Why friends cannot be lovers ?

Relationship is very  delicate and fragile. There has to be a basis or foundation before a relationship can last. Otherwise, a simple misunderstanding could blow the relationship apart. It is even worst if a relationship have an agenda or motive , such relationship is shallow and manipulative. Friends can remain as friends or become best friends but if they cross the line which separates friendship and love, it is no turning back and like a mirror when it is crack , it will never be the same again. It is just like seeing somebody naked and pretending nothing has happen. This is only on the surface but deep inside, the attraction will be entitely  different.

When friends become lover, it is a different ball game all together.  The feelings is intimate and deep and so , it is more fragile than friendship.  A small misunderstanding is more severe when we are in love than when we are friends. The hurt is much greater and takes a longer time to heal. As for friends, if there is a strong bond, the hurt is much less and the  wounds will heal faster.

In love, the sacrifice is greater like Romeo and Juliet. They can die for each other and their bond is so strong that it cannot be broken up. Friendship on the other hand, there is a different kind of sacrifice and the extend is far less. There is a limit in friendship and when the expectation could not meet, the friendship will break apart . But, expectations in  a friendship is that we do not need to see each other everyday but for love, it is meant to be tie up together. Absence makes the heart fonder while friendship can last a longer distance.

Based on the above analogy, we know why friends cannot be lovers or lovers cannot be friends. Crossing the line is a one way ticket and there is no returns. But, in movies , we can see that alot of married couples remain good friends after they are divorced.  Every few people can bear the pain and hurt of been together after their divorced  and if they can be friends , it is because of their common bond in their children. Most of this happy endings are only in the movies. Most of the time is sad movies but rarely happy endings.

Friendship is fragile and love is dynamite  and the line separating the two is the entry to a different world. So, before we cross over, we have to think and decide what we want. Sometimes, it is better to remain as friends and it will be happier. But, if we cannot resist, it is fate that drawn us together .

Namaste.