Bless you all

I am tired after visiting my FIL, Johnny in the hospital today.  He was admitted to check whether he is strong enough for an operation to remove his cancerous colon. Yes, I was told colon cancer is the slowest form of the disease because the colon is the longest organ in our body. He was in high spirit despite his weak outlook. I believe he will be able to pull through and survive a few good years.

While I was coming out of the hospital, I could see a lot of patients waiting at the lobby  but mostly old folks. Yeah, age and disease comes together. When we are old, our resistance level will weaken  and there is where all the sickness will come. Take an analogy of a car. When a car is old, the parts will give way and we have to get new parts to replace all worn out parts. This is the process of rejuvenation until the rust will eat into the engine block and make it irreparable. That will be the end of the car.

Among my SIL, they have discuss what is the best way to treat Johnny. The doctors recommended chemo but due to his advance age, another doctor recommended herbal treatment. While there is a split in their decisions , Johnny have preferred herbal treatments. Whatever, the choice is best left to Johnny because he knows his body well and this is his life. Who are we to decide for him if he is still alert enough to make the decision himself ? It is very difficult to say who is right and who is wrong but we must respect his decision because he going to bare all the consequences of his decision.  I have always maintain that whoever make the decision, he or she must bear the responsibility. There is no such thing as " decision without responsibility ". That would be cheap talking.

I remembered  the book " chasing daylight " and  I have written an article in late last year when I started this block. This is about people who has terminal disease chasing for the extra time to live out their dreams or to  make closures. Making closures are very important because this is to clear all the misunderstanding, hatred, or any unfulfilled wishes, vows and dreams. This process will make us at peace with ourselves and our family members, friends and foes so that we can RIP or rest in peace. This process will put a smile on our face when we passed on.

It is a funny observation. When we have the time, we are busy for something else but our personal affairs. When are short of time, we start to chase for the extra moments to arrange our personal affairs. This is the irony of life. I kept telling my wife that it is very important to spend time with Johnny when he is alive and it makes no sense to visit his grave frequently when he is no longer around. Such actions will  only make us feel better. There is no sense in this action.

Yes. While we still have time, we have to be fair to ourselves and give priority to our personal affairs and spend time with our family members and close friends. We should start the process of reconciliation and closure as tomorrow is never guaranteed if we want the smile on our face. Start now and bless you.

Namaste.