Sex - a fatherly advise

When we mention the word "sex", almost everybody sit up and listen.  It is a magic word for many and this add spices to their life. In Buddhism, it is only a moment of pleasure and a life time of regrets if  it is not done within the confinement of the law. Pre-marital sex is forbidden in Christianity , Islam and many other religions.
However, it is good to have sex education to the young ones and for those maturing adults.

A person's value is a like a good painting and sometimes, a moment of desire will add a spot on the painting. Just imagine what would the effect on the value of the painting with a tiny spot. Of course, its value will drop sharply. So, it is better to control yourself and be selective of the partners.

In the liberated world, there are diseases which is carried by this lustful acts. For example, venereal disease, Hepatitis, HIV, herpes, etc.  Some of these disease have a life time impact on the health of the individuals. So, if you cannot control yourself , please take safety measures to protect yourself and be very selective with your partners. Don't ever take the risk of exposure for some additional pleasure.

To avoid unwanted pregnancy, please take the appropriate birth control pills to avoid such unfortunate incidences. You have to be responsible for your action and it is bad karma to kill unwanted babies. If you want to enjoy the pleasure, you should also be responsible to yourself and your off-springs. If you want to do it, you have to be responsible. There is no such thing of exercising a choice but you deny the responsibility.

For those ignorant and unaware youngsters, the legal age of having consensual sex is above 18 years old. Consensual sex means that both parties in the act have a mutual agreement when they are conscious and aware of their rights and liabilities. Any act committed under the influence of alcohol or drugs or undress and with the use of force, is a violation of an individual's right and this amount to rape.  Rape is a very serious crime and it could result in a life time jail sentence with several strokes of caning.  Any sex with a minor, an individual who is below 18 years old is also punishable with the same offence and jail sentence.

With today's advance technology, there are many instances of youngsters and adults who takes video of this sexual act for their own consumption or for fun but it often been circulated in the Internet or through hand phones. Take the example of the long forgotten Edison Chen's sex exploit with famous film actress in Hong Kong. It rock the world and change the lives of those film stars and I believe this episode have been haunting those actress who  is involved for the rest of their life.  It all started with the fun of video taping their sex acts.  When you are in love, there is often a complete trust on each individual and often it is very disappointing.  My advise to my readers is that you should keep some reservation and avoid be exploited after falling out of love.

This article is special written for a group of youngsters who is studying in college including my daughter, May. As I watch them grow up, the puberty sets in and there is a tendency to hunt or be hunted. What we can do is to advise them and watch them from a distance. The choice is theirs and they have to take responsibility for it. Before that, we can advise them of the consequences and their rights.  Bless them all.

Namaste.