To live or to die ?

My friend called up and told me that her mother is very sick and the Doctor told them to decide whether to let her go or to prolong her life? This decision really woke her up and she was so confused and frighten. She suddenly become fearful as she is not about to lost her mother, Such thoughts have never gone through her mind. Death is a taboo subject and nobody wants to think about it . Death is something bad,  But real.

I try to console her as she was about to cry her heart out. I asked her a few questions like is her mother still in contact with her by touch . She say yes and I told her if that is case, she should continue her treatment and keep her alive or for a miracle. I told her the case of my sister in law where her family try their best and keep their hope to the end and have no regrets about it after that. But, if her mother have lost her will to live or lost the touch with them, then it is time to let go. To keep them in a painful stage is very selfish. Most people cannot accept the fact of death or of losing someone and for their selfish needs, they tend to hope on someone close to them. They are so used to see their parents alive or caring for them, they cannot bear to lost it.

I have tol my friend that they must not forget their father who will be the most stressed person to see her life companion slipping away,  Her father is actually the one which needs more time and care from her children as his wife is taken care by the doctor and also the medication provided to her. Her father is the most fearful of all and he needs to comfort and the care from his children. Most people in crisis , only focus on the sickly but not the one living. This is the lack of awareness which sometimes caused a lot of regrets.

My friend told me that she wants to hide away and bury her head in the sand and the fear away. I told her it is all wrong. Fear is really a very scary thing as it causes  a lot of doubts in us especially on our sanity and capability. Fear adds fear and make us delusional. If by hiding , we can drive away the fear , then by all means just bury our head in the sand, But unfortunately, it does not change a thing and we ended up more regretful. The situation does not change a thing and it ends up blowing ourself away. So, what is the point of hiding or why be so coward ?  Everything is real and we have to face it and realized that if we cannot change it , then why worry ?

I read an article and it tells me the simple that if we focus on something, our energy goes with it  If we keep our mind calm and aware, the energy stays with us and keep us strong to face whatever that comes. It is easy to say but this is the only way we can move forward.  Do not be fearful and confused,  realized the facts of life and face it squarely. All of us are cowards if we want to be a coward but there is also a hero in all of us , It is a choice within us and the decision is ours. To be a hero or a coward , it is all up to us.

I have read a quote by Robin Sharma which says that we can live in a route or do nothing but we should go deep to do something to make a difference, But the end is all the same, we all have to go on and the show must go on.

There is a time for everything , a time to live and a time to die.. It is real and it is not going to change for anyone. so, be aware and live well,

Namaste