Staying together is tough

Today is my BIL ES 's birthday. We had a dinner gathering at Starview Restaurant . It started at 7.30 pm and lasted until 10.30 pm .It was s long dinner. There was so much chatting and drinking and many discussion topics float atcross the dinner table. Red wine was served and we drink to our heart/s delight. It was a good dinner. The food and the cakes were excellent.

After the dinner, it is back to our usual life. We started to disperse and the members go separate ways back to their life. One thing noticeable.  Eating and drinking can be fun but when we go back to our own life , it is back to  reality. We have to face the hard facts of life.'

When we are courting, both couples try to please each other to preserve the relationship but once, they are married, true colors will come out an and more and more unpleasant things will happen and couples starts to argue and fight over what they think is right.The difference gets wider and wider unless one side absorbs the hurts and pain.

The other day, my daugther M placed a comment on the FB and her message was that relationship is difficult to maintain until old age.  When I saw it , I know that she is growing up fast. When a young couple is courting, the love is blind and their love is forever and ever.  It is a fairy tale. But, in reality, things are not so nice and it is rocky.  The grass is greener on the other side.

After reading her comments, I wrote a comment on her FB to tell her that everything is possible and she has to work very hard on her relationship.  There must be mutual respects, tolerance and understandings.  Sometimes, we have to agree to disagree so that we can live together. We also have to accept separation so that relationship can be preserved.  Staying together is not the solution and it is better to meet as friends then living as a couple. Our mindset would need to be changed.

There is a chinese saying " meeting each other is easy but living to gether is very difficult.  This Great Wisdom have been through many generations and we have to be aware and accept this arrangement.

Namaste