In a traffic jam

In a trafic jam

What do you do when you are caught in jam and no way to move or escape ? Relax lah. Don't focus on the jam and do whatever you want to take care of yourself.

When you are alone , you are actually with yourself and the person with you is the most important person in your life. 

When you are moving around and with other people , the person you is keeping quiet and is very supportive of you. When you slow or caught in a jam, you should spend quality with him.

Care for him and talk to him and be a good listener to him.

A lot of people is disturbed by the jam and busy scolding the outside people and stressed out themselves with anger and bitterness. Why are you stressing yourself when you have lost the control ? Silly ideas. It is only hurting your own self.

Calm your mind and be aware of the situation you are in and learn to understand that there is nothing you can do but just to wait. Often it is the thought which makes us confused and angry either is with ourself or outsiders.  Angry against ourself for coming into a jam or at others for making the jam. The thought itself makes us frustrated and upset. Yet we cannot do anything about the jam. But we can do something for ourself. We can take care of our body and mind. We are having quality time with ourself and we can travel onwards to know ourself better and be a better friend with our inner self. Learn how to dance in the rain.

Just remember be alone is never a lone as we are with ourself which is the most important person around.

Namaste.

Gua Sa ( Ext )

Last sunday, after a 5 hours traveling from KL to Penang , I had a Gua Sa treatment and it was so refreshing , light and enjoyable. It is highly recommendable after a tiring day or when you are suffering from a flu or heat stroke.  Enjoy it, fellas.

Scraping Therapy

A revolutionary healing art that really works for you! Scaring Therapy, known as Gua Sha in China for over a thousand year, is a healing art based on Traditional Chinese Medicine and used throughout Asia. How does Scraping Therapy work? The Scraping Therapy is used to release the body of blood stagnation. Blood stagnation is considered to be the cause of many diseases in TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine). To visualize this, you may want to compare the water from a running stream versus the water in a still stagnant pond. The stagnant pond will be full of gunk, green moss and other growths while the running stream will have clear water. Our entire blood circulation is very similar to this. When the blood is not flowing properly, it starts to become stagnant and creates an environment more suitable for disease. This is why Scraping is such a useful technique. It can quickly release blockages in your body caused by stagnant blood. This is because it mimics sweating and promotes body fluid circulation which helps to normalize cellular metabolic processes and release toxic waste from your deep cellular tissues. It also increases blood and qi circulation to help oxidize your cells as well as nourish them. The Benefits Scraping has two main functions where it both nourishes and detoxifies: 1st, the stroke action used to release petechiae to the surface of the skin, forces more blood and oxygen to the area treated which helps to nourish those cells. 2nd, the red spots on the skin become a byproduct that signals the body to do a sweep up of the area so that it eliminates both the dead blood cells as well as other toxins that surfaced towards the skin during the Scraping process. After a treatment, the patient often has immediate relief from pain, headaches, fever, chills, cough, chest pains, nausea, stiffness, etc. After a series of treatments Scraping is able to release enough toxins to allow the body to find inner balance. Besides curing diseases, scrape therapy may build one's body, prevent diseases and help lose weight. Under the stimulation of scrape therapy, more blood serum will be produced to improve the body's immunity. Process Before the process, daub the skin with oil. Then scrape the skin with a scraper (special scraping equipments). Always scrape the skin in the same direction and continue until the skin is red and purple marks appear( indicating the locations of sick muscles ). The intensity, the speed, duration, depth of the action, and the location of scrape, all have direct impact over the curative effects. No damaged for the skin and the tissues with the scraper. You will only feel a very little bit pain of blockage tissues while scraping ---- no pain among the healthy tissues. Although there are some red spots on the skin after the treatment, As a matter of fact, the red spots mean some toxins or wastes coming out from the sick tissues. it’s quit different from the bruise or hemorrhage and the red spots will fully disappear within 3 to 7 days due to the promoted metabolism. What does the color of the Red Spot(sha) indicate? Very Light Colored Sha -------- Blood Deficiency Fresh Red Sha ---------------------- Recent Penetration Purple or Black Sha------------ Long Term Blood Stasis Brown Sha --------------------------- Blood may be dry Dark Red Sha ----------------May indicate heat in blood After Scraping Therapy, you should keep warm (avoiding wind,or sudden change in temperature, cold shower as well as cold drink ) to ensure your body’s boosted metabolism and self-healing process working well. Stretching is recommended but not a heavy workout on the day of treatment. In some cases, some people may have the go-better reactions ( like feeling sore, tired or even sick ) for a few days. Then afterwards, as the red spots fading, you can feel the improvement throughout body, especially the problems treated. How long does it take the petechiae to fade? The Red (sha) usually fades within 3 to 10 days. If it takes longer to fade, this often indicates poor blood circulation and the practitioner should provide you with further advice on how to improve your overall circulation. With continuous Scraping therapy, the red spot will start to fade faster which will be a good sign since it’s an indication of better blood circulation. Who needs the Scraping Treatment People who has pain, aches, tenderness, or tension in the muscles. scraping therapy can prevent the common cold, flu, bronchitis, asthma, as well as any other chronic disorders that involve the congestion of blood and qi. In the area of pain-relief, scraping therapy is unequalled. Hence, we offer this treatment to all those who suffer pain from each parts of the body (head, neck, shoulders, back, legs, and joints ), and RSI (Repetitive Stress Injury) , sciatica and other nerve pain, migraine, rheumatism and many other disorders or dysfunctions. How often should Scraping Therapy be performed? Be performed once or twice a week, continue 3- 4 weeks for a treatment that will have better results. For health care be recommended once a month. Note: Make sure after a treatment you allow your body to rest in order to get the full detox benefits. This means no drugs, alcohol, sex, fasting, binging, hard labor, strenuous exercises, etc. for the rest of the day. Also, make sure you drink lots of warm water after the treatment as well as the next couple of days to keep your body well hydrated so that it can properly eliminate toxins released during the treatment. Scraping Therapy can assist with the following: Cough and Dyspnea: Bronchitis, Asthma, Emphysema Digestive Disorders Food Poisoning Fevers Fatigue caused by heat-stroke Gynecological Disorders Headaches Muscle and Tendon Injuries Sluggish Blood Circulation Stiffness, Pain, Immobility Sun-strokes Urinary Problems Excessive sweating Excess Flem Jaundice Chest Pains However, you should be ready for the pain from the treatment because it will get down to the right points ----- the roots or triggers of the targeting problems. As we all know, “ Pain is the warnings about the problems “. To overcome the obstacles of a cure, you have to learn to work with it. No Pain No Gain ? ----- yes, NO PAIN NO GAIN !

Messy blue monday

After a whole day and night's raining in Penang, the day opens up with a messy and deeper blue monday.  One staff applied for leave while another time off and my wife was having flu and fever.  There was  a bit of rain in the morning and it turns into a bright day, when I touched the mid span of the Penang bridge.

The traveling to Kl on the weekend ot see my sister in law was a tiring journey and after seeing her, I was depressed even more. Her conditions have deteriorated and her case is getting worse.

On the evening, I had a dinner with a US relative. She was recently divorced and after that she went on a diet and shake off 23 pounds and she was addicted to marathon and she looks happy and fit.  What a contrast between these two relatives. One dying and another enjoying a second spring in life.

Nevertheless, it was raining heavily last night and was like pouring and makes my trip to May's cafe and back very messy and tiring.

The thought of my dying sister in law have been on my mind and I have to calm my mind and not to be caught in this depressing time. It was amazing that I could drive 5 hours on saturday and drove back to Penang for another 5 hours on Sunday.  It was not so taxing as before when I could be totally drain off my energy and could be sleeping like a log.  I could regain my energy after two hours rest during my body massage on Sunday. It was amazing and maybe it could be the nuskin supplements that I have been taking these few months.

Well, I have to settle down fast in my job and bring back my normal working life to live on.  The show must go on.

Namaste.

The irony of life

The irony of life

When I read Steve Jobs last words about having wealth but stricken with cancer and yet money cannot get a solution for him to replace his sufferings and pain, I have actually seen a lot of such irony happening to people close to me.

Yes, my sister in law is in the same situation as what is happening to Steve. Her husband spend a lot of money to try to cure her but her conditions deteriorated by the day.  The Cancer have been eating away her health and she gets thinner everyday.

Her recent operation to remove the cancerous growth failed and I think she has withdrawn into a denial mode. She seems to be upset with all thing happening to her and refuse to speak or response. Yes, I think it is time for her family members to tell her to let go and must not give her too much hope.

Letting go is very difficult as the attachment of the family have been too long and the family bond is still strong. The happening is too sudden and my sister in law is too young to die. But. It has to be done . She has to pass on peacefully and closed all the chapters with the family and friends. Let her soul rest in peace. Everyone have to come to terms with life.

I have advise my niece to read up the book called " Chasing daylight ". It is about a top executive in a big 4 accounting firm coming in term with cancer at an early stage and prepare himself to face death and passes on. It was done in a very logical and professional way.

We hope the best for my sister in law but she needs to know the reality of life . Someone have to do the job and it is better to be fast.

Namaste.

Greed, the reason for restlessness

Is my mind contented with what I have ? Contentment bring happiness and a calm mind. Can we fulfill all our cravings so that we can be contented ? No, our cravings are always revolving and disturbin gour mind.

When we have a little, we want more and after getting a sligthly more, we want more and finally , we want it all. This is the human character. How do we contain our unfulfilled cravings or greed ? When we have a land, we want to build a house, when we have a house, we want a bungalow and when we have a bungalow , we want a palace. Bigger and bigger.  High and the highest,  wide and the widest and more until all. Yes, look at ourselve in the mirror and we can see our cravings if you notice or focus. 

When we get old, we touch up with powers , comestics and whatever we can find to make us younger and more attractive.  This is also part of cravings. So, greek is not about money or quantity only but there are many aspects of greed and some are more stutle.

How do we contained our cravings ? Yes, we control the mind and the heart. Sometimes , we blame our for the greed and we use the phase " greek of the heart ". But the heart is not a thinking and and there is no activities except to move the heart or pump the heart. Often we make our heart to feel and if we have more, we feel good. The stirring force is the mind.  The thinking machine which influenced the deal and teh attachment.

So if we want to make ourself contented, we work on our mind and calm it down or cut it down in zize. The smaller the image, the weaker the greed or discontentment. Cut down the wild thoughts going through our head and make it smaller so that more can be accept.

The mind linked to the heart and the body. Control the mind and you will control the body and heart. You cannot control the heart and body for the mind. It is only one way.from the mind down.

Namaste.

Wild imaginations

Wild imaginations 

Our imaginations depends on our mind whether it is tame or running wild or whether it is in an active or passive stage. Out mind keep evolving and thoughts will go through our heads in seconds. 

Some studies showed that there is about 50,000 thoughts going through our mind. In and out . Just imagine you switch on and off on your electric switch , it will blow your switch or the light bulbs linking to the switch. For your mind , it will get tired and it also drain the energy from the body. You will look tired , exhausted and drained . What kind of life ? Boring, passive and destructive.

So, we know our problem and we have to fix it . It is a simple solution, just reduce the number of thoughts going through our mind . By so doing , we will regain the freshness and our energy and our life.  It is as simple as that .

We have to train our mind every available moments and focus on the present and take away the thoughts in our mind. How to focus on the moment . Tell your mind the past is gone and the future is yet to come and what we have is the present moment.

If we focus, our thoughts will be less and less. It is not easy but teach our mind to also focus on our breath if we have nothing to focus on. This will train our mind to be obedient .

It is nothing difficult and we have to pace ourself at the beginning and it will get better and better.

If you are in a place at home or at work , find a quiet corner to do the exercise . Once a while , do it in an open field and we can enjoy the good chi or energy from nature.

Go and try it. 

Namaste.

Face of death

Face of death

I have seen the face of death a few times before. The pain , the frailness and the hope all mixed in the face. It is an image of confusion. It really awakes my awareness of death.

We cannot avoid death. The rich, the famous and the powerful have gone in the same way without exceptions. Nobody can buy time . Not the saintly, the evil and the commoner. Each one have to go at a specific time. A designated departure.

I was looking at my dying SIL with cancer. The look has deteriorated so much after a few weeks as the Cancer eat away the health of the body. Two weeks ago she could open her eyes and talk but yesterday , she could not open her eyes and talking took so much effort from her. She is a total wreck and is only the skin covering the bones on certain part of the bodies. The disease have been aggressive . So many  similar memories surged across my mind . It strikes the core of fear in me as the patient struggle to herself alive.

Tomorrow, she is going for an operation to remove part of the Cancer cell which could give her some hope to fight back despite all the risk . It is a bold step and instead of hoping , it is better to take a chance. Sometimes, ago I told the story of two mouse. Each one of them ran into a hole chased by a cat. One waited and took the chance to run out and survive as the cat dozed off while another mouse stayed behind and die of hunger. So, doing the same thing and expecting a different result is madness  as I said before in my previous article.

We will be praying for her and whatever result, it is destiny.

Namaste

Feeling grateful

To be alive , each day is a blessing and we should feel grateful.  Grateful for the additional one day of life.  Most of the time, we take it for granted and do not treasure the day as we have the years.

I always remind myself , life is uncertain as a slight twist of an event could change our life forever. We don't have to wait for that moment to happen and we can live as if today is our last day on earth.  Isn't this thinking correct ? Why are we waiting for another day to live the life we choose.  Madness isn't it ?

There is another saying " when fear ends, that is when life begins". Again , this is very true. We are restrict by fear . The fear of dying, the fear of our boss, the fear of not having enough for retirement and the list goes on and on forever. It is so funny that we stop doing risky things and stop spending our money even if we have enough . The fear is imaginery.

Like steve jobs say " when we have gather enough wealth to live our life , we should turn to the things that we want to do or to live out our passions " But, how to define " enough " .  Living a simple life  or an expensive life demands different amount.  So , I don't quite agreed that we should do the things we like or live out our passions after we accummulate enough wealth. As I say " when is it enough/" . I would like to think that enough wealth is not the criteria but rather living happily all the time and doing the things we like is most important irrespective of money.  We must find the time to do it.

Time waits for no one as the days rushes by. Why wait until we cannot walk before we go traveling ? Why wait for us to have enough money to eat the foods we like ?  We have to do whatever we want as soon as possible if not today for tomorrow will never come,.

I have seen people who is reluntant to eat when they are young as they want to accummulate their wealth and when they have accummulated enough , they cannot eat because they have gone old. Does this equation hold waters ?  Supid and silly and bad judgement.  But , this the normal thinking of billions before me and after me.  This is the establishment.

Namaste.

Body massage

There are so many forms of massage  ie Thai, Indian, Bali , Chinese ,  Japanese, etc.  Is massage good for our body ? Does it has any health impact or just a leisure.  Recently, I have been indulging in the back massage and I feel good after a good rub or massage .  Some massage have this aromatic smell which makes your body and mind relax as the massaging process is on going.

For those doing the desk job or under stress, a good massage will enhance the blood circulation.  Just imagine sitting on your butt for 8 to 10 hours with minimum movement, the butt is not only sore but is compressed against the seat and with a good massage , it will get the nerves and the blood circulation moving.

Under stress, the stress goes into the joints and body parts and it gets stored in the muscles or the nerves and this gives aches and pain if this stress persist for a long period of time. The rub and stretching will release the stress and we feel better. This is what I feel when the massage is over.

For those people who go for foot massage, it is to excite the respective large organs in our body as it is believed that the nerve ends to these vital organs ends in the base of our foot.  In order, to motivate or activate them, the pressure to these nerve endings will send massage to this vital organs and massaging them is like massaging the vital organs. By exciting or massaging these organs, it will make it healthy and well.

A more relax body will bring a more relax and healthy mind and this is a strong connection between the two. A healthy mind brings a healthy body and a healthy body supports a healthy mind. If you have a tense up and hard body, it will only bring pain and discomfort which will affect the peace of the mind.

Namaste.

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8 full-body benefits for getting your regular massages- besides feeling great

YOU LOOK FORWARD TO YOUR REGULAR MASSAGE. Maybe it relaxes you. Maybe it energizes you. Maybe it helps relieve the tension in your back. Whatever it is, you know you like it. But massage has more benefits than you probably realize.
"Regular massage keeps the body working at optimal levels," says C.G. Funk, VP of industry relations and product development for Massage Envy. "It keeps people well-physically and emotionally."

Here are eight interesting benefits of massagefor your body.
1. Fighting Fibromyalgia Symptoms Fibromyalgia is a chronic condition characterized by muscle pain, fatigue and tenderness, according to the American College of Rheumatology. Symptoms can be brought on or exacerbated by stress and lack of sleep. Frequent Fibromyalgia massages have been found to help relieve stress as well as alleviate muscle pain, discomfort and spasms in patients suffering from fibromyalgia. In fact, it's one of the most effective complementary treatments, according to the National Fibromyalgia Association, which reports that about 40 percent of sufferers have used it as part of their treatment plan.

2. Easing Surgical Effects Postsurgical rehabilitation is one of the most important aspects of undergoing any procedure. And massage can help get you back on your feet by increasing circulation, relaxing muscles, and improving joint movement and flexibility. It's even been found to promote tissue regeneration and reduce postsurgical adhesions and swelling, according to the Associated Bodywork and Massage Professionals.

3. Improving Mood It's no secret that massage can relax you and make you feel good mentally. But did you know that it may even help treat anxiety and depression? According to a review by the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine, massage is able to lower the body's level of cortisol, a stress hormone, by as much as 53 percent. Massage also appears to increase the feel-good hormones serotonin and dopamine.

4. Headache Relief Approximately 28 million Americans suffer from migraine headaches, according to the National Headache Foundation. Often, migraines are triggered or exacerbated by stress and poor sleep. In a study published in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine, researchers found that participants who received massages had better quality sleep and fewer migraines than participants who didn't. Effects even lasted up to three weeks after therapy ended. Massage therapy can help relieve headaches if you suffer from them.

5. Lowering Blood Pressure About 72 million Americans have high blood pressure, which can lead to stroke and heart attack. A study in the journal Biological Research for Nursing found that people who had at least three 10-minute back massages a week lowered their blood pressure more than people who spent the same amount of time just relaxing.

6. Increasing Flexibility Whether you're an avid athlete who is constantly putting stress on your knees or a middle-aged adult who has lost some range of motion in your hips, staying flexible is key. Massage can help you maintain flexibility and range of motion by working the muscles, connective tissue, tendons and ligaments, and by stimulating the production and retention of the natural lubricants between the connective tissue fibers.

7. Breaking Back Pain While back pain is one of the most common reasons people seek massage, many are not aware of just how helpful a treatment it is. In fact, a study in theAnnals of Internal Medicine found that massage therapy was more effective at relieving back pain than other therapies such as acupuncture and spinal modification. It even appeared to reduce the use of painkillers by 36 percent.

8. Curbing Carpal Tunnel Carpal tunnel is a painful condition in which the median nerve that connects the forearm and hand becomes pinched at the wrist, according to the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke. Symptoms include burning, tingling or numbness in the palm, thumb and middle fingers. It can also lead to difficulty forming a fist or gripping small objects. Treatments usually consist of medication, wrist braces and surgery. But a study in the Journal of Bodywork and Movement reported that carpal tunnel patients receiving regular massage had less pain, reduced symptoms and improved grip strength.

Sleep

Lately, I could find myself wondering how to sleep early.  I will be on my bed at 9.30pm and I could suddenly dozed off but I wake up again after slightly pass 12 midnight.  Then I will struggle to make myself sleep.  The harder I try , the more elusive is my sleep. How can I have a good sleep so that I could wake up early morning and be fresh for work.

I find that if I quiet down my mind and bring my mind to the alpha level, I could sleep again and to quiet down my mind, I turned to mediation.  How do you do in meditation ?

There are many forms of meditation and one of the technique is to concentrate on your breath. If I have an objective to sleep by practicing meditation , then it is not truly meditation. In meditation, there can not be a motive but it is purely meditation in the present and let our mind still and letting our body go and relax.

We have to care for our body and not to assert it or force it to quiet down.  It has to be in a natural stage and let our mind drfit and quiet down by itself. We cannot push, rush it or force it .  It has to drift and find its own level at its own time. It is just the ripple on the water, it needs its own time to quiet down and to be still.

If we continued to hold on to the mind like our hands holding the water, it will never be still unless you put the glass of water on to the table . let go of it and  let it settles down by itself.

In a proper meditation , it should not be a focus to achieve something and it should be free of any motive and agenda. After finding the level, our sleep will automatically come and we can dooze off for the rest of the night easily.

If you quiet down your mind to a certain level, it will induced sleep without any effort.

Namaste.

An eye opener - truth of life (ext)

Steve Jobs’ Last Words -
I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success.
However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.
At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.
In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…
Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…
Should be something that is more important:
Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days
Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.
God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth.
The wealth I have won in my life I cannot bring with me. What I can bring is only the memories precipitated by love.
That’s the true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on.
Love can travel a thousand miles. Life has no limit. Go where you want to go. Reach the height you want to reach. It is all in your heart and in your hands.
What is the most expensive bed in the world? Sick bed…
You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.
Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life.
When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – Book of Healthy Life.
Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.
Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends.
Treat yourself well. Cherish others.

Zombies

Yeah. Dead man walking . Living in a illusionary world, a fake world and a mad happening. Living like a zombie.

With all the rush , fast eating , running around, living with a fake smile and struggling with a dreadful living way while precious time keep passing by. We are not aware of the passing of time while running around in circles until we drop dead.

If this is not a zombie life , then what is it ? Looking blur and  wondering thoughts and passing time.  What a combination and why are we not responding .

Dog eat dog , longing for corruptions  and greed , crave , wonder and absolute mis- use of power . Fake smiling and greeting , living in a unbelievable world , illusionary , ever changing and purposeless life.

With all these symptoms , isn't it like a zombie. Walking with eyes openblank mind, eating with no taste , hearing all the nonsense, talking and not listening ,  seeing and bearing all the untruth and start to ask why and what for no reasons and no sense.

Namaste.

What others do ....

Sometimes  I wonder why we are so great ? Personally , of course.  When I was on the road, one vehicle came into my path and I almost accidentally clash into his car. I cursed and swear.  But , many times before, I have also change lane and caused the same problem for other drivers and I think I am right as I am rushing for my work . I can really justify it and make my actions not only seems good but a correct move.

This type of arguement has happen many times. What other people have done is wrong but if I do the same thing with my own intention or agenda , I am always right.  Is this the way, life logic works ?

We never thought about the other driver's intention or his reason for trying to move faster ahead and even for the same reason, we still feel that their actions is always wrong if it affects us in any way especially endangering our life.

With this logic, human beings are very selfish and they only think of themselves.  Once, I had an accident . One car reverse into my car and we agreed to claim insurance after making a polic report.  We were supposed to proceed to the police station.  After arriving at the police station, I could see the other car, so I proceed to submit my case to the traffic police.  After a few days, I went to buy the report and I was told by the police that the other party have reported that I have clash into his car and damage the back of his car and I have to pay a penalty for that. I was really upset and I learned that there are people who can twist the facts to achieve their end. I was asked by the inspector to pay the fine. This is the true and I have checked with a few friends and some of them concur with me on such incidents.

Everyman is for himself  and if not, the heaven will destroy and the earth will split apart. Oh ! my God.

Namaste.

The last mile

Our journey in life runs into thousands of miles. One mile for one day as the last mile comes along , it maybe too soon or too much delay.  The last mile seems coming along too fast or too slow, it becomes very precious.  It goes by the saying " too little is so much"..

If we have been flying through the miles in our life, we could not seem much of it.  Too fast to see the details but covering a long distance or traveling slow and seeing more detials in a shorter distance. This is a choice or sometimes , it is the lack of awareness to choose which is better.

By taking short stops or break, we can awake the consciousness or awareness in us and we can make better judgement and live a meaningful life. It is not matter of the miles but the steps which keep us in the present and our awareness.

Why do we keep running ? Everything is so blur and everything we eat is so tasteless. At the end of the miles, we live longer but no wiser.  All is blur and have no meaning.  No good memories which is often what is left for us to cling to.

Hopefully, it is not by the dying bed that we got to know this wisdom or coming to be aware of the last mile. What can we do by then but to live or die with regrets. Everything has to end.

The whole outside world is just an illusion but what we have in us or feel in us is real. When we try to look at things in different angles, it has a different image and it looks different . This is the real perception in the outside world. Ever changing and in illusion. The feel of an object is different each time we touch it.

What is there if we are gone ?  Nothing but the illusions continue with or without us.

Namaste.

The dying

It is such a pityful state when a person is dying of cancer in a hospital and is fed morphine every 4 hours to avoid the pain as the cancer cells eat into the bones and muscles.  For those with stomach cancer, no a single drop of water or food can be fed throgh the mouth.

Everyday, we could see the patient or the dying person fade or waste away and yet nothing can be done. The hope is only for a miracle from GOD or our creator and it is through praying. Be it Jesus for Goddess of Mercy or Budda.  This is the only hope.

There are stories of people cured by prayer even at the last stage. It is only a hope as the oncologist will tell you this is the end and you have to prepare for the ending. There is no escape.

Many a times, the people close to the dying blame themselves for not doing the best or could have done certain treatment earlier or could have spend more time with the dying. The doctor keep telling the people close to the dying whether the extension of the sick person's life for a few days or one week is better or let the dying go peacefully.  The extension of a few days could caused so much pain and suffering to the patient and could it be worth it.  Is this what we consider the best for the dying ? If it is a foregone conclusion, it is better to face the fact and let the dying go on to their next journey.

In this case, the prayer is for the dying to live longer or to go peacefully ? Won't it be better to leave to Nature to decide for the dying. If nature wants him or her to stay longer, then let it be . So, why need to disturb nature if it is a foregone conclusion.

For the doctor will advise to make the patient as comfortable as possible and let nature decide the timing of the death. Even if there is a miracle or not . We should not interfere with nature. However, some people think that we have to find a cure until the last moment.  Is this for their selfish need ? Or for these people to feel good ?

Another thing is the feeling of not spending enough time for the dying ? Why wait until the dying days to fulfill such passion. In normal time, we should do what is best , that is to spend more time with the people close to us and not to wait for the last moment to spend the time. Isn't it nonsensical ?
Such kind of feeling is disturbing and  full of confusion.

Namaste.

The ending of life

The ending of life

There is a chinese saying " the dead died straight and stiff while the living cannot live on straight". This living is very real with the living with the burden of the dead.  The dead can be gone and the living struggles to live on with the vacancy of the dead in their life and trying fill the gaps which is left behind by the dead.

Is living on is for the terminally ill ? No, I think it should also be for the living . The living is selfish wanting the dead to living on and stay behind to serve their purpose.

Their purpose is not monetary, love or cravings but the companionship and to be available when needed. Human being is a social animal and there is a need to be wanted or to want others .

When the end is near , the bond is been tested and this need to bonded creates sadness of losing someone while the dying is scare of what is beyond life.  At this moment religion becomes important as all the religions promised a place for everyone . It does not matter what is agenda or the truth. It is rather the comfort of everyone .

Ajahn Brahn says that the love should be beyond a person. Even if the person is gone , the love should stay . This is the true love for fellow human beings. There should not be sadness as the love is never gone and it exist indefinitely.

Namaste.