Talking about the romantic golden rabbit. It could be a smell of trouble for the older married couples especially the stupid Cupid's arrow is matching the young and the old. This is not a joking matter as it will create upheaval to family life and long term relationships. I am not sure how the wind of romance can fan such relationships. It could be the mystic elements of the Universe at work or it will become the fashion of the year. Or is it , a combination of the need of financial security of the young and changing needs of the old. Money is secondary if it involves the emotions of the heart or the search of the " second spring".
Generally, I believe there are thoughts and attempts to sway from an existing relationship for many long term relationships. The need for a change, a craving for a break in the routine, the conflicts of the daily relationship and the thinking of " something greener on the other side" continued to pull the string of the heart. Such fantasies are normal and the core for a sustainable and strong relationship save us from swaying wild.
Relationships are a very complicated issue. When we aged, the love will turn to care but the urge of the human desire for love could remain strong in some. For a couple, the health condition or personal desire of each partner varies with age and such desire could be suppressed or inevitable due to health reasons or the need for sexual relationship have cool down due to re-setting or priorities or religious reasons. Our sexual needs or urge dip with age and we have to understand and accept this fact. However, there are medical studies that indicate that frequent sex is a good habit and healthy. Some people have gone to the extend of using medical stimulant to sustain their sex health or prop up their dying sexual ego. To show their "Manness", they start to visit prostitutes , having one night stands or start an additional relationships if the other partner is not cooperating. This is the start of a relationship problem.
Having enough financial resources and the desire to use it search for sexual fantasies compliment each other. The thinking that we cannot bring our money with us to the next life also fired up the desire to enjoy and use our resources. The decision of how we live our life is no body's business except ours and nobody have the right to judge us unless they be judged first. Nevertheless, the consequence of one wrong step could spell havoc to our life and our relationship. The pressure and feeling of guilt of having an extra-marital affair could be hurting and time consuming, leaving us no time to do the things we want to do in our life. Going through the same journey which we have long experienced is for a fleeting moment of freshness but there are more important things in a relationship where the caring and attachment or joy of doing things together is another important aspect which could be enjoyable as we aged as the couple aged gracefully together.
Once, I had a friend who have two wives staying under one roof. He was the talk of the town and the envy of many and he was boast full of his sexual satisfaction and conquest. After a couple of years, he was struggling to raise two big families. After a few more years, when we met him, he was having healthy problem and was so stressful. He told us that his biggest mistake in life is having two wives as there was so much heartaches and stress to satisfy two families as they are struggling for his time , care and financial support. All these problems is because of his greedy need for sex. So, folks. Every decision or blessing is a double edge sword and it cuts both ways.
So, think seriously before you take the plunge as the golden rabbit starts to cause havoc to your life but providing the chances and the trap or the fragrance to inspire you to wonder. Kick the golden rabbit in the ass and sent it away if it ever comes near to you.
Do not hurt but run if you see one.
Namaste.
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