Why did we lost the lovely feelings..

It is very funny and also irony that when our love starts, it starts with a boom and when we get married and matured , all our colors comes out and gradually the real us appeared and our feelings start to waiver. The loving or lovely feelings of love will gradually dminished. This is a fact of life.

 In my generation, the couples are more tolerable or patient but in this Gen-Y generation, the thoughts of the youngsters nowadays are more independent and they do not want to carry the burden with them.  They are more realistic and cruel.

For the baby boomers, family is very important  and we really go all out to protect the family ties. Even as years goes by and with the diminishing feelings of love, it is still bearable despite the thoughts of  going separate ways or get sway away by the temptation of a new found love.  We are the faithful generations. Some of us could have swayed but keeping the family ties is still the most important thing of all.

Looking at a couple, basically both partners have not changed at all  and they are only acting out the real them as the relationship matures.  This is a normal process and every relationship have to go this path. Why do we suddenly realize or wake up to find out that we have changed. Do we really changed or it is just our illusions. Have we really changed?  The reality of life and the daily rountine have became boring. Who are we to blame ? Our selves?

For some people, maybe they cannot take the reality in life and choose to get a new life by finding a new love, but the whole process is repeating itself. It may be a sweet start and a wonderful finish but are we so sure ? For a new relationship, we have to change ourself again and suppress the real us and become a  real us again over time. How long can we last before the real us comes out and you find that it is the same thing all over again.

Of course, we can opt to be in and out of many relationships and who cares?  You can have many spring time as much as you can if you are happy. Why tie yourself to an old goat when there are so many  young goats to choose from? Some people may wonder why we choose only one tree when there is aforest of tress to choose and enjoym. So, a relationship needs time to matures and the bond of love needs time to seal and become long lasting.  A true relatioinship is hard to find  and gradually love turns into care and acceptance.  This is life.

A good wine need years to mature and  it gets better as it aged . This is the same as relationship. The older , the better. So, the lost of loving. or lovely feelings is only an illusion or a boredom.  From an illusion , it has turned into reality. So, beware and behold
Namaste.