An afternoon with SIL, G

I had a high tea with my SIL,G at the Sikkes restuarant at E&O Hotel today and she was still in a daze over the passing of BIL James. I have heard her stories many times about the chemo treatement and the chemical imbalance which have reverse effect on her husband. The Doctors in Penang have questioned the chemo treatment and the medication used by the Thai Doctors. Who is right or wrong is not important anymore but the initial treatment by the Thai Doctors have actually prolong the life of James from one month to one half year. This treatment I think I should ocnsider as successful despite the end result. It is a deadly and aggressive disease.

During the titilating, she keeps repeating the last months with her husband especially the day before he die. At the stage of the disesse, all the vital organs have started to fail until he suffers a heart failure on his final day. BIL Jamaes have been vomitting the excess fluid in his body including the medications and the steriod. She told us that the sight and the memory of such incidents have drilled in deeply into her memory and it would take a long time before this impact will become less burdenful.

As I have mentioned before, our mind registered all the events and experiences deep in our mind and iwll play it over and over again. If long enough, it will become back of its mental habit to revisit such events or experience. It is natural unless you have a strong trained mind to suppress or filter or ease such images in our mind. It is never an easy process and allowing her to repeat her experiences is good for her and this way will reduce the pain and suffering.

According to my SIL G, the chemo treatment have caused her husband a fortune and it is using money to buy time in this world. SHe have noted that during the treatment, BIL James have been having an amazing fighting spirit and really he fight to the end and hoping to live longer in this world. As I have mentioned before it is more difficult to leave our earthly procession than to die.

Now his ashes is thrown into the sea and like I have said he just vanished from this world. Perhaps, this is a better way. We come with nothing and we go away with nothing. All the things we acquire or possess on earth is only temporary and Buddha called it " impermanence".

Namaste.
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