Choices in life

Life is make up of choices. Each choice we make determines our direction in life. The left turns and the right turns. If we take a left turn , the scenery will be different from the scenery if we have taken a right turn. The turns will lead us to a different path and different journey in life and different outcome. Life is mysterious in its own ways.

This afternoon, my wife and myself met up with her cousin, PL relating to the "big C" of my FIL. PL is not a qualified doctor but have read books on traditional medication for the big "C". She  have been working as a part time volunteer in Mount Mariam and been active in supporting cancer patients. She told us that cancer exist in all of us and it only become active because of poor health and stress. Some cancer is not aggressive and others are active. Most people who have cancer will isolate themselves and keep their illness a secret. They change their life style and diet drastically and takes lots of supplements. According to PL , this is wrong.  The patient should live their life as usual and get the support of their family members and advise of possible treatments from those people who have been working in this field. Apart from poison, the diet should be as usual and further strengthen the immune system.  So, the patients have to exercise their proper choice in this situation.

PL also told us that Penang have the most advance cancer mapping machine in Asia and it is very fortunate for the people of Penang. Very few people is aware of such machine and availability of good oncologist in the state and people are coming far and wide to Penang for treatment.  This is part of the medical tourism to promote  business revenue for the state. According to her, some of the Government hospitals have western and traditional treatments for cancer patients. This gives the various options and choices to the sick people,

Another critical choice, is the selection of our life partner. If we look for a perfect partner, we can never find one. The only choice is to think carefully and determine whether that person can take care of you in health or in sickness. There is certain rules which we have to observe or certain pitfalls which we will need to avoid. Love is blind and when we open our eye, it maybe too late. Most of the times, we can see the flaws in a person if we obseve ong enough  and some times, we just close an eye or both eyes  to it. Some people say love is the heart thing and we cannot see it with our naked eyes. There is some truth in this wisdom but it is not wrong to enter  a love relationship with our eyes open wide.

The piffalls in a relationship is culture , religious belief, maturity, basic character , upbring ,etc. In China,  there is a saying "Wooden door face wooden door and bamboo doors face bamboo doors". In a narrow interpretation, richman marry rich girl and poor man marry poor girl.  This is because of the traditional belief that the life style and cultures of the rich and poor is different and it is difficult for them to adapt and get acceptance from their family members, workers and peers.  If we look broadly, it is extends to upbring, culture, religious belief and much more. Reality sucks but this is Establishment.

In Chinese society, there is a saying " We provide for our children for 100 years and worry for them for 99 years. This is the difficult part to raise our children. Sometimes, they make their own choices in life which we know is wrong but they never listen.  Most of them learn from mistakes and this is part of growing up. They may fall many times and each time, they get up , they will be stronger.

As a parting advise, choices is for you to make but each choice  you make, comes with responsibility. If you decide , you will need to accept the outcome. So, think carefully and watch each steps and have a safe journey.

Namaste.