Sometimes, we all the good reasons to be happy and all the wrong reasons to be angry. Anger breeds anger and anger swells anger and anger can spread like flu. The big boss scold your boss and your boss scold you and you scold your subordinates and your subordinates is angry with each other. The whole lot of people is any with each other. But , if there is break in the chain of command like if you big boos scold your boss and you boss go and bite his hands and swallow his pride or anger, the rest ofhef team is save and more people remained happy while less people suffers. So, when I am angry, I have to break the command to avoid spreading the anger and do some good to the world. Hahaz... that is how my daughter will laugh on her SMS. It is quite sarcastic.
But, it is so difficult not to spread the anger because by scolding your down line, you tend to feel better as you have released your anger and this mitigate your misery. Yes, it i s a normal human character to share their pains instead of suffering in silence. When you are misery, you spread misery and wants more people to be as misery as you. If is so difficult to sit alone and suffer, when you can spread the pain and let people suffer with you.
Anger is like a hot charcoal , it burns your hand as you toy with it. It burns and hurts you before hurting others. So, if you are angry , don't do anything or say anything and just bite your lips and your tongue. The pain will pass very fast , just find a way to release it rather than causing misery to others.
When your boss scold you, just keep quiet and concentrate on your beautiful breath , go against your behaviour to fight back or talk back as a strong action often invite a strong re0d-action. Do go against the traffic but flow with the under current or the tide. Drifting with it until calmness returns and everything slow down. Look away from your bosses' eyes and die in silence. Yes, we can choose to fight back and to regain our pride but is it worth it'?Swallow our saliva and slide away is the most logical step. Don't fight anger with anger and end up a angry me and a angry you.
Practice loving kindness and Strong compassion towards a suffering person. He is only trying to share his anger with you and also to have a companion in time of pain and suffering. If he wants to make you angry and if you are angry and he has succeeded. If you go against his wish, then he has failed and his misery will eat him up if he knows that.
So, do let external stimulus to affect you or your internal emotions to manage you, cut off the chain of command and make your self happy and spread your happiness to the people around you. When you are with your partner and if you need to go to the car park to take your car and there is no umbrella , do you asked your partner to go together with you to the car park and both of you getting wet or you choose to go alone and get the car to pick up your partner. There is no need for both of you to get wet and the logic is as simple as that.
Hope you get the message and now , it is a raining season , kind compassion is very much in demand.
Namaste.
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