Skeletone in the closet

all of us have secrets. Secrets that we cannot tell, otherwise, it will hurt a lot of people. Especially, secret of sins and evil deeds. The secret is kept in the deepest point in our heart or in a mind. Our mind maybe in our heart and it does not matter but it is kept very tightly. The need to remind ourself that it should let out our secrets by a slip of our tongue or when we get intoxicated or out of anger is a very painful thing as it stress us up. If we have too many secrets, there would be more stress on us to keep it from accidentally flowing out. These secrets could be considered as bonds and knots of the heart.

For those people who have past relationships before they are married. The sweet memories of past loves and its sweetness of good times constantly float up to the surface and romance us with its frangance and sweetness. It occupied our mind and if we have a hard time with our current relationship, we start to compare the past and the present and we would drift back to the past for the solace. We would ssked ourself " Why did we give up something good?". We hide in the past to lick our wounds and cure our hurts. Is this action of thinking about another women a sin? In Buddhism, right thoughts and right action. Is this act, the right thought or action? No harm is done to anybody , just our mind romancing the past. Where is the fault?

The question is not whether it is harmful or sinful but rather whether the result of the action will damage the current relationship or not. If we keep in our heart, accept the thought, be aware of it and do nothing about it and just watch it go, it will be alright because we cannot control our thoughts in a moment of weakness. But, if we used it to compare with our existing relationship and talk about it openly, it willbe harmful to your love ones and the relationship may not be the same again. If we value the present relationship, we should follow the Buddhism way, acknowledge it, be aware of it and do nothing about it an dlet it go away. A passing thought.

Some people may say that love means we tell each other the truth and must be sincere. We should understand that the past is not equal to the present and have no bearing on the present. It is our choice whether we should tell our better halves of the past which is not important. It is already in the past. The present matters most and the future is yet to come. We should build our present relationsip on our present feelings and the past is irrelevant. This thought could be the right action and right thought. The past is the past and what matter most is the present. If we can have this wisdom and train our mind to understand this wisdom, it will be the right thought. Let the skeletone stays in the closet.

Namaste.