To love or be loved ?

Is the glass half full or half empty ?  How are you going to interpret it ?  It has a total different perspective of looking at this sight.  To say it is half full, it will be a positive thought and to say it is half empty is looking at the negative aspect.  Are you a positive or negative person ?  It depends on your interpretation .

Last night , I saw a video and the speaker was asking about our choice of relationship. It was quite an interesting experience. She asked how many of the audience will choose a partner that loves them and most of the people raise their hands . In another question , she asked how many will choose a mate that we love ? Only a few people raise their hands.  She said this is the normal choice that people will choose mates that love them more. 

She goes on to tell the audience from her personal experience.  When she was in the University , she has four boy friends and all of them loved her so much that she felt so happy and delighted. Finally, she choose one of them who loved her the most and she got married.  On the eve of the wedding, the bridegroom ran off and left a note.  She was devastated and she cried for many days and night for as long as she can remembered.  She look through the note with aw .  The bridegroom asked a few questions which she cannot answer ie do you know what I like to eat ? what are the books I like to read or the movies , I like to watch, etc and he change so much to make her happy and finally, he felt that enough is enough and he ran off .

The speaker says finally he found a true love.  A mate that she loved so much and she changed so much because of him.   She becomes a better person and learn the art to give instead of to take only.  She felt so much a person that cares and love instead of been loved.  She goes out of her mold and her box to become a bigger and more accepting person.  She realized the change and she likes it.

From this story, it often takes a dramatic happening to change a person and it is a norm that all of us are takers instead of givers.  We like people to give to us effortlessly and instead of working our guts out to serve another person.  This is the human nature but if we choose to give, it will open up our heart and nature to be a more balanced person.

Namaste