If you are unhappy, you asked for it.

I heard that a friend, SL is unhappy and feeling sad. Well, that is because you asked for it. Often people who are difficult and stubborn are unhappy people because they have strong opinions and fixed principles and they do not want to see the views of others. Not a slightest attempt to compromise. They don't look at themselves and is not aware of their faults but rather refusing to see the views of others. So, they deserved to be miserable. These people need to change and realize that the bigger picture is more important rather than holding to their narrow views and thoughts.

When we see a half glass of water, it is half full or half empty. It depends on our interpretation , wisdom and judgement.  You can call it half full and I can call it half empty. Both is correct but the thoughts behind it is different. When we say it is half full, we are looking at it positively and there are still water in the glass . But, we say it is half empty, it has a negative feeling and that is, it is getting less and less. The right thoughts will inspire the passion and action to make our life better.

In my past experience, those people who are involved in specialized fields like lawyers, accountants and doctors, etc have strong principles and opinions. Frankly, they can be very stubborn because they are taught that way by the books.  Yes, by the books and that is their answer. If this is the case, they don't understand what other people is saying when it is out of the book. This is very natural because their views are in the box and they cannot think out of the box and their views also depends on the size of the box. This is the ugly truth about these specialist. If they do not update themselves, their box would be getting smaller and smaller while the development in their fields gets wider and wider.

My advise to these people is that they do not only update their knowledge in their respective fields to improve the size of the knowledge box but to read subjects which is out of their professional boxes. This is not the case of unlearning to learn but to learn other subjects relating to other fields or general in nature. I have seen those professionals who only read books relating to their jobs but do not read any other subjects. They often say that they do not have the time and there is so many subjects to read and they do not know what to read or what is their passionate subjects. This excuses will make them into specialized robots with less feelings for others and less wisdom to manage their lives. It is important to read and continue to read or force yourself to read and search for the real purpose in knowledge. There is a lot of guidance and wisdom in the books. All types of books.  There is a Chinese saying " In the books, there is golden houses, in the books, there is plentiful of delicious food". Trust me, it is true and don't stop reading , there are plenty of treasures and you will get "rich".  Rich in your life.

Stop been unhappy and take a good look at yourself in the mirror.  Look at yourself, be aware of  your weakness and improve on it. If you do not see things the way other people sees it, it is not necessary wrong. Shift your angle and see it through the eyes of the people around you. You will see it if you try hard. Keep shifting your angles and you will see more things in different lights. Nothing is absolute and there is always room for compromise.

For a start , don't make other people look stupid by imposing  your own inflexible interpretations due to your lack of knowledge in handling the situation while you concentrate to re-enforce your stubbornness. Sometimes, you need to step back to have a bigger and clearer view and perhaps thought this action, you will realise your stupidity just in time to make yourself unhappy. The choice is yours and the sadness or unhappiness come with that choice.

Namaste