On the way to Africa -3
Now flying at 38000 ft and at 580 KM per hour makes me feel like superman. The anxiety and excitement is all mixed up and give me a mixed feeling. Coupled with the fear from the memories of the MH disasters.
The sky was very bright and sunny without a single trace of haze back home. Maybe it is nearer to GOD or the creator. Because of the plane is flying at a great speed and due to the vast space , the picture outside the window do not change much at a time.
This reminds me that with unlimited space , we are just a speck of dust in this universe. Yet, our ego is bigger than ourself. Why is it so? We are so unimportant and furthermore , we are just in transition through this earth and in this life time. Why are we catching hold of things so tight and confine ourself to our limited mind and our thoughts. Worst still, we attempt to control and influence others to follow our ways.
We used power, money and influence to gain control of others and make them salves to ourself and thoughts.
Creating fear to gain control and manipulate other people's re-action to us.
In this limitless time and space, we are just nobody. Just be aware of this point and we will let how to let go.
Namaste.
Tuesday, September 30, 2014
On the way to Africa-4
In Africa - Ethiopia -4
Last night , I had a struggle to get a god night sleep. The time was 5 hours behind Malaysia.'i woke up at 8am but the local time,was only 3 am. I continued to lie on my bed trying to get more rest.
For a while , it was already 1am Malaysian time and it was 8 am local time to move for a site visit. The traveling was short through the town and then to the open field.
Ethiopia have abundant of virgin land and people and it is ideal for labor intensive industries.
For me, I have seen enough of factories and it is just like seeing a movie repeatedly. Everyone is looking for opportunity to male money. However , give the most benefits and incentives gets the deal.
This s the real world which money works in many ways. But , there is some real joy where you can stand under the sun at 16 deg C and the cold wind sweep across the land in this country which is the origin of
Man.
There is a saying " the cold wind can cool and clear your head".
Namaste.
Namaste.
Last night , I had a struggle to get a god night sleep. The time was 5 hours behind Malaysia.'i woke up at 8am but the local time,was only 3 am. I continued to lie on my bed trying to get more rest.
For a while , it was already 1am Malaysian time and it was 8 am local time to move for a site visit. The traveling was short through the town and then to the open field.
Ethiopia have abundant of virgin land and people and it is ideal for labor intensive industries.
For me, I have seen enough of factories and it is just like seeing a movie repeatedly. Everyone is looking for opportunity to male money. However , give the most benefits and incentives gets the deal.
This s the real world which money works in many ways. But , there is some real joy where you can stand under the sun at 16 deg C and the cold wind sweep across the land in this country which is the origin of
Man.
There is a saying " the cold wind can cool and clear your head".
Namaste.
Namaste.
Sunday, September 28, 2014
On the way to Africa -2
Transit in Dubai
I am in transit at Dubai for 4 hours on route to Ethoipia.
Dubai is a travel hub to rest of the world and it is huge in size and hundreds of aircraft past through this hub. Of course , there are a lot of travelers passing through the terminal everyday.
Huge shopping area with lots of eateries. The terminate is 4 hours behind Malaysia.
The weather is about 30 deg C outside but in the lounge and terminate is about 24 deg C.
The providers is mainly western food with nuts , breads etc. nothing to shout about on the taste.
Now .resting and try to catch some sleep.
Namaste.
I am in transit at Dubai for 4 hours on route to Ethoipia.
Dubai is a travel hub to rest of the world and it is huge in size and hundreds of aircraft past through this hub. Of course , there are a lot of travelers passing through the terminal everyday.
Huge shopping area with lots of eateries. The terminate is 4 hours behind Malaysia.
The weather is about 30 deg C outside but in the lounge and terminate is about 24 deg C.
The providers is mainly western food with nuts , breads etc. nothing to shout about on the taste.
Now .resting and try to catch some sleep.
Namaste.
On the way to Africa - 1
On the way to Africa.
This is my second trip to East Africa and in particular Ethoipia . This country is abou 30 years behind Malaysia and now they Re opening up for foreign investments.
China has gone in a big way ahead do the US.
The feeling of traveling to Africa is kind of confusion and despair. This is usually this feeling as the country is quite virgin and the culture and food is so different. The country have gone through a great famine and a number of civil wars.
The last time when I was there , I spend two days but this time three days in the country. I will get to know the people and its culture deeper but there is a somewhat uneasy feelings. For some people, they would want to travel back in time or to the place where is the origin of man but for me, it is a challenge as I prefer to travel to a more developed nation. This is my weakness and I have to overcome it. Perhaps , places like Bangladesh and Ethoipia have connections with my previous life. Perhaps , this is.an unfulfilled task in my previous life. This could be the reason why I am evolving in these countries.
I have to relax and sale it through and enrich my experience with these challenging trips.
When there is something we cannot control or change it , there is useless to worry but hold firmly and steer it through .
Namaste.
This is my second trip to East Africa and in particular Ethoipia . This country is abou 30 years behind Malaysia and now they Re opening up for foreign investments.
China has gone in a big way ahead do the US.
The feeling of traveling to Africa is kind of confusion and despair. This is usually this feeling as the country is quite virgin and the culture and food is so different. The country have gone through a great famine and a number of civil wars.
The last time when I was there , I spend two days but this time three days in the country. I will get to know the people and its culture deeper but there is a somewhat uneasy feelings. For some people, they would want to travel back in time or to the place where is the origin of man but for me, it is a challenge as I prefer to travel to a more developed nation. This is my weakness and I have to overcome it. Perhaps , places like Bangladesh and Ethoipia have connections with my previous life. Perhaps , this is.an unfulfilled task in my previous life. This could be the reason why I am evolving in these countries.
I have to relax and sale it through and enrich my experience with these challenging trips.
When there is something we cannot control or change it , there is useless to worry but hold firmly and steer it through .
Namaste.
Saturday, September 27, 2014
Into the twilight -3
Into the twilight 3
The fear of death is in everyone and it is a taboo to talk about this subject. The reason that is subject is not popular is because life is to be celebrated and to live and not to wait for death.
However , the is no life without death. A perpetual life without death is so meaningless but when death is near, we cannot let to and wanted more time. So, how long life should be? 100 or two hundred years or more?
Based on the scientific development which have make advance in prolonging life , we can live longer and longer and we celebrate longer life. If we have the wisdom and way to enjoy a longer life then it is welcome but if there is no purpose and meaning in life then let the natural process take its place.
Talking about death should a normal subject and raise our awareness of life's temporary and transitional stage. I we are aware of death, we are aware of the need to live well.
Life come and go . Live wth awareness.
Namaste.
The fear of death is in everyone and it is a taboo to talk about this subject. The reason that is subject is not popular is because life is to be celebrated and to live and not to wait for death.
However , the is no life without death. A perpetual life without death is so meaningless but when death is near, we cannot let to and wanted more time. So, how long life should be? 100 or two hundred years or more?
Based on the scientific development which have make advance in prolonging life , we can live longer and longer and we celebrate longer life. If we have the wisdom and way to enjoy a longer life then it is welcome but if there is no purpose and meaning in life then let the natural process take its place.
Talking about death should a normal subject and raise our awareness of life's temporary and transitional stage. I we are aware of death, we are aware of the need to live well.
Life come and go . Live wth awareness.
Namaste.
Thursday, September 25, 2014
into the twilight - 2
Today, I had lunch with an old time banker friend. He told me that he is suffering from severe back pain. The back pain have occurred a few months ago and with pyshotherapy , he was alright until lately, the pain came back and haunt him. He said that it was a sign of old age. The body will have a lot of pains as we aged. For this insight , I agreed absolutely. It is sooner or later. If we are able to keep our healthy well, it will be later and for some , it is sooner as the body immune or the strength fade.
In Yoga, we believe that in our life we have an average of three million breath. If we breath faster through exercise , we will die faster and if we breath slower through Tai Chi , we will live longer. However, it depends on the health wellness of each individual person.
After lunch, he told me that one of mutual banker friend just passed away from heart attack a few days ago. He is only one year older than me. Yes, I have lost touch with him for more than 10 year now since his retirement. He was quite a jovial person and he used to take chinese herbs to cure his common illness. He suffered a heart attack was in coma for three days before passing.
I was shocked as I have not expected such outcome. When we are in twilight years, there are a lot of things that we cannot expect. Come what may, we have to live on positively and cautiously. We can take all the precautions but it depends on the decision of our maker.
We have to move forward and let it go.
Namaste.
Wednesday, September 24, 2014
Into the twilight -1
In our life journey, there a twilight phrase like the evening setting sun. This is the last phase of our life journey and like a lot of people is saying " it is down the hill ' or past the prime.
This is the time to let go, relax and wind down to meet our creator.
In this phase, we only have memories and recalling happy moments and try to keep healthy so that we can continue to enjoy our life. The darkness or end is near and we have to be prepared to face the so called judgement day.
Today, I attended a retiring colleague's farewell lunch. At this age , after retirement , he is going into business. This is his passion to live another chapter in his twilight years. A lot of people would have retired completely when they reach 59 years old but there are some people who want to keep themself occuppied and be useful until the end.
In life, there are so many choices and people have so many path to choose. to travel their journey. There is no one common road . Even if in one common road, the feeling and happening is not the same.
Namaste.
Please read part 2 - for more adventures.
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
Too many cooks spoilted the soup
This is an English phrase that means if there are too many people deciding how the soup is to be cooked, the soup will end up as too salty, too sweet, too bitter or too smelly making the soup uneditable. A nice soup will become poison and will eventually kill everyone or create a big mess.
If there are too many captains on a ship, the ship will be changing directions at every moment and will eventually sink , carrying everyone down with it.
I have seen many instances that there are people who do not care about their position and want to be a decision maker even though , he or she knows nothing about the pending problem. Just a word or just a small action could change the result of a process. A little bit of salt or sugar by each other or some one, could make the soup too salty or too sweet.
This is the behaviour of some human beings who just want to contribute for the simple purpose of wanting to make some decision. Some people are just restless and just want to show that they want to do something or have their own opinion of things.
In anything we do or cook, people would have different taste and liking. We cannot satisfy all the needs and requirements of all the people in our life. There are many decisions in life which require our own decision and if we keep asking for opinions, we will become confused and go mad.
Life is like that " one man's meat is another man's poison" . there can never be one soluton for all problems like the roads leading to a destination. There are many options. Some is longer and some is shorter , some is bumpy and some is smooth. But once , we make the decision, we will need to bear the consequences. A decision comes with responsibility.
Namaste.
If there are too many captains on a ship, the ship will be changing directions at every moment and will eventually sink , carrying everyone down with it.
I have seen many instances that there are people who do not care about their position and want to be a decision maker even though , he or she knows nothing about the pending problem. Just a word or just a small action could change the result of a process. A little bit of salt or sugar by each other or some one, could make the soup too salty or too sweet.
This is the behaviour of some human beings who just want to contribute for the simple purpose of wanting to make some decision. Some people are just restless and just want to show that they want to do something or have their own opinion of things.
In anything we do or cook, people would have different taste and liking. We cannot satisfy all the needs and requirements of all the people in our life. There are many decisions in life which require our own decision and if we keep asking for opinions, we will become confused and go mad.
Life is like that " one man's meat is another man's poison" . there can never be one soluton for all problems like the roads leading to a destination. There are many options. Some is longer and some is shorter , some is bumpy and some is smooth. But once , we make the decision, we will need to bear the consequences. A decision comes with responsibility.
Namaste.
Monday, September 22, 2014
Feeling upset - apple polishing
This is one of my down time today having to wake up at 5 am to sent my daughter M to airport for her trip to Taiwan. It is actually nothing tired about it but it could be the interruption in my sleep that makes me a bit " blur" today.
In my work , I have seen a lot of people gaining recognition by " apple polishing " but I do not like the sight of it. People tell me that I am also doing some " apple polishing" sometimes. Yes, I agree but I don't do it all the time. If such activity is overdone or too much , it makes me feel sick.
Sometimes, I am guilty of not taking actions to ratify the situation but just by remaining silent over the matter. My conscious heart feel a bit of ugliness and bare feeling. I cannot be rude to tell the person off and I know it is very sensitive matter and it could hurt everyone in the process. If there is a crack on the mirror , it will never be the same again. Furthermore, who is me to judge them or tell them off.
I have to change to accept this kind of acting even though, the "apple polishing " is hurting someone. I know it is wrong and I have experience it before. To be frank, it is really a sensitive matter and it should be handled with extreme care.
There is a saying " problems relating to the passion of the heart " is the most difficult thing to handle in the world or in our life. The outcome is not predictable and it could turn and hurt us instead.
This is one of the reason that I am down as the pretentious acting have gone beyond the line and it becomes disgusting when it occurs infront of so many people.
May GOD give them a solution and bring them back to the right path or is this the right or wrong path which needs no solution ? There is no such thing as right or wrong in this world as it depends on our wisdom and preception of things that have happened.
Namaste.
In my work , I have seen a lot of people gaining recognition by " apple polishing " but I do not like the sight of it. People tell me that I am also doing some " apple polishing" sometimes. Yes, I agree but I don't do it all the time. If such activity is overdone or too much , it makes me feel sick.
Sometimes, I am guilty of not taking actions to ratify the situation but just by remaining silent over the matter. My conscious heart feel a bit of ugliness and bare feeling. I cannot be rude to tell the person off and I know it is very sensitive matter and it could hurt everyone in the process. If there is a crack on the mirror , it will never be the same again. Furthermore, who is me to judge them or tell them off.
I have to change to accept this kind of acting even though, the "apple polishing " is hurting someone. I know it is wrong and I have experience it before. To be frank, it is really a sensitive matter and it should be handled with extreme care.
There is a saying " problems relating to the passion of the heart " is the most difficult thing to handle in the world or in our life. The outcome is not predictable and it could turn and hurt us instead.
This is one of the reason that I am down as the pretentious acting have gone beyond the line and it becomes disgusting when it occurs infront of so many people.
May GOD give them a solution and bring them back to the right path or is this the right or wrong path which needs no solution ? There is no such thing as right or wrong in this world as it depends on our wisdom and preception of things that have happened.
Namaste.
Saturday, September 20, 2014
That's what friends are for...
That 'a what friends are for....
I heard this song a few times for the past few days and it has climb to top 10 of American top 40 hits. It was a favorite song many years ago, a duet from Diana Warwick and friends. It was a catchy tune and with very good lyrics.
It brings back memories as I enjoyed the son afresh. The lyrics tells us to keep shining , keep smiling and that is what friends are for. Knowing that we can count on each other in happy days or sad days. In sunshine or in raining days. Yes. If we have strong foundation in our friendship. That is what happens.
However, for.a lot of friendship , there is always a need to bind them together. It can be greed, money , sex ,etc. there is a mutual need of using each other for a better life and benefits. . It it is a win win situation, the relationship will last longer. But if it benefits only one at the expense of another, then the relationship will collapse.
There is a very rare case of a pure relationship. A total sacrifice or a expect nothing relationship. A friendship that can last a life time. Even Romeo and Juliet come together in a relationship out of love. In this case , it is possession of each other. There is a need for love.
I would like to advise that if we cannot help a person or persons , please don't hurt them. This wise saying from the holy Dalai Lama is very true. So, don't be.a great pretender.
Lyrics of the song:
Namaste.
I heard this song a few times for the past few days and it has climb to top 10 of American top 40 hits. It was a favorite song many years ago, a duet from Diana Warwick and friends. It was a catchy tune and with very good lyrics.
It brings back memories as I enjoyed the son afresh. The lyrics tells us to keep shining , keep smiling and that is what friends are for. Knowing that we can count on each other in happy days or sad days. In sunshine or in raining days. Yes. If we have strong foundation in our friendship. That is what happens.
However, for.a lot of friendship , there is always a need to bind them together. It can be greed, money , sex ,etc. there is a mutual need of using each other for a better life and benefits. . It it is a win win situation, the relationship will last longer. But if it benefits only one at the expense of another, then the relationship will collapse.
There is a very rare case of a pure relationship. A total sacrifice or a expect nothing relationship. A friendship that can last a life time. Even Romeo and Juliet come together in a relationship out of love. In this case , it is possession of each other. There is a need for love.
I would like to advise that if we cannot help a person or persons , please don't hurt them. This wise saying from the holy Dalai Lama is very true. So, don't be.a great pretender.
Lyrics of the song:
And I never thought I'd feel this way
And as far as I'm concerned
I'm glad I got the chance to say
That I do believe, I love you
And if I should ever go away
Well, then close your eyes and try
To feel the way we do today
And then if you can remember
Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for
Well, you came in loving me
And now there's so much more I see
And so by the way
I thank you
Oh and then for the times when we're apart
Well, then close your eyes and know
The words are coming from my heart
And then if you can remember
Keep smiling and keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
In good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for
Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
That's what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for
Keep smiling, keep shining
Knowing you can always count on me, for sure
'Cause I tell you, that's what friends are for
Whoa, good times and the bad times
I'll be on your side forever more
That's what friends are for
Friday, September 19, 2014
Christmas future ?.
I was told by my colleague that the funeral of my ex- colleague was only attended by 3 to 4 people and it was a lonely , lonely procession. At this time, it will show whether the deceased is well like or not during his life time. I was told that some of the colleague don't even want to see his face for the last time. I wounder why ? But, to the deceased does it matter ? It is a very private matter.
I saw the flim about Christmas spirit which showed the christmas past , Christmas present and Christmas future. It was about a miser , a thrifty and stingy man who ill treated a lot of people during his life time and on christmas day , he dream about his christmas past , present and future. When he woke up, he became a changed man and tried to repair his image by trying to be good to the people around him so that he can change his christmas future.
I seen a lot of people who try to do charity after their retirement to improve their karma and they believe that it will eliminate their sins. I think they are not wrong , it will definitely improve their future but whether it can eradicate their sins of the past, it needs to be seen.
It is very strange that we believe we can be nasty in our early or prime years and we can repent during our twilight years. I believe , this oncept is writen in the bible and many other holy books that if we accept GOD or a certain Saint , then all your sins will be forgiven. If we murder people and accepting GOD and repent , does it remove the bad karma ? Sure , it is a bit disturbing with this philosophy.
I believe everybody is born good and during the journey through life, we are lost and become nasty to people. Well, I think we have to pay for the sins or the bad karma in its own way but not by accepting certain thing, our sins or bad karma is gone. Anyway, it sounds too easy.
Lets be good from Day 1 until the end of our life. But , this imperfection is not easy to attain and we can only minimize such demerits.
Namaste.
I saw the flim about Christmas spirit which showed the christmas past , Christmas present and Christmas future. It was about a miser , a thrifty and stingy man who ill treated a lot of people during his life time and on christmas day , he dream about his christmas past , present and future. When he woke up, he became a changed man and tried to repair his image by trying to be good to the people around him so that he can change his christmas future.
I seen a lot of people who try to do charity after their retirement to improve their karma and they believe that it will eliminate their sins. I think they are not wrong , it will definitely improve their future but whether it can eradicate their sins of the past, it needs to be seen.
It is very strange that we believe we can be nasty in our early or prime years and we can repent during our twilight years. I believe , this oncept is writen in the bible and many other holy books that if we accept GOD or a certain Saint , then all your sins will be forgiven. If we murder people and accepting GOD and repent , does it remove the bad karma ? Sure , it is a bit disturbing with this philosophy.
I believe everybody is born good and during the journey through life, we are lost and become nasty to people. Well, I think we have to pay for the sins or the bad karma in its own way but not by accepting certain thing, our sins or bad karma is gone. Anyway, it sounds too easy.
Lets be good from Day 1 until the end of our life. But , this imperfection is not easy to attain and we can only minimize such demerits.
Namaste.
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
The good, bad and the ugly.
The living
Everything have an end and some shorter and some longer. However bright and clever or However rich, he will need to pass on.
Life is a joke and we struggle so hard for an easier life and yet, we cannot have it with us forever. Be it frame, money, belongings , family or love. When we die, we have to let go of everything. Yes, we come with nothing and we go with nothing. Life is a foolish game.
Even though , we know life is a foolish game but we want to play it and winning the game even for a brief period of time. The ego is too big and the greed is too strong. Even if it is for a brief moment. This is creditably stupid.
No matter how much we have , we only own it for a brief moment and we still convince ourself that it is still worth it.. It is as if that once we are in the game , we are in auto pilot mode and we lose ourself in the game. It becomes a survival game and we have play it with our eyes open. We are aware if iur actions and our behavior. We are conscious yet we become illogical and disregard our awareness. The point is to enhance ourself in wealth , power and frame. All these are fleeting things.
Sometimes, our senses return to us and for a moment we are aware. But these glimpse of enlightenment is brief and the power of the game is very strong and we are back in the game in no time.
To break away from the main stream is very difficult and going back to the basics in life is boring. Even grand masters also die like many others before us. Everybody have the same end , so what is the difference?
The good, bad and the ugly , all die the same way.
Namaste.
Everything have an end and some shorter and some longer. However bright and clever or However rich, he will need to pass on.
Life is a joke and we struggle so hard for an easier life and yet, we cannot have it with us forever. Be it frame, money, belongings , family or love. When we die, we have to let go of everything. Yes, we come with nothing and we go with nothing. Life is a foolish game.
Even though , we know life is a foolish game but we want to play it and winning the game even for a brief period of time. The ego is too big and the greed is too strong. Even if it is for a brief moment. This is creditably stupid.
No matter how much we have , we only own it for a brief moment and we still convince ourself that it is still worth it.. It is as if that once we are in the game , we are in auto pilot mode and we lose ourself in the game. It becomes a survival game and we have play it with our eyes open. We are aware if iur actions and our behavior. We are conscious yet we become illogical and disregard our awareness. The point is to enhance ourself in wealth , power and frame. All these are fleeting things.
Sometimes, our senses return to us and for a moment we are aware. But these glimpse of enlightenment is brief and the power of the game is very strong and we are back in the game in no time.
To break away from the main stream is very difficult and going back to the basics in life is boring. Even grand masters also die like many others before us. Everybody have the same end , so what is the difference?
The good, bad and the ugly , all die the same way.
Namaste.
The Peak
The Peak
I am now at the Peak Apartment . This block of apartments have been advertised by Ivory for a long time. It is located at the hill next to the " White cloud cementery" near Mount Eskime.
The place is now well developed and before it was a waste land. The Peak have been completed recently and now , the ivory group is promoting the lattitude apartments on the same hill next to the Peak.
Before the Peak, the place was dark and scary and the place is jam pack during the Chinese "all souls day".
Now it is okay and it looks clean and airy as people starts to move in. But only a few shops are open for business. It will take some time for the place to be warm and friendly for business. Frankly speaking , only the locals are aware of this place.
Well, if you want to consider for investment , anything on the island will be expensive in the near future.
Namaste.
I am now at the Peak Apartment . This block of apartments have been advertised by Ivory for a long time. It is located at the hill next to the " White cloud cementery" near Mount Eskime.
The place is now well developed and before it was a waste land. The Peak have been completed recently and now , the ivory group is promoting the lattitude apartments on the same hill next to the Peak.
Before the Peak, the place was dark and scary and the place is jam pack during the Chinese "all souls day".
Now it is okay and it looks clean and airy as people starts to move in. But only a few shops are open for business. It will take some time for the place to be warm and friendly for business. Frankly speaking , only the locals are aware of this place.
Well, if you want to consider for investment , anything on the island will be expensive in the near future.
Namaste.
It never mend to be.
It never mend to be.
This morning I was supposed to attend the funeral of my former colleague. He was one of the top executive during his hay days in my company. He retired at 65 about 15 years ago and continued to stay in Penang despite his family is living in Singapore.
I had a reunion dinner with him and some former old boys from our company last year and at that time he was weak but he could talk quite loudly. His kidney have failed him at that time and was on treatment.
I gave my self one hour to reach his house to attend his funeral. As I reach there I could see the road names , counting from road one onwards. As I drove on , I could see road 11 , 12 and suddenly jump to 15 and 16. The road I searching for was road 13. I kept looking and driving round the area and I found road 13 but it was only a short road and there was no house 19 and end at 11A. I stopped and asked two workers working in the area and they just point towards the road 15. I drove around and it was like.a maze and finally I stopped to phone some colleagues. Two did not answer my phone and two of them don't know the direction. I continued to search and in my heart . I continued to tell my deceased colleague that I have tried my best and if it is destined that I could not attend his funeral , don't blame me because I have tired my best.
Finally, one of my colleague who had not answered my phone call him back and by that time, the funeral procession have started . I have to give up and I gave a silent prayer for my ex-colleague to rest in peace.
It has mend to be this way.
Namaste.
This morning I was supposed to attend the funeral of my former colleague. He was one of the top executive during his hay days in my company. He retired at 65 about 15 years ago and continued to stay in Penang despite his family is living in Singapore.
I had a reunion dinner with him and some former old boys from our company last year and at that time he was weak but he could talk quite loudly. His kidney have failed him at that time and was on treatment.
I gave my self one hour to reach his house to attend his funeral. As I reach there I could see the road names , counting from road one onwards. As I drove on , I could see road 11 , 12 and suddenly jump to 15 and 16. The road I searching for was road 13. I kept looking and driving round the area and I found road 13 but it was only a short road and there was no house 19 and end at 11A. I stopped and asked two workers working in the area and they just point towards the road 15. I drove around and it was like.a maze and finally I stopped to phone some colleagues. Two did not answer my phone and two of them don't know the direction. I continued to search and in my heart . I continued to tell my deceased colleague that I have tried my best and if it is destined that I could not attend his funeral , don't blame me because I have tired my best.
Finally, one of my colleague who had not answered my phone call him back and by that time, the funeral procession have started . I have to give up and I gave a silent prayer for my ex-colleague to rest in peace.
It has mend to be this way.
Namaste.
Monday, September 15, 2014
Inner peace
What is inner peace ? It is very simple . If we can sleep well, eat well and live well, then we have inner peace. Why and how ? If we cannot sleep, it is because we have trouble thoughts and this trouble thoughts will affect our food intake and also finally our health. This is reflected in our poor food intake and wealth health because of the poor food intake.
So, good and enough sleep is very important to our health. If we have inner peace, we will have good deep sleep. How do we have inner peace? Cheat not, sin not and do not hurt others including other living things.
Cheat not means " honesty is the best policy " be rewarded with a good and honest day work and do not try to use illegal ways to earn money or be a slave to greed. Never take anything which do not belong to us and earned the reward from your own merit or work.
Sin not means not to have evil thoughts , talk evil about others and not the right words in our speech. The right thought , the right words and the right action. The power to build and inspire others to be great or do great things. Of course, this covers " cheat not".
Then what is "hurt others not". Live with compassion love for others and if we cannot help others, we should not hurt others. We cannot achieve something for ourself and hurt others on the way. This is not the right way.
The power of these actions and thoughts is within us. There is nothing mysterous about these conditions except to control our desire, craving and actions. A pure thought is initiated from our pure action or vice versa. It is inter-changeable.
Namaste.
So, good and enough sleep is very important to our health. If we have inner peace, we will have good deep sleep. How do we have inner peace? Cheat not, sin not and do not hurt others including other living things.
Cheat not means " honesty is the best policy " be rewarded with a good and honest day work and do not try to use illegal ways to earn money or be a slave to greed. Never take anything which do not belong to us and earned the reward from your own merit or work.
Sin not means not to have evil thoughts , talk evil about others and not the right words in our speech. The right thought , the right words and the right action. The power to build and inspire others to be great or do great things. Of course, this covers " cheat not".
Then what is "hurt others not". Live with compassion love for others and if we cannot help others, we should not hurt others. We cannot achieve something for ourself and hurt others on the way. This is not the right way.
The power of these actions and thoughts is within us. There is nothing mysterous about these conditions except to control our desire, craving and actions. A pure thought is initiated from our pure action or vice versa. It is inter-changeable.
Namaste.
Friday, September 12, 2014
A great pretender
I told my friend , an audit partner that she is a great pretender . She replied me that it is better for her to be an actress. I think she is absolutely right . A great pretender should also be a good actress.
Actually, what I want to say is everyone of us have some great pretence in our dealing with people. We are naturally actors or actress in the different situations in our life. We actually pretend so that we do not hurt others, to avoid embarassment , to look good in the eyes of others, to be close to another people, etc. Many occasions called for our acting skills.
When my boss scold me, I acted hurted or sad but in my heart, I am very angry because he scold me without a reason. I choose not to talk back and swallow the dead cat or cat noodle because I need the job or avoid further troubles from him. Otherwise, I could have shouted back at him and walk out.
It should does not called good acting skill on in our job but also in our private life. We buy big cars, big house, spend lavishly and look good in brand names so that we improve our image while our financials are miserable or not of that class. We want to compare with our jones and we have to be a great pretender.
The degree of pretending have a great impact on our personal reality. If we act too much and change our basic character too much, we become a split personality. Two person in one body. If we act occasionally, we are more "us" than others. This balance between our real self and "another" person demands great skills , so that we can come back to our basic self.
Some of the great actors and actress have split personality after acting in a movie. Their basic self and the character they played in the movie can be so confusing and could lead them into a depression. The memory of our acting character becomes so embedded in us that for a period of time, we are another person in our body and mind.
So, it is better for us to be grounded and remain ourself . We should not change ourself for others until we don't know how many % of ourself is our original self. Do we want to become a totally changed " person". If it is for the better, why not ? But if our mind is changed to be another person but our physical self remained in another, then this is very dangerous and this could hurt the person living in the real world.
Yes, it is better that we have to be ourself even if we are performing below par rather than be somebody we don't know or like.
Namaste.
Actually, what I want to say is everyone of us have some great pretence in our dealing with people. We are naturally actors or actress in the different situations in our life. We actually pretend so that we do not hurt others, to avoid embarassment , to look good in the eyes of others, to be close to another people, etc. Many occasions called for our acting skills.
When my boss scold me, I acted hurted or sad but in my heart, I am very angry because he scold me without a reason. I choose not to talk back and swallow the dead cat or cat noodle because I need the job or avoid further troubles from him. Otherwise, I could have shouted back at him and walk out.
It should does not called good acting skill on in our job but also in our private life. We buy big cars, big house, spend lavishly and look good in brand names so that we improve our image while our financials are miserable or not of that class. We want to compare with our jones and we have to be a great pretender.
The degree of pretending have a great impact on our personal reality. If we act too much and change our basic character too much, we become a split personality. Two person in one body. If we act occasionally, we are more "us" than others. This balance between our real self and "another" person demands great skills , so that we can come back to our basic self.
Some of the great actors and actress have split personality after acting in a movie. Their basic self and the character they played in the movie can be so confusing and could lead them into a depression. The memory of our acting character becomes so embedded in us that for a period of time, we are another person in our body and mind.
So, it is better for us to be grounded and remain ourself . We should not change ourself for others until we don't know how many % of ourself is our original self. Do we want to become a totally changed " person". If it is for the better, why not ? But if our mind is changed to be another person but our physical self remained in another, then this is very dangerous and this could hurt the person living in the real world.
Yes, it is better that we have to be ourself even if we are performing below par rather than be somebody we don't know or like.
Namaste.
A ferry stuck by low tide
On Monday, I had a shock of my life when the Perlis Ferry could not dock at the Kuala Perlis for 5 hours. The ferry have started at 10am in the morning and the trip was supposed to take only 3 hours but instead it only reach the ferry terminal at 10 pm. It was a 12 hours wait.
I called my daughter M at 4pm and she told me that the ferry took six hours to reach Kuala Perlis terminal but the ferry cannot dock because of low tide. One of the engine of the ferry have broken down and it was only travelling with one engine all the way from Langkawi to Kuala Perlis and it got stranded because of the low tide.
At 5 pm , I called the ferry operator and they told me that the ferry will dock at 9pm and at 6pm , I called again to check the situation but the office workers have all left the office. I could not contact their office and I can only communicate with my daugther M. It was a hollowing experience.
The day was Mid Autumn Festival and I have to rush all the way from Penang to Kuala Perlis to see what is actually happen. The road there was long and it needs 2 hours of driving time. We followed the GPS but there was a lack of internet access and the GPS could only work on and off and many times, it told us that we have reached our destination when we are still among the kampong houses or near padi fields. It was frigthening as the roads gets narrower and smaller. We were lost at one time but we could struggle and manage to return to the proper direction after some search.
It took us two and half hours to reach Kuala Perlis and by that time, my daughter's ferry have already docked and she was waiting for us. We have skip our dinner and we start to look for food near the Kuala Perlis terminal but there is only one shop, KFC and they were closing at 11 pm. All the staff were ready to go home but we managed to struggle to get a few piece of chicken for our dinner.
At 11pm, we were on our way back and it took us one hour and 30 minutes to reach Penang and we were traveling at 160 km per hour at certain stretch.
Anyway, the whole journey and experience was a bad experience. Hope that the readers can learn a lesson from my story.
Namaste.
I called my daughter M at 4pm and she told me that the ferry took six hours to reach Kuala Perlis terminal but the ferry cannot dock because of low tide. One of the engine of the ferry have broken down and it was only travelling with one engine all the way from Langkawi to Kuala Perlis and it got stranded because of the low tide.
At 5 pm , I called the ferry operator and they told me that the ferry will dock at 9pm and at 6pm , I called again to check the situation but the office workers have all left the office. I could not contact their office and I can only communicate with my daugther M. It was a hollowing experience.
The day was Mid Autumn Festival and I have to rush all the way from Penang to Kuala Perlis to see what is actually happen. The road there was long and it needs 2 hours of driving time. We followed the GPS but there was a lack of internet access and the GPS could only work on and off and many times, it told us that we have reached our destination when we are still among the kampong houses or near padi fields. It was frigthening as the roads gets narrower and smaller. We were lost at one time but we could struggle and manage to return to the proper direction after some search.
It took us two and half hours to reach Kuala Perlis and by that time, my daughter's ferry have already docked and she was waiting for us. We have skip our dinner and we start to look for food near the Kuala Perlis terminal but there is only one shop, KFC and they were closing at 11 pm. All the staff were ready to go home but we managed to struggle to get a few piece of chicken for our dinner.
At 11pm, we were on our way back and it took us one hour and 30 minutes to reach Penang and we were traveling at 160 km per hour at certain stretch.
Anyway, the whole journey and experience was a bad experience. Hope that the readers can learn a lesson from my story.
Namaste.
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
Do i have a changed mind ?
I was asked this question , do I have a changed mind ? I think so but it will take some time for it to sink in. I must try to look at the things at a different perspective or seeing a thing differently. Do I actually changed or just pretend to change ? Is it only a survival tactic or lip service ?
People say old habits die hard or we are comfortable in our own comfort zone and to move out of it and to face the uncertainties , most people would not want to do it.
It is a struggle between wanting to change or remaining in the comfort zone ? This struggle will take some thing and it will shift between change or no change. It is really a very hard thing to do.
Most people will start off with the change but it will gradually move back to its starting point. When we are aware of it and there is an existing pressure to push you, we will have no other choice but to implement the actions. Is it really from our heart or just a survival skill reaction.
Change and make it changed is important and reversing the change back to its original position would be a bad deal and wrong in action. So, it has a lot of steps ie pushing forward with the change and it lapse and it push it back . So there are so many actions. Two step forward and three step back. There will repititious movement of back and forward steps until it permanently have moved forwrad.
Another point is that we have to keep our awareness of this change and have some sense to measure whether we have moved backward or not . In our mind, we have to test our perceptions whether the change have really taken place.
So such happening , it is never certain that things have change. we have to realize it only in our mind.
Namaste,.
People say old habits die hard or we are comfortable in our own comfort zone and to move out of it and to face the uncertainties , most people would not want to do it.
It is a struggle between wanting to change or remaining in the comfort zone ? This struggle will take some thing and it will shift between change or no change. It is really a very hard thing to do.
Most people will start off with the change but it will gradually move back to its starting point. When we are aware of it and there is an existing pressure to push you, we will have no other choice but to implement the actions. Is it really from our heart or just a survival skill reaction.
Change and make it changed is important and reversing the change back to its original position would be a bad deal and wrong in action. So, it has a lot of steps ie pushing forward with the change and it lapse and it push it back . So there are so many actions. Two step forward and three step back. There will repititious movement of back and forward steps until it permanently have moved forwrad.
Another point is that we have to keep our awareness of this change and have some sense to measure whether we have moved backward or not . In our mind, we have to test our perceptions whether the change have really taken place.
So such happening , it is never certain that things have change. we have to realize it only in our mind.
Namaste,.
Sunday, September 7, 2014
A messy world
It is a messy world
My experience today reminded me that this is a messy world.
The road system in my area was changed to a one way street without me knowing and I was caught in a awkward direction having to find my way out in a jam. Notice might have been given but it was not obvious to me as I have been busy these days.
This morning u was waiting for my wide at the wet market in my area and suddenly a BMW just park in an Oppersite my car . It was a one way in my direction but this " bully" just park his car an walk off. I was fuming mad. That bloody bastard. My Sister In law , G have told us long time ago, that my area is full of "bad characters" and today, the truth really hit me. Yes, too many low cost flats already and it is time to move out. I have been thinking about it.
The park Oppersite my house has turned into an Indian temple, a public car park , a dig garage and a squatter housing a chicken farm. I have complain to MPPP and the SPCA and including the Rocket Rep and they are atill standing today. How can a public park become such a mess.
Another incident really frighten me as the traffic becomes more and more congested with more housing projects completing in the area and giving OC this year end, the driving have become more and more dangerous with bikes and cars not obeying the traffic rules to avoid jams. My area is really suffocating with little green lung and the cars are parking on both sides of the roads giving space for only one car.
I have to live in my own house trying to forget the wildness that is getting serious and scary outside.
What is the authority doing? Can't they take appropriate actions to maintain law and order. Waste woods ?
Namaste.
My experience today reminded me that this is a messy world.
The road system in my area was changed to a one way street without me knowing and I was caught in a awkward direction having to find my way out in a jam. Notice might have been given but it was not obvious to me as I have been busy these days.
This morning u was waiting for my wide at the wet market in my area and suddenly a BMW just park in an Oppersite my car . It was a one way in my direction but this " bully" just park his car an walk off. I was fuming mad. That bloody bastard. My Sister In law , G have told us long time ago, that my area is full of "bad characters" and today, the truth really hit me. Yes, too many low cost flats already and it is time to move out. I have been thinking about it.
The park Oppersite my house has turned into an Indian temple, a public car park , a dig garage and a squatter housing a chicken farm. I have complain to MPPP and the SPCA and including the Rocket Rep and they are atill standing today. How can a public park become such a mess.
Another incident really frighten me as the traffic becomes more and more congested with more housing projects completing in the area and giving OC this year end, the driving have become more and more dangerous with bikes and cars not obeying the traffic rules to avoid jams. My area is really suffocating with little green lung and the cars are parking on both sides of the roads giving space for only one car.
I have to live in my own house trying to forget the wildness that is getting serious and scary outside.
What is the authority doing? Can't they take appropriate actions to maintain law and order. Waste woods ?
Namaste.
Friday, September 5, 2014
Don't hurt others
I could vividly remembered a wise saying " if you cannot help others , don't hurt them ". This is a very difficult balance as most of the time, we execute our decision, we have to hurt another human being. There are many such delicate problems.
In any relationship ie husband and wife, the true colors will appear after marriage and especially after period of time. If the relationship is still tolerable, then there is no upheaval or turbulence but if the chemistry don't work anymore, it will affect the children. Is it better to divorce or continued to hold the family together ? Is it fair to the children or the wife or the husband?
In Asian culture, in its conservative background, the husband and wife will hold together the family for the sake of the children . Both of them will suffer in silence trying to stay or tolerate each other for the children forgetting that they have a life as well. The hard day and night of suffering can only be gone after the children have grown up and live independently. By that time, it will be too late for either the husband or the wife to live to start their life of their own. This is the suffering in the Asian culture.
However, a friend told me that the Asian value of family have actually change a lot as there are many single mothers taking care of their child and struggling as well. In this case, the mother and father have their own life but the children will be suffering with an uncomplete family.
It is very difficult to be balance in this area ? Does holding together a marriage or a splilt is better for all the parties ? So , in such circumstances, it is very difficult not to hurt anyone in the real world.
There is no perfect standard solution and varies very much according to the circumstances of each case. Some times it ends well and some times it is not as the positve and negative factors is constantly changing and evolving.
As I have told a colleague, anything which have to deal with human beings , the outcome is not predictable. Human relationship problem is the most complex and difficult problem.
Namaste.
In any relationship ie husband and wife, the true colors will appear after marriage and especially after period of time. If the relationship is still tolerable, then there is no upheaval or turbulence but if the chemistry don't work anymore, it will affect the children. Is it better to divorce or continued to hold the family together ? Is it fair to the children or the wife or the husband?
In Asian culture, in its conservative background, the husband and wife will hold together the family for the sake of the children . Both of them will suffer in silence trying to stay or tolerate each other for the children forgetting that they have a life as well. The hard day and night of suffering can only be gone after the children have grown up and live independently. By that time, it will be too late for either the husband or the wife to live to start their life of their own. This is the suffering in the Asian culture.
However, a friend told me that the Asian value of family have actually change a lot as there are many single mothers taking care of their child and struggling as well. In this case, the mother and father have their own life but the children will be suffering with an uncomplete family.
It is very difficult to be balance in this area ? Does holding together a marriage or a splilt is better for all the parties ? So , in such circumstances, it is very difficult not to hurt anyone in the real world.
There is no perfect standard solution and varies very much according to the circumstances of each case. Some times it ends well and some times it is not as the positve and negative factors is constantly changing and evolving.
As I have told a colleague, anything which have to deal with human beings , the outcome is not predictable. Human relationship problem is the most complex and difficult problem.
Namaste.
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
Everything is just temporary
Why are we so stressed ? We spend most of our time improving our wealth , health and frame. Do we stop to think about all these matters ? Is it worth it to struggle and make the grade and to fulfill our ego. Does all these have meaning in our life?
I was talking to my daughter M some time ago. I asked her whether she is interested in high pay jobs which will bring her more stress and have to constantly upgrading herself. She told me "No". I asked her why ? She told me that life is not all about money, frame or self ego, life is to live freely and be happy.
I think that statement is really true. All these years of working and looking back, do I live the way it should be lived ? or am I just following the path of all those before me, working hard to get more material wealth. Is more money and more famous means that I am more happy. Yes, we feel good but is that all it matters? Is it real happiness.
Looking further, I could see people having more moeny and keep worrying about their money but at the same time, people who are struggling with not enough money. Is there a measurement of what is enough for us to spend more time to be happy ? Many people nowaday talked about balance life. There are no absolute answers and each balance depends on each person's management and tolerance.
The same thing is with happiness, there is not standard measurement of happiness. Everyone of us have different factors to make us happey. Some very simple and small things while others, of course is money or being famous. Everyone is happy at his or her own way and at different degrees.
Striking a lottery of RM1 million for a billionaire is nothing but a million to an ordinary person, it is a very big and happy thing. Whereas a week longer in life means a million to a dying man or maybe more. It is so difficult to mean. The level of happiness also fluctuate from day to day or minutes ot minutes. A simpel good word could make a person happy for a life time or a short time. It carrys so much different weight.
It is so funny that we are unaware of these issues and reluctant to think about it. I have a fellow yogi who tatoo the word "awareness' across his arm and he told me , the tatoo is a reminder to him to be aware of the surrounding and to keep his senses alert. He has to be aware of the importance of time, his attitude towards his family and close friends, he as to be aware of the weather or his mind and body. There is a whole lot of things to be aware of which will make us happy and sensible.
Yes, this is a good practice and we should constantly remind ourself in one way and another.
Namaste.
I was talking to my daughter M some time ago. I asked her whether she is interested in high pay jobs which will bring her more stress and have to constantly upgrading herself. She told me "No". I asked her why ? She told me that life is not all about money, frame or self ego, life is to live freely and be happy.
I think that statement is really true. All these years of working and looking back, do I live the way it should be lived ? or am I just following the path of all those before me, working hard to get more material wealth. Is more money and more famous means that I am more happy. Yes, we feel good but is that all it matters? Is it real happiness.
Looking further, I could see people having more moeny and keep worrying about their money but at the same time, people who are struggling with not enough money. Is there a measurement of what is enough for us to spend more time to be happy ? Many people nowaday talked about balance life. There are no absolute answers and each balance depends on each person's management and tolerance.
The same thing is with happiness, there is not standard measurement of happiness. Everyone of us have different factors to make us happey. Some very simple and small things while others, of course is money or being famous. Everyone is happy at his or her own way and at different degrees.
Striking a lottery of RM1 million for a billionaire is nothing but a million to an ordinary person, it is a very big and happy thing. Whereas a week longer in life means a million to a dying man or maybe more. It is so difficult to mean. The level of happiness also fluctuate from day to day or minutes ot minutes. A simpel good word could make a person happy for a life time or a short time. It carrys so much different weight.
It is so funny that we are unaware of these issues and reluctant to think about it. I have a fellow yogi who tatoo the word "awareness' across his arm and he told me , the tatoo is a reminder to him to be aware of the surrounding and to keep his senses alert. He has to be aware of the importance of time, his attitude towards his family and close friends, he as to be aware of the weather or his mind and body. There is a whole lot of things to be aware of which will make us happy and sensible.
Yes, this is a good practice and we should constantly remind ourself in one way and another.
Namaste.
Monday, September 1, 2014
The book of life
The book of life
Every one of us have a book of life of our own. Each story is unique and different . During my daughter M's graduation day, she wrote about her good friends and when will they meet again I her face book. When I read it , I felt that she is lost as she grab very tight to her past which was familiar and happy.
In my reply to her face book message , I told her to let go. Each of her friends are like characters in her book of life.
Some of them occupy a full chapter and others in paragraphs or in sentence . Some will appear in several chapters in and out of her life. This is actually erg real. We cNnot hold on a period I our life forever. It is impossible and our life will evolve and grow.
Nothing is static is our life. Things , events and thoughts will continue be changing . It can be scary but exciting and challenging. That is the beauty of life.
As we closed each chapters , our life move on . The past become memories as we enjoy the freshness of each moment. Who would one to live the same moment twice . Even if it is possible , the feelings and taste would never be the same.
So , let go of the past and cherish every new moments.
Face it with confidence and awareness.
Namaste.
Every one of us have a book of life of our own. Each story is unique and different . During my daughter M's graduation day, she wrote about her good friends and when will they meet again I her face book. When I read it , I felt that she is lost as she grab very tight to her past which was familiar and happy.
In my reply to her face book message , I told her to let go. Each of her friends are like characters in her book of life.
Some of them occupy a full chapter and others in paragraphs or in sentence . Some will appear in several chapters in and out of her life. This is actually erg real. We cNnot hold on a period I our life forever. It is impossible and our life will evolve and grow.
Nothing is static is our life. Things , events and thoughts will continue be changing . It can be scary but exciting and challenging. That is the beauty of life.
As we closed each chapters , our life move on . The past become memories as we enjoy the freshness of each moment. Who would one to live the same moment twice . Even if it is possible , the feelings and taste would never be the same.
So , let go of the past and cherish every new moments.
Face it with confidence and awareness.
Namaste.
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