Life journey - my staff is getting married .

My staff came in and she started to chat with me.  Suddenly, we moved on to the subject of our journey through life .


Based on my experience , I told us the first 5 years of our life, we will compromised a lot to keep a happy and strong relationship.   The difference in the character and our passion will be very small but as years goes on, the passion and the compromise will start to widen as our passion and ego have come out of suppression.. The more of "me" will be more glaring as the fulfillment of our passions took priority.


The next 5 to 10 years, there will more disagreements , preference and conflict .  The gap between passion and compromise will gradually widen more and more through the years.  So, for some people, it reach a breaking point or tapering point and divorce and if they have children , this factor could save the day depending on how deep rooted the family concept is in the relationship.  Otherwise, it will just broken off .


I told my staff that love will turn into a care and a care for each other despite the love have diminished.  The care factor increase over the years if the relationship or the passion is the same or near the same for both as they can still see eye to eye.


Otherwise, both parties will wonder off in separate ways to do their own things and the home is not a home but a botel where each shared a bed for a brief relationship.  Nevertheless , the outcome will depend on other factors like our thinking and wisdom.


Some people can compromised their passion until the end and still remain close for sake of their family, honor and tradition.   What is the purpose of life ? it is to live the life of another and subdued our passion.


What is our passion ? It is our chosen path in life. It can be a different life depending on the choice at different timing of our life  ie 5, 10 , 20 years.  Our path in life changes at the each point and it could continued to be in a circle until our life expires if we avoid the various points to exercise our votes.
When we say about pre-destined , it means our decision at each point will give us a different path or a similar path if we avoid the decisions.


Namaste.