Forgive or not to forgive ? A challenge.

There is a Chinese saying “ If you doubt a person, don’t use or employ him or her and if employ him or her, then you should not be doubtful”. This is indeed a very wise saying and it is very true.  

If we doubt a fellow and we still employ him, then we will be looking over our shoulders every minute or second , then how can we focus on the things we do ?  The chance of a betrayal or a stab in the back  is very high and why are we subjecting our self to this risk ?  We are wasting our energy and precious time in such cautious exercise.

However , sometimes, we want to give the “ doubtful” fellow a second chance and to see whether we can win him or her over and regain our trust in them.  This merciful attitude often make us more confused and subject our self to the test of giving forgiveness.  We always think that “ to err is human and to forgive is divine “.

To mend a broken trust  is often a very difficult task and it will take a long time to heal the wound  or regain the trust of someone. We hope that these people who have hurt us will realized their wrongs and repent.  If these people realize what they do is wrong then it is okay and they will repent and return your kind gesture of forgiveness but sometimes, they do not seek the wrong in their act.  They have the impression that they can differ to agree and still maintained that they do no wrongs.  Well, this is the scary part because we maybe keeping an enemy close to us or sometimes, we are sleeping with an enemy.

The next part is if we employ a person then we should not be doubtful.  It is rather foolish to employ a doubtful person isn’t it ? The choice of keeping the doubtful person lies with you and it is better to have a clean cut  in the relationship.  You can always fire the person on the slightest  doubts in their integrity or their trust. Why you need to keep employing that fellow?  Human beings are confused and always subject themselves to unnecessary and unwarranted  pressure and take the risk of being betrayed.

Human beings are emotional and by nature forgiving and many such person have died a painful death . Live and lets live , sometimes can be live to get killed.

Namaste.