A note from my friend , Kam

He lives in KL and he semi reitred , living with his wife and sinter in law. He works hard for a living managing a transport company. As a down to earth man, he is talkative and have been asking me to relax and take a easy life.

He said his life and mine is no difference if we are at 70 or 80 as money is no use to us already and all our earthly needs is not more relevant.  

After reading his message it really make some sense.  What is sex, desire , greed when we are near the end ? The riches does not have any meaning to us anymore except for medical treatment.  Can money let us eat more, have sex more, or happier or greed more ?  It really have no meaning anymore except it provides the comfort that we have the resources to prolong our life or die a more peaceful death.

Why is it that we want more and more money when we know that it is enough for ourself .  More money means more secure or live a longer life . It does not mean that right ?

So enough is enough , make up your mind and manage it instead of been  a slave to money and work yourself to death. Just to have a penny more.

So let go of the GREED and give yourself more life.

Namaste.

Passing days

I was with my sister this afternoon and she told me that the weeks have been passing by very quickly and it looks so helpless as we could not use more of it.  I have been saying that etime waits for no one and if we are aware of the present , we may slow it down a little and be more aware of it. If we are restless or in  a hurry, the time slips by very quickly.

If our mind holds on the past, we will not be aware of the present and we are stuck in time as days come passing by. We have to let go of the past and live n the present. The past is just memories and if we relive the memories then we are not living. Time will pass by without us being in a dream while the future becomes the present and if we wake up, we will realized that the days or the years have been gone by and we have waste some many years.  Some people prefer to live in the past or their memories because such time was a happy time and be in it was very meaningful for them. Again, there is no right or wrong.  it is a choice of individuals

I have been wondering whether to let our mind move forward into the future or backward in the past ,as we live in the present. When something good is in the past, why not go back and re-live it again. But, we should not get stuck in the past and not living in the present and live into the future.

We get our mind trained and be discipline while we live the way we wanted it . we get our mind to move back and forth and also relive the good times and clean up the bad moments in our past and use it as a lesson to move into the future.  A discipline mind can make us more happy as it listen to us and if our mind is a monkey mind and untrained , then it will keep jumping back and forth and also bring us the bad time. This monkey action will make our life more troublesome as it will bring back the good and bad times. It will more miserable and unhealthy.

Namaste.

How should we live ?

There is no right or wrong in life and how we live ?  The feeling that is that we are happy, than everything is alright..  It does not depends how we live but the outcome of happiness. But, is ite without any principles ? No, as long as it does not hurt others

If we are happy and it does not hurt others , this is one level of happiness. There are so many level of happiness. If we help others, the level of happiness will be much more and if we sacrifice for others and make the people around you happy, it is again a happiness at a higher degree.

If you attain happiness by making the whole counry or whole world happy, it is an ultimate level of happiness. Hence, you happiness goes higher and higher depending on how you attain your happiness. From self to selfless and to a sacrifice for happiness in the world

There are many examples of great people and leaders, who have endure the sufferings and have attain eternal happiness and their great works remained in the history,

Some people said that it si pre-destinated  but it remain a choice in life and we have the absolute right to choose and exercise that right as long as it don/t hurt others.


Namaste.

Long distance love

Can long distance love or cross border love sustainable ? I have a few friends who love or married a foreigner and intend to settle down in Malaysia. I wsa told that the life is full of obstacles.

It is not a matter of having to renew their visa frequently but to look for a job , there a full of obstacles.  Can the couple bear all these inconveniences ?

In the beginning is only the couple but latter, the children .. Love at the beginning is strong to withstand but as love becomes more matured  and life becomes difficult, doubts and worries will wear down the relationship All the long distance travelling to and flo and the expenses incurred , it is sometime that the couple would need to face and it is real.

Of course, there are couples who have successfully maintain their strong relationship but a lot will fall by for practical reasons and the means of survival.

There  is also a lot of fairy tales of distance love or foreign love and most ot these tales are movies and it is just entertaining, In real life, it is real a test and it starts with love at its fullest. But to slowdown a little and think about it seriously, it can be really challenging, Maybe, challenging is a mild word , the word more representing is difficult

However, life is evolving and nothing is certain but the possibility of distance love or cross border love of succeeding is high and finally, the conclusion is that it is not worth all the trouble.

It is real and it is a difficult decision at the start when love is at the hottest

Namaste

Dreamers

I have an opportunity to meet a group of dreamers. They have a product which they think it will change the word and have been searching for many years for an ideal partner. The search is still on and the dreams and hope is still big.

There are people who behave like this and it is to keep their hope alive. They quit their jobs and invest their money and time to pursue their dream and hopes to be millionaires when the white knight comes along.  A foolish hope.

The famous words " I have a dream"  by Martin Luther King means that everything starts with a dream. There are so many version of a dream . There different version like think big and you will achieve big things  but a dream is a dream unless some real action is taken.

Just the group of inventors which I mentioned earlier.  Based on an ideal, they hope investors will put in the money and they want a 50% ownership of the venture with their technology. They want to sell a dream and wants the investors to believe in their dream. Maybe this is a movie tale or what they call the American dream. Actually, there is a TV series where potential investors sit to hear a dream or a project and they can bid or reject the project in the end. I think this is what the dreamers are thinking about and I believe there are dream investors but it is very rare and only happens in USA, the land of dreamers

These dreamers have their passion and hopes jumble up with reality and they believe in fairy tales. This serious as there are a lot of movies ended in happy ending and sometimes , it is an absurd plot and gives a of fake storyline,

Yes, there have to be dreams but be real at the same time. Life is difficult and there is no such thing as a wind fall in most cases. Money do not grow on trees

Namaste

The Third eye - solace.

In Yoga, we have always say that the third eye lies in between the two eyes. Yes, right in the centre. We believe that through practice , we can open the third eye which can see the past and the future.

The third eye can also open you to the third world or the next dimension.  I saw the film " solace" last saturday and the story evolved around two men who could see the past and the future. One was a former policeman and another a self  declared saviour. The so called " saviour" tends to kill terminally illed people and the killing is done by a painless thrust of a long knife at the base of the skull.

A few people was killed until the retired police officer linked it to mercy killing of these people. Some was declared terminal cases and some have unknowned illness until the killing was over. The retired police officer could see the past and the future by merely touching the person whether dead or alive.  He is not to change the future but merely to see what has happen or what is going to happen.  Finally, he has to take a bullet and survived after trying to save another policewomen who is supposed to die.  This is the order of the day is that if we change the future , we have to take the harm by ourself and it could be fatal.

The question of the day is whether mercy killing is correct or not and it was argued by the self declared saviour that for a moment of pain , the victims will save them months or years of suffering.  But the retired policeman argued that let nature takes it cost as we are not GOD and we should not decide for other people.  There is no right or wrong but it is better to let nature takes its course.

The story have its irony is that the retired policeman also carried out his mercy killing of his daughter who have suffered cancer for two years and at the moment of pity, he injected a drug overdose to relieve his daughter from agony.  What do you think ? is it right or wrong.

Namaste.

The raining Saturday night

Here I am rating waiting to sleep and the thunder was roaring outside while the Lightning was flashing . I have just came back after a dinner at May's Place.

The rain have not started yet but the whole sky was boiling and waiting for a spark to release the rain. The pressure is mounting and building up for an explosion. Just waiting.

My heart was heavy and my eyes were restless. My mind was roaming around while my body wants to hold my mind atill. What a struggle.  I have calm down my mind and find its pace. A stabilizing and a peaceful pace. I have to bring my mind to an alpha level so that I can go deep into the sleep. I have slow down my mind .

The topic at the dinner were about the hot weather and the boredom outside due to the heat. We wonder where is the excitement in our life. Tourist have been paying huge money to visit the places next to us while we feel it is boring even if we have not been there ourself. What an irony ?

Nevertheless , the night is going deeper and it os better to switch off and go into sleep until tomolo.

Namaste

Home alone

I have written an article about a man who live a routine social and working life is a big organization. He is alone most of the time doing his clerical job. He stays alone. Wake up every morning to take the train to work, do his job quietly, eat his lunch and dinner alone and spend his time alone in his apartment and this routine goes on for many years.  He became a part of a routine process.

One day, he died and for many months, nobody notice that he is absent from work until one day, his boss look for him and notice that another staff have been doing his job in his absence.  They went over to his apartment and he found that he has died many months ago.

As the world evolves and the usage of internet expand , there are many people who live alone and communicate through the internet tools and they are a few face to face encounters and many such people will die quietly and alone.

Why do I wrote this article ? It is because this incident happen to one of my staff's auntie who is suffering from cancer and choose to live alone to handle the disease. When she is seriously ill, she managed to call the hospital and the staff have to use fireman to break down the door for the nurse to take her to a hospital to spend the last day of her life.

I have heard of another incident where the neighbours have to called my brother in law's girlfriend to ask her to check on her brother after foul smell came from hsi apartment and when my brother in law climb into the apartment , he could see the rotting dead body .  He told us that he cannot forget the incident for the rest of his life.

Yes, the world is getting isolated through the internet media and relationship is by the way of a touch screen. If we have the money, we can use the private nurse or a private hospital  but for those, who only have enough to live on, this could be a painful end.

Namaste.

Another Hokkien New Year 2016

In Malaysia, we celebrate two Chinese new year  ie the 1st lunar day and the 9th Hokkien lunar year..  In Penang, the 2nd lunar year is more noisy and more celebrated than the 1st day of lunar year. Well, the story is very long and interesting and it is about the Hokkien people hiding in the sugar cane plantation to avoid the mass killing by their enemies  So, that is why sugar cane is very important on this occasion

At this moment , after 12 midnight , the fire crackers will be non stop to welcome the Hokkien new year and the Hokkien people will keep awake throughout the night to gain merit for their old age parents.  The longer the children stays up in the night , the longer will be their parent's life span. This belief have been transfer down through thousands of years.

The modern generation is not following this belief which make no sense for them as they google for the truth in the internet , Yes, the truth lies in the internet and everything is explained well

Now , it is the eight day of the lunar new year and it is roaring in with the fire monkey. I have just done my prayer in my sister's house and when I came back , my dog Brownie have gone out side her fence area and I have to get her into the compound and as I pull up the fence , the glutter fell infront of me . I was unhurt but shocked.  I must have used up some of my merit during the prayer and managed to escape the mishap.

Well, coming into the monkey year, where the monkey is very supportive of the snake , I hope I can get many help from my monkey friends and family members

Namaste.

If out of our control, why worry ?

Why worry ? worry for worrying sake.  If we cannot control the process  and the outcome , why worry ? Can worry help ? It is only the fear that make our worry . Whether it is positive or negative , can worry change the game. So , live with the best hope and let things unfold.

Worry manifest worry and fear initiate more fear. Yes, going into the uncertain is frightening but even that we have to still to go through it. If it has happen, then it has happen and we see how to deal with it. Of course, we hope that the negative thing did not happen on us. yes, we pray that the negative things would not fall on us.

During young, we have nothing to fear as we expect to wake up every morning and see our loved ones and enjoy the full day.  But when you arrived at an age , that waking up is getting less and less possible , it is uncertain that we will ever wake up the next day, than we will get more and more worried. But , can worry prolong our life or make us certain to wake up the next day ?

We live well everyday and prepare our wishes in advance and live with no regrets , that is the only way we can do rather than to worry of things that we cannot control or getting out of control.

We have seen the changes in old age and every year we advanced, there is something not quite right with our body.  Our teeths start to fell off, our hairs is getting less and our face gets bigger, our leg aches as we walk , the joints give a cracking sound and our bladder gets weaker and weaker and our sex life fell out of the window. This is a general deterioration of our body. Our mind is different as our mind can get shaper as we advanced into old age and it depends on the health of our mind . Definitely, it will get wiser.

Since age of our life is out of our control , so why worry ? Live well, eat well and laugh more.

namaste.

The monkey King 2

I watched the movie tput in this afternoon with my family members.  I have seen many version of the monkey king on movies , TV and CDs. It is amazing how it has evolved and the use of graphic technology in the movie , making it real and colourful.  The basic story line is the same and how the three disciples of the monks fight with the demons out to eat the flesh of the monk which will add thousand of years to their power to be more stronger.

The story line is predictable but the graphic display is excellent and smooth. The white bone witch was acted by Gong li and the monkey king is by Aroon Kwok. Their acting was superb and this kept the interest of the audience in place.

But, the real  essage is the Buddhist teaching of selfless and the unconditioned love exhibit by the Monk, His pure human eye deceived him many times by the demons but his commitment to love for human beings put him in a lot of dangers and only the monkey king help to save him In the end, the white bone witch was defeated by the monkey king and the monk sacrifice himself unconditionally to keep her soul and bring her soul in a journey to re-incarnation after he was killed by the monkey king at the request of the monkey king,  The monk's was supposed to return to his body in 7th days after he died. This unconditioned and infinite love for someone cannot be seen on earth anymore as such purity is only confine to a God.

According to one of the character in the film , the world have been messed up by greed, self , materialistic world , craving and evil.  There is too much evil and too few good men,

To change the world, we must change ourselves first as the world cannot be changed by critics. Change for the sake of change is meaningless as change must be for the better.

Namaste.

Kakikaki , Dato Kramat Road Penang

I want to share with all of you that I had a very good body massage this evening and the most enjoyable part was a leg work on the back and it is the first time, I realized that it is really a skill and the talent of the masseuse . I have never had such an experience after so many months of constantly getting a back massage.

The feeling after this evening's massage is that all the bones in my body have been re-set and my hunchback is been straighten.  I do not know whether it is actually in place but the feeling that I am more straight and it released back my flexibility to me.  It is just a feeling and it is really good.

When masseuse step on my back, it has to be well place and move in a pattern to avoid the stress to our back and at certain points the masseuse  use her point to put additional pressure to press the joints or the points. If it is done properly, your body will feel released and free. There should not be any pain but the feeling of released.

Additionally, with a good body rub and massage , it is really a wonderful experience. I highly recommend all of you to get a good massure and enjoy the wonderful  experience.

Namaste

May's Place Cafe - a good food outlet

It is located in a place full of cafes, restaurants and coffee shops in Pulau Tikus in Penang. I think it is the most concentration of eateries ranging from Thai , western, indian and fusion food including the local delicacies 

There is so much competition as well as varieties for local and tourist  and the two biggest malls  is located within walking distance from all these eateries.

To survive i.n this environment is not easy , as the businesses there have to provide good food at reasonable price and with the best service. It also takes time to gather the support of customers,

Located at 1st floor , May's Place have be more competitive as it takes more effort for their customers to climb up to the café.

May, the owner have the support of another partner , Nan who is the chef and he is really a good cook serving western , fusion , local and good indian curry.  It is also a blessing that he is very passionate about his cooking and will challenge any orders which is thrown to him.

If there are given support , I think they will go far in this service and food sector.

All are welcome to try out the food and enjoy the wonderful service provided May.

Namaste.

First day at work

The year of the fire monkey was hot.. I could feel the heat in the afternoon and th sweat running down my neck.  It is just hot , hotter, hotest feeling.

The new year session this year was subdued as there was less car on the roads, less people at restaurants and more careful spending.  It was only until last night , the volume of traffic on the roads was a bit crowded.  Maybe, the people is rushing home in other states. I don't know, it was massive jam towards kek Lok Si.

The mood this year was not seen for many years. In the past , when the time is bad , Penang will remain robust and vibrant but this year, Penang also felt the tiring times.

The stock market is down, the scandals is still prevailing and the judgement from the courts is still confusing and  not transparent.  People are worried but keep quiet to avoid bring troubles to themselves.  The fear culture is bad.

In the news, there was protestors at the CM's open house which have not happen before as this is the line which have been observed for many, many years.  This line was broken as the protest really shake up the harmonized mood of the people celebrating the new year.

The fire crackers is less this year but I could see that there is an open selling of the fire crackers.  The burning of fire crackers have banned for many years but now, nobody bothers even if you chose to burn it openly.

Well, today is the 4th day of CNY and we are waiting for the 9th day when the Hokkien celebrate their Hokkien new year. Why are there two CNY ? Yes, there was a lot of history behind this story.
Why bother ?  One new year or two new year or three , as long as the peopel are happy ?  Yes, do whatever makes you happy and that is the purpose in life.

Namaste.

The year of the monkey

Yes. I have been absent for sometime now celebrating the year of the monkey. The monkey been a naughty animal creates a lot of crisis for me for the past few days.

It started of by running into a massive jam during the eve of the Chinese new year as I was using the normal route to the temple at slightly past midnite . I have been using the same route for past many years and it has been smooth all the time I have to make a reverse turn and go to the temple by another route.

The day before new year, I went to buy some decorative light and the shop assistant told me that he has the last set to offer and give me a discount. He showed me all the lighted bulbs and when I installed it , it was only lighted on one side< I feel cheated as I have not much time to change it again.

My daughter's café was open through out the new year catering for my relatives and also for her regular customers.  She was tired but she managed through with the help of her BF and for two days, we gamble after the dinner and on the third night , I hit a session of bad luck losing more money than I had to. But , it was for the fun of the night and there was so much laugh as I lost in the game of cards.

My daughter bought me a polo T and it is was too small for me and if I were to wear it , my three packs will shown clearly.  I don't mind but my wife will complaining that I am trying to show off. This happens to two of my T-shirts. It just too fitting and not too tight

The past three days have been eating and eating an eating ... so much eating and I could feel so tired of eating.  A simple meal will suffice .  Filling just too filling/

The year of the Monkey have kick off and tomorrow will be working day . Time really flies and the five days break have just finished and the fun is over.

Namaste

Fading love

I was amazed that my daughter told me that she always give love moer than 100%. I told her not to be so hot headed and she should take care of herself more. I have seen her passing through her first love and how it fell apart. Love just vanished after a two to three years of countship. At the beginning, when love is in the air, we tend to ocver commit ourself to love and do silly things about it including sacrifying ourself. But, as times gets by , the true colors appear and when love turns sour and just vanished. All the sacrifice and the gift of love just gone. I saw her using her allowance to buy all the good things for her love and spending most of her free time with her love. Soon it gets less and less and finally, more and more arguements and faced off situations. These happenings must be very hurting but it went stale and finished off with tatters. Now, this is the second love and I find that she is going on the same as her first love. How she is committed to her first lvoe. I hav been telling her to take care of herself first and to have some reserves for herself instead of over extending her love. She is listening a little now after her first love but still spending so much time on her new found love. I know most of the time, it is she who is the first to give up on her love as she has a very strong character and is very outspoken. Most men could not like this character as men is a dominant creature and expects the female to follow from behind. I hope she will learn from each love and will mellow in time. I hope she will find a man that truly love her and support her in all her undertaking because I know that this type of man is very few and is a dinasaur. Well, this is her life and she has to go through to find out what she wants in her journey. There will be alot of pitfalls and she has to pull herself up and move on. LIfe is very difficult and I hope she knows it soonest possible. Namaste.

Age & Sex

I was on the line with my banker friend and he told me that sex urge is getting less with age. It is like the heart wants but the body cannot do it. Yes, it is a fact that young married couples do it everyday in the first year, every alternate days in their later years, once in a wwek and degenerate into twice a month and then once amonth, once in two months and on and on until once in a blue moon. My friend was karate black belt exponent and he exercise frequently in the past and now ends with a pot belly and cannot do the flying kick anymore. This is the degeneration of the body and the mind. It is natural and gradual and we do not have to be shy about it. Finally, we need os medicine or drugs to life up us up to do the sex job but it is a personal choice. There is no compulsion on this decision. If you feel like it and cannot do it, just boost it up by a drug or medication. So , I wonder how to keep up our healthy body. Do we need sex to remain healthy and passionate ? Do a prolong sexless life hurt our healthy or make us more insensitive ? What about the monks ? They abstain from sex and does they release themselves once a while ? Is sex a necessary thing in life or for our healthy. There is a finding that regular sex makes us more relax and we feel better but no sex also give us the same feeling after some physical exercise or yoga or meditation. So the really need of sex is all mental or our mindset ? Then why do we have an organ which is so sensitive to touch or penetration ? Is sex is only for birth makeing ? The more we make love, the more chances of getting pregnant and is it the real reason ? So,if we don't want children that the organ become useless ? Can we use it for enjoyment instead of child making purpose. WHy so people are so frigid and some wants heavy sex ? It becomes a personal preference. Does a man or women without sex die faster or live longer ? There is fact and findings to support but again, it is personal. After living all these years, it is still a puzzle to me what is the purpose of sex. Some people needs it more , some less and some do need it at all. Just a passing thought. Namaste.

Good people can become bad.

I was told from young that everyone is born good but circumstances, influence and wrong teaching can make a good man do bad things. I saw a TV show which two good cops which one was shot dead in action. Before his death, his partner came to know that his partner have some engagement with a drug deal because of his gambling debts. The circumstances of his owing money for gambling make him do something bad even he has been a good cop for many years. After he was shot dead, his partner have two choice. One is to tell the truth and that will spoilt his partner's name and reputation or he can keep quiet and tell the story that his partner die in the line of fire. He choose to keep the good name of his partner and was haunted by this lie for the whole of his remaining career in the police. Both of them are good cops and they have been deligent and capable in their job but circumstances have make them to bad things. To judge whether it is right or wrong, it is a difficult decision and it depends on the personal thinking or principle of each person. On the surface, it is wrong to tell a lie even if it is a white lie. But what is the consequences if by telling the truth, it brings more suffering and pain to the people close to the matter. By keeping quiet or telling a lie, it can have an happy ending. The lie did not caused harm to any people and is it wrong ? If telling the truth brings more pain and suffering. It is a difficult question and there is neither right or wrong in this situation. It depends on you and your thinking and judgement. Namaste.

Changing ourself

Changing is always difficult and we rescend to change. We are a comfortable animial and we stays in our comfort zone especially when it is over a long time. We become complacent and moving on to something new is a challenge. An unfamiliar situation. If you put a thing on a table for a long time, it leaves a mark on it and you will find pushing it along take much effort. If we plant a plant in a spot and over time , it will be come a tree. The longer you leave it there, the tree will be bigger and the roots will go deeper into the earth. If you want to go places, you have to move when it timely and change your mindset on complacency. The world is so big and it continue to evolve and changing. Be part of change before you become redundant. Change is more than changing your dressing or your habit, it involves your mindset. Sometimes, we just bluff ourself and pretend we have changed but in reality , the core or the mindset is still firmly attached within ourself. In event of an occurent or sudden happening, the fear will force us back to our old ways or mindset which we are comfortable with. This is a natural re=action. A real change is not like what has been mentioned, it is a new way to handle the matter facing the fear or the danger. It should be a case of substance over form. The form is only superficial or artificial but the core is substance. We have to change the substance and not the form. That is the real change. Namaste.