Why do people want to hurt us ?

My staff was hopping mad that one of her colleague was trying to avoid talking to her and getting other people to convey the message.  I told her, this could be a trap or a plain childish or innocent act.

When people avoid talking to us or gets their message conveyed through another channel , this reflects the childishness in the person.   They have no confidence to talk properly or they are scared of getting into a querrel. Their lack of maturity often have adverse effect  and make the situation worse.  They thinking is that to talk less, it will make the situation better.  There are people who cannot manage their relationship well  and they acted in a childish way.

However, there are people who intentionally want to be hurtful  and irritate others through this means.  These people have madness in them  and they are provocative in their act.  This madness is normal and it could be a serious disease and needs to get help.

Whatever is the situation, it will depends on the receiver of these abusive acts.  If these people want us to be angry and hurting by these acts and if we fall into their trap, they will be successful and they will control us. But, if we handle the situation well and re-acted in  different manner and not to be angry,  they have failed in their mission. Who have the last laugh depends on how we choose to act. It all depends on us.

If we are victims of our emotions, then we will be angry and hurtful  but if we are the master, then the emotions will fade away and we are in control.  But , to be aware of this master-slave relationship, we have to control our mind and maintain a strong discipline to train the mind how to re-act.

It is not an easy thing but if we leave our mind on its own and let our emotions rule the day, we will be miserable and under the control of others.  If we can understand this logic, we should face our mind strongly and firmly  and re-direct our focus on something more meaningful and happy.  For a short moment, these feelings will be gone.

Trust me, we have the power to alter the stage of our mind and let our mind tame the emotions.  Just be aware and don't have any fear.

Namaste.