his youngest son , who is not studying well and is much involved in the Internet games. She is so angry and disturb as she complain about his son and I told her that she should slow down and refocus her priority. I told her to take first priority for herself and if she suffers a breakdown or a serious illness because of her worries or anger, it will not only bad for her but also her son will not change for the better because she is sick.  Furthermore, she would not be able to guide the son anymore and worst still, she needs someone to take care of her if she is sick.  We can only do our best for our children until certain limits and after that , they should be on their own.  We should take care of our self as the first priority. Be kind to our self first.

So, for the parents, please do not over emphasize or over worried about the children , we will do our best for them and let the children to find their own path or destiny while we should live out our life with purpose and the way, we want it.  Don't treat the children as our investment , hoping that they will provide for us. If they do, we will be happy but if not, don't be sad.  Live without expectations and we will not be disappointed.  Do not force our way on our children or mirror their life as our own and dictating them our expectation , hope and ambition. 

For we are only in transition  and will be forgotten in a matter of time. Relax , live for yourself  and take care of yourself first before you are able to take care of others.

Namaste.