Competing with yourself

Competing with yourself

I met an old friend this evening  and she told me that her husband and her shall be retiring soon . I asked her what is she going to do for her next chapter in life. She told me that she don't know what she want but she will leave it open and decide later.

She told me that her husband have several offers to sit on the board of listed public companies but she is advising against accepting these jobs as the risk exposure is very great and there is no need to take risk anymore especially after retirement.

For her she may pursue some hobby like reading and cooking to pass her time.

But what I really realize is that we are competing against ourself and only want to be useful like when we are working for so many years in our life. Doing nothing is not living and it is so wasteful. Our mind set have been program this way for so many years and it is hard to change. It is really stupid thinking and unless we are doing things that we enjoy , it is not working but enjoying.
You have to get yourself right on there matters and not foolishly following your silly mindset about life.

There are people saying like retiring is like waiting to die but working foolishly is also waiting to die in a harder way.
So it is really something personal. What do you want in life? What do you really want to do? Don't follow what people are doing or going to do ? What makes you happy  ? Don't just compete with yourself or use other people's standard to measure or judge your own, There is no standard way and don't make yourself to  believe there is only one and the only way.

Most of our achievements are targets set by ourselves using other people's standard and achievements and we make ourself to compete against ourself to achieve these standards. This is a meaningless way of competing against ourselves.

Wake up and be aware of this wasteful thoughts and really seek your true needs and no illusions before time runs out.

Namaste.