Happiness

Happiness lies within us and we can decide on it whether to be happy or not.  But , every often we make other people happy to make our self happy.   Why ?  We don't need other people to make us happy and it is silly to think so.. Other's happiness is not our concern and we need to be happy our self.

However, gaining another person's approval or acceptance is one way to make us happy because we get the praise from that person.  Their agenda is different from us as when we meet their agenda , they are happy and this makes us happy. Especially, his happiness makes them reward us or give us recognition.

But , it is still the donkey story . The donkey fell in the dry well and its enemy tried to pour sand on to it to burn it but the donkey just shake it of and grow higher and higher.   The donkey did not care a damn about the famers.  

Likewise, we can go wiser and wiser and not bother by other people's happiness or agenda.  Why other people are happy , it is because if we perform better , then they also perform better . If we cause them to lose face or endanger their position or detrimental to their life or career or status , they will be angry and make your life miserable.  If he or she is boss, then they will create misery for you.  But, you can still ignored them and be happy.  The happiness is within you , and only you.

Why are we so stupid to cater for other people's happiness.  The priority is all wrong and our happiness should be the first priority.... Tell them to shaft their jobs into their mouth and be brave about it and hold your ground.   Tell them that their authority goes with their job title and if it is taken away, they have nothing. All the authority and benefits follow the title .

The title is impermanence and life is unpredictable..  ask them to humble and wait for things to happen instead of demanding things to happen which is not natural.

Namaste.