Be a good listener

I feel like I have fallen into a web and the web is holding me very tight and I am suffocating while struggling to breath. Like a drowning man, I wanted to hold on to a straw and the straw could be you. When we are in deep thoughts or in midst of a serious problem, we want to find someone to listen to our problems. Not talking but be a good listener could provide an outlet for your loved ones and friends.Listening is a very good way of communication and the speaker will appreciate your time and effort to be there and to listen patiently. Lately, I read of an organization called " befrienders". I have learn of this organization many years ago from a friend who is active in this organization and recently, my boss also said that he is contributing to befrienders. This organization is not a match making organization and the purpose is to listen to callers who are having problems and need someone to listen to their problems. The callers are not looking for a solution offered by the befrienders but just for someone to listen to what they are feeling and what is their problem. This is a good way for the callers to release their pressure and stress in them even at the end there is no solution. My message today is that we can be befrienders anywhere if we spare the time and effort to listen to what other people is talking and acknowledge what they had said. Some times, we need only to be there and listen without offering any advise or comments. Silence is golden or people said " sound of silence" can have the calming effect on the callers or befrienders. Words can often sent the wrong message or advise. Namaste.

A day, a gift

When we woke up in the morning, we should be thankful that we are still breathing and alive. We should not take things for granted as if everyday is there for you. As we step away from our bed and every breath we take, we should express gratitude and appreciation. For this matter, we should take each day as a gift instead of as a right. If you are older and still working after retirement, we should strive to contribute something everyday. We add value to the things we do and also provide assistance to the people around us. This is to show the gratitude that we are alive and is still of value. If we do not provide anymore value, it is better to be dead than alive. Many times, we are immenese in our daily routine and wondering endlessly but we still want to live into ripe old age. Is there any meaning to live on and doing nothing but selfishly taking care of our needs and passing the days passively without purpose and aimlessly. We have to repay the gratitude of living a day longer and to bring laughter , joy and meaning to this world and the people around us. It does not matter if it is little or more, we move and do it. This is to repay the chance of living a day longer. Needless to say, we are easily drawn into the circle of life, churning in rounds and living aimlessly if we are not aware that the day is a gift to you. Namaste.

Fragile relationships -an insight

Fragile relationships There has to be a strong foundation  before any relationships can hold. Relationship that based on mutual benefits and self Internet will not last. It will be like sparrows in the woods, they will split ways if trouble comes. I have my fair share of fragile friendships and I have saw many such incidences in my life. Good friends  can quarrel over a small misunderstanding and became enemy because of a word  being said out of anger.  Some is due to promotions. Self ego, money or some hurtful relationships.  If two person is not happy together, why is there a need to stay together? It is better to depart as friends instead of as enemy. Don't let emotions control you and make the situation go beyond control Nd leading each party saying or doing  the wrong things. When we are angry. We should keep our mouth shut and do nothing. Choose a good movie to let the anger weaken and wear down. When we are hurt and angry, ego and pride takes over and we lost control of ourselves. We should turn our focus inwards and look at our self. You will be very surprise that it is not what you want to say or do. A stranger have taken over you. Long time ago, I have treated a friend  very well . Taught her all I know and guide her in doing business. When she wants to get married , she have her own plans and turned against me and blame me for not supporting her business plan. It was very hurtful and all these incidences have become bad memories. This lesson in life really make me wake up and be aware of the fragility in relationships. Only those relationships which grow out of love and care can only weather the condition of hurt, anger and ego. Don't expect anything in a relationship and there will be no disappointments. Namaste.

Have a nice weekend.

Have a nice weekend Every Friday , we thank god that it is Friday and we can have nice and restful weekends . But, the weekends passed so fast and on Sunday night. We still think that we have not got enough and tomorrow is yet another long weekend. This routine have been in repetition for many years in my life. Through the years , I am feeling time passed faster when l  am getting old. I think it is the same for all aging folks. Maybe there. Is more to think when are are older and most of the time we are caught in our thoughts and memories. Yeah. The end is getting nearer but we should treat age as a number  otherwise we would give ourself a lot of reasons not to live . We should keep your energy and activity level and keep thinking like a young man。a lot of things depends on our mind. Our mind can be trained or guided to motivate our psychical body to re-act and to live with vigor. There is no logical rules that the young should stronger than the old. This is not the standard and it is possible the older is fitter and stronger than the young. I have seen older people perform better in sports and yoga。it is a matter of upkeep and lifestyle. Namaste.

Our beautiful breath .

Our beautiful  breath - My yoga session today Today , my yoga teacher taught us to use our breath to guide the moment of our yoga pose. Each movement is done within each breath. As we focus on our breath , the yoga form come in naturally and easily. The movement will be graceful and smooth. I told my teacher that this way of using the breath to guide the form is like Tai Chi and each stroke is guide with the slowness and the deepness of each breath. She agreed with me that both practice have many similarity in common. I also told my teacher that walking meditation is also the same and the speed of each step depends on the breath and in this practice , the moment is broken up into more parts. I related to her that I have witnessed and amazing female westerner who walked 10 feet in 30 minutes. This is no simple feat as it  shows how deep in the control of the mind and body. This balance and harmony of these two elements is excellent and perfect before this feat can be done.  Anyway. We have to be thankful for each beautiful breath which keeps alive and well. Namaste.

Am I stuck in a different realm?

As if I am in a different realm. Feel tired and speechless lately. I could not get out this desperate mood and still wondering within. It is suffocating and pressurized why am I feeling so strange and unable to break through. So  idly bored. Wanted to do something different , just to breakout. Have been like this a long time. Bored deep inside and have to keep a brave front and keep smiling from the outside. Just like still water which runs deep. Underneath the surface, it is churning and boiling. So restless and desperate , yet don't know what to do. Could this be the second Mano pause? I am changing and searching for myself again and wondering what actually I want in life， Is life like this ? Everyday. A set routine. Running I circles in many ways but is running in circles. The day pass into weeks and then in months and in years. Wake up every morning struggling to find my footing to stay the day. I was thankful each day and the wonderful breath I am breathing. What else do I want? In no time, we will have to ride into the twilight and never return. And that is the end of it. I am just human. Namaste.

Doing nothing?

Is doing nothing , doing some thing? This wisdom is a bit deep. The Chinese called " deep water" and in Hokkien " cium  chooi". Literally. It means difficult to comprehend . Doing.nothing is plain simple means " doing nothing" what else to say about it. Period. But, in deeper philosophical meaning, we should not be doing anything and this is the normal condition of the body.  Doing some thing is out of the normal and is an effort to do some thing. So, resting is normal and it is during this resting time, the body will have time to recover itself. Slowing down will also give us time to look into our within and make us more aware of ourself. Rushing through life is meaningless and wasteful.  Today, it was.a rest day for me and I spend most of my time resting on my couch and my wide compliant that I am lazy and  doing nothing.  Yes, I was resting and just watching TV. I told her today is a rest day , so I rest. It is not something difficult to understand. There is nothing urgent to do, so why try to find something to do. I am only doing what I should be doing , that is the norm. Come tomorrow , there will be a whole lot of task to do and there will be no time to rest.  That is life. Namaste.