Doing nothing is doing something.

It makes no sense in the normal thinking. When we do nothing, we are idle and we take no action to doing something, so how can we say that we did something by doing nothing.  On the surface, it seems confusing, if you think deeper, it makes alot of sense.

When we do something, it means that we are involved in an external activity with something or someone and if we do nothing, we are with our self. Who is more important ? Our self or other people? I don't mean that if we have attained selfless status or not , just a simple question who is more important. Of course, it is our self right? How can we take care of other people if we cannot take care of our self first? So, we should treasure the time that we have with our self. We should do deep in within to know our weakness and our strength to make us a better person.

The other day, when my sister  came back to Penang with her husband to spend a few days with my sister, she was very happy. One night, she had a quarrel and scolded her son very severely when he asked permission not to attend his tuition in KL because he had injured his leg but Sister was furious and accused him of lying. She shouted at him and refused to believe his son. After that, she was upset and hurt. All of us advise her to calm down and I told her in private to take care of her self first. If she hurt her self over her quarrel with her son, it will not be worth it.  Anger is like a picking up a hot burning charcoal and throw at the person you love. It burns your hand and hurt the person you love.

I relate this incident is because she had a choice. Either she gets angry or do nothing. If she gets angry she hurt herself and her relationship with her son or choose to keep quiet and preserve her health and trust her son. By doing nothing, she do not hurt her self or her son. If we are angry, we should do nothing because everything we do or say is wrong. You have lost your awareness and logic and the mental habits have taken over, you are just a victim.  This is one aspect of my message.

We feel guilty if we just sit and do nothing, our fixating mind would not allow us to do that, we have to do something . Sitting alone does not look so good and is not right. This is not true. If we are alone, we are actually doing alot of thngs. We are resting our mind and our body and give them time to recuperate and heal. We can mediate and calm our mind and we can seek eternal happiness and we can be with our self in quiet moments.
By not taking any decision is a decision itself.  This is another dilemma. If you are sleepy and if you let yourself to decide whether to sleep or not, is a decision itself because you let your body to decide when to sleep. If you decide to leave your money with your bank and let the bank decide the amount of interest you make is also your decision. Don't blame it on your bank, you have make a decision not to decide,

In our daily life, there are many such incidences and sometimes, if there is no solution, we will leave it to luck or time to resolve it. Don't be mistaken, this is also our decision. We blame, justify or give excuses and become a victim, this is also the consequences of our decision.  Every step we move or everything we do, we will have to decide. So, doing nothing is doing something.

My advise is to face the problem squarely and whether to decide or doing nothing , we must be aware that this is our decision. The consequence of this decision will fall on us. Being alone is not that you are alone, you are with your self and we do not need to be seen to be with other people all the time. Spend more time on our self and reflect our self. You should know yourself best and you should take care of your self first before you become selfless if that is the way you want.

Namaste.