Deep hatred - why

Have you heard that there are some type of people who cannot forgive and forget? These are not the forgiving type who bite on to things very deeply and even if they let go  the bite, they leave behind a deep wound or a bleeding scar. Apart from their non forgiving nature, they can be very emotional, irrational and suicidal.

In life, there are those readily  forgiving type, some people are generally forgiving type and those suicidal type which I have mentioned earlier on. Those extreme suicidal type could be due to their upbringing and hereditary. These are in their genes so they say. These type of people could hold on  to their principles and dis-regard to their personal safety and their family to take revenge or take a big bite as a revengeful step.  How do we take the necessary steps to melt them down and re-mold them ?

There is a saying “ Dynasty can change hands easily but character can never move an inch”. So, it is good or bad.  Once, you have a good person, you stay good but once, you are a bad person, you remain bad. However, with modern scientific studies, there are steps to influence changes in a person’s character. Those “bad” people who  choose to live among the “good” people, there are positive influence on these type of people and if they are taught all the good habits and  behaviors, they can live in the “good” way.

In Buddhism, we talk about mental habits which have been formed through our past experience, our knowledge and our external environments. If we go deep inside our self and learn to know who we are or what we are, we can to a such extent , can control our actions and break the hold of our mental habits on us and live as a person we want or really are.

We should not hold on to these classes of  “ forgiving “ types as each group can change over time and it  depends on the conditions we stimulate for its appropriate response. There are certain flexibility, re-conditioning and recipes to stimulate a response that we want. If there is a will, there is a way and some times, it takes a dramatic event to change a person. It has happen and it will happen again.

Namaste.