To let go or not ?

Most of the times, we are confused and uncertain what is the decision to make relating to personal relationships.  I have a daugther M who is having a bias view on personal relationships. She is very upset and angry with my brother in law's girlfriend because she blamed her for the broke up in his family.  But, their relationship have been terminated even before his girl friend came into the picture.

My brother-in-law and his wife have decided to separate and he is already thinking of living in a old folks home before his old girl friend came back to him.  He is so lonely and was making himself busy by engaging with his friends and buddies. I think when he is in that stage of relationship, it is better to separate and why hold on to make the concerned members unhappy ?

I told my daughter that to hold on to  a family together is most important but if it is becoming a problem and so painful, it is better to live separately as it will be the best for everyone. There is no meaning to hold the relationship together if there is so much bad blood. We can still be friend and a family even if the relationship is sour and broken in spirit. It is our choice.

But by blindly holding on at all course and lost in logic, it is a silly thing to do.  By staying together by just staying together is a foolish thing to do. Togetherness is not by physical presence but it must in spirit and compassion.

There is a saving which is very meaningful "

" Stop holding on to the wrong people ,

Let them go on their own way,

If not for you , then is for them. "

 

Namaste